You can’t do it all

November 8, 2016 in About Me / Recovery

Hi guys and happy Tuesday! How were your weekends?? Whatever you did, I hope you had fun doing it!

Jumping into today’s post on something that’s been on my mind a lot lately.

You can’t do it all.

I feel like I struggle from the “I need to do everything and help everyone and be everywhere and accomplish this and that” syndrome. I touched on this a bit last week, but I put a whole lot of pressure on myself. I’ve always been that way since I was a little girl. I had to be the best. Whether that was at school, gymnastics; or later on when I took this mentality into eating and working out; I had to succeed at everything. Failure scared the crap out of me and I would do anything to avoid it.

Last week I was super emotional. I had a lot on my mind and all the pressure I was putting on myself took a toll on me. One thing I strongly emphasize on this blog is that I am not perfect in any way, shape, or form. I’m just a 19 year old girl who is sometimes super bitchy, cranky, emotional, stressed, etc. etc. And last week I feel like I felt all of those emotions. But I like to share what I got through, because I know someone out there some place in the world will relate. Sharing our struggles and talking about our hardships doesn’t make us weak or strange, it sheds light on what many are probably silently struggling with.

So going off of that, here are some things I have been feeling lately. I feel like sometimes I could be doing more to help others- more to help my friends struggling from eating disorders or could be reaching out to them more to check in on them. I feel like I’m not giving myself enough time to just relax and be. Last week I journaled for the first time since the beginning of September, and it was the first time I made room in my schedule to just write and take some time for self-care. And something that is hard for me to talk about- I feel like I have a hard time trusting the fact that my boyfriend actually loves me. Julia’s post on allowing ourselves to be loved really resonated with me. Sure, I preach self-love and self-care, I preach balance with food and exercise, I talk a whole lot about body image and food freedom, getting enough sleep, etc. etc. etc. That doesn’t mean that I don’t feel inadequate at times. That doesn’t mean that I don’t feel like a burden in the relationship I am currently in because of my past with mental health issues. It doesn’t mean that I feel fantastic and on top of the world at all times, or never worry, or get 8+ hours of sleep a night. It doesn’t mean any of those things.

Because I do feel inadequate at times and I know for a fact that I put lots and lots of pressure on myself. I know that I expect a lot out of myself and I have gotten SO much better in those aspects, but there is always room for improvement. I know for a fact I don’t get enough sleep sometimes, sometimes journaling/praying is the furthest thing to cross my mind, and I do cry and feel weak.

I can’t do it all, I can’t be it all, and I can’t expect myself to be superwoman. And neither can any of you. 

All I can expect from myself is the best given the circumstances of the situation. As long as I am trying my best, that’s all I can do. And I know for a fact I can’t do everything and I can’t be perfect. I know it is okay to feel weak, to cry, to break down. That doesn’t make me any less of a person or any less of a blogger. It shows I am human. And I refuse to sit behind this computer screen to however many people read this blog and convince you all that I have zero struggles and my life is just rainbows and sunshine 24/7. But it isn’t, and I am grateful for that.

So this little bump in the road I had last week- this feeling that I had to do it all, all of the pressure I put on myself causing me to break down, and my emotions being scattered left and right taught me something. Each of our little struggles teach us something, that’s why we have to be grateful for them. Just like we are super thankful for the highs in our life, we have to be grateful for the lows. God has a plan, and we have to trust in that. Even if it sucks from time to time.

So what did I take from this little bump?

*Stop putting so much damn pressure on yourself to help every single person in the universe. You can only do so much. Sometimes people don’t want to be helped. Sometimes you just can’t get through to people, especially those struggling with eating disorders. You can only do so much.

*Yeah, life gets busy. But you still gotta take care of yourself. Journal. Pray. Watch Netflix. Listen to music. If you can’t do these things, it’s okay. But try and make an effort to do so.

*It’s okay to cry. You shouldn’t feel weak or embarrassed for doing so.

*I need to work on trusting others. I need to trust where I am in my relationship. I need to continue to trust that I am good enough and worthy of love.

*Sleep. Try and get some more. Or work on taking naps when you have the time.

*You don’t have to be this all-star superhero blogging girl who has no struggles whatsoever. Just because I have a blog on mental health doesn’t mean that I am not allowed to feel weak/stressed/sad/anxious.

*It’s okay to not have it together all the time. Life gets messy. That’s normal.

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All I and all you can do is your best. And that’s all we need to do.

No questions today for you guys. But thanks for reading this little ramble of mine!

Any input on this/thoughts/etc, comment below because I love hearing what y’all have to say. 🙂 

Have a happy Tuesday friends! And be sure to check out Emily’s blog for her take care of your temple Tuesday post. Glad I got to share some ways today that I am working on taking care of mine!

Have a great Tuesday guys! Love all of ya lotsssssss <3

Xoxo

Lyss <3

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24 Comments

  • Reply steph November 8, 2016 at 1:58 am

    another great post! I have known you all of your life,even before you could understand what life really is but now through your struggles you are learning about you! Such a ray of sunshine you are!

    • Reply Alyssa November 14, 2016 at 3:47 am

      thanks so much i love you!!

  • Reply Megan Hallier November 8, 2016 at 6:35 am

    Man I feel this so much. I just finished exams today and honestly instead of feeling super excited I feel exhausted. I feel completely drained in every possible way. This year has been exhausting for me.
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    • Reply Alyssa November 14, 2016 at 3:48 am

      it is such a bad feeling to be drained and exhausting, but we will both get through this!!

  • Reply Marina @ A Dancer's Live-It November 8, 2016 at 12:50 pm

    I totally understand this. Sometimes I feel like it’s my job to fix the world, but I’m only human! I’m glad you’re realizing that too! 🙂 You’re an incredible person and you ARE doing enough right now in your life!! Love you so much Lyss! <3
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    • Reply Alyssa November 14, 2016 at 3:49 am

      thank you so much babe!! <3 love you

  • Reply Heather @ Polyglot Jot November 8, 2016 at 1:13 pm

    Hope that your stress gets better this week! I am guilty of putting too much pressure on myself too. It’s important to take that step back and tell ourselves we cant do it all.
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    • Reply Alyssa November 14, 2016 at 3:50 am

      thank you Heather, I am so excited for a break from all the stress!

  • Reply Emily November 9, 2016 at 5:18 am

    Dear Dear Lyss, this is why I think we’re both learning so much about God’s grace, because God’s grace in His Son Jesus Christ is unconditional. He didn’t say that we must be enough or make ourselves good enough before He would wash us clean. He washed us clean! And it was all of such tremendous grace… I’m so thankful that you wrote this post, because this pressure is on me so much; and I put it on myself. Knowing that it’s okay to cry, it’s okay to fail, to keep running back to Jesus Christ and crying out for help is so freeing to my often weak heart.
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    • Reply Alyssa November 14, 2016 at 3:52 am

      Thank you for this reminder <3 I love you!!!

  • Reply Megan November 9, 2016 at 2:50 pm

    This is so good. I feel like I’m the exact same way – it’s so easy in college to just pile on commitments after commitments that really aren’t serving you in any way at all. You’re not alone in this!

    • Reply Alyssa November 14, 2016 at 3:53 am

      it really is and I am so guilty of that!

  • Reply Sarah November 9, 2016 at 7:00 pm

    I really relate to this. We have to remember that it’s okay to be confused and not have all the answers. It’s okay to go to bed not crossing everything off our to do lists. That is life. Just embrace the process and enjoy the journey!
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    • Reply Alyssa November 14, 2016 at 3:53 am

      It is okay to not know it all… and I struggle with that for sure. Thank you for this reminder Sarah!

  • Reply Susie @ SuzLyfe November 9, 2016 at 8:22 pm

    I got to a point where I realized “I can’t do it all” to such an extent that I froze. Now I am trying to find the balance between doing what fulfills me and meeting certain obligations, but still respecting and pushing my limits. I hope that makes sense! I am going to be working on that in therapy, for sure!
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    • Reply Alyssa November 14, 2016 at 3:54 am

      that does make sense and that is SO helpful <3 thank you for Susie!

  • Reply kat November 10, 2016 at 12:04 am

    I think that this is such an amazing post girlie. I think that a lot of women have the “have to do it all mentality’ especially those who are mothers! I think one of the bravest things that we can do is to realize that we CANT do it all and that sometimes its ok to ask for a helping hand 🙂
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    • Reply Alyssa November 14, 2016 at 3:55 am

      I agree that we as women struggle with this mentality for sure. Asking for help is totally okay!

  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law November 10, 2016 at 4:01 am

    This is something I am ALWAYS reminding myself of! I’m a people pleaser and a perfectionist and that means I somehow believe I should be super woman and keep 6 thousands balls in the air at one time.

    THANK YOU for posting this! <3
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    • Reply Alyssa November 14, 2016 at 3:56 am

      gosh I am such a people pleaser as well… I need to work on that! Thank you for your support Kristy!

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  • Reply Liv @ Healthy Liv November 14, 2016 at 2:50 am

    I don’t think I really experienced this feeling too much in high school since my options of things to do were more finite, but I’ve had this struggle a lot in college! There are infinite things to be involved with, people to spend time with, assignments to work on, etc. and it does sometimes get hard to balance those with taking good care of myself, getting enough sleep, etc. College really is a balancing act…but I think this may honestly be how life is! I think prioritizing my activities and how I spend my time has been helpful, plus just letting go of the need to “do it all” all of the time.
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    • Reply Alyssa November 14, 2016 at 3:56 am

      balancing it all is so challenging. I feel like there isn’t enough time! Letting go of the need to do it all definitely is helpful though!

  • Reply Betty November 28, 2016 at 2:55 pm

    Thanks for your post.
    Now I know how you life is and how pressure that you have in your life. Me too in the same way, I have many obstacles and stress but I did tried to overcome. 🙂
    Bravo!

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