What’s serving you?

July 13, 2016 in Recovery

What’s serving you right now? Take a step back and look at all aspects of your life. Is there something that you aren’t too pleased with? Maybe your having a hard time turning off those voices in your head that always tell you that you aren’t good enough. Think: those voices are not serving you in any positive way whatsoever. Look at other parts of your life, is there anything that is positively serving you? Anything that is helping you to grow?

Straying away from a foodie post today, because I got way more on my mind lately than taking a picture of my lunch for Instagram. In fact, I put myself first and unfollowed some accounts who were no longer serving me any more on Instagram. I always feel so so bad doing that, but we need to put ourselves first. And at this moment in my life, hearing about someone’s 5:30 am leg day and what macros they’re going to eat isn’t going to help me grow into the best Lyss I can be. That isn’t positively serving me right now. That isn’t helping me to better myself. And that does not match the beliefs I have associated with food and exercise freedom- at all. 

So what do I mean about this whole serving thing crap. No, I’m not talkin’ bout’ serving sizes- because we all know those are so silly. I’m talking about the fact that every thing in our life in the here or now is serving us in some way: that way may be positive, that way may also be negative, or maybe it’s just completely neutral to our well-being; like the fact that my dog pooped in the house today and my mom cleaned it up. Looking back on past hardships; for example- my eating disorder; my eating disorder was negatively serving me in my life at that time. It did not bring me any progress or happiness. It simply brought me tears and a new hatred toward myself and food. But now I can say that my eating disorder did serve me in a somewhat positive way in my life: it made me stronger, it lead me down the career path I want to pursue, it allowed me to have a passion for writing and blogging and meeting all of you wonderful souls through the Internet.

We have to discern what is positively and negatively serving us in our lives on a daily basis. Is negative self-talk positively serving us? No. So we need to cut that out as best as we can. We need to put ourselves first. Talking poorly about ourselves is not going to help us grow. It is not serving us in any good way. So we have to take a step back and learn how to stop that behavior. Focusing on the things that make our soul flourish and serve us the best is essential to our well-being. For me that is this blog, yoga, my relationships with family and friends and God, being outside and surrounded with nature, etc. All of those things are serving me in an incredibly positive way right now, and keeping them in my life is so good for me.

When relationships are toxic and not serving us like they should be, it’s okay to end them. When we are not happy living in a way that is harmful to us anymore and we are tired of letting our minds win that battle at the dinner table every single day, it doesn’t make us weak to throw in the towel and make a change because those behaviors are negatively serving us. Restricting, purging, bingeing, over-exercising- of course they will provide instant gratification for the sick side of our minds, but what will come after that? They are not going to positively serve us in any way, in any shape, or in any form. So we do not have to engage in them, we can engage in acts of self-love daily instead. Because as we all know: self-love isn’t selfish nor is self-care. Both things are essential. 

Whatever is serving you: make sure it is helping you grow. Helping you flourish. Helping you thrive. Make sure it is positive. That it is helping you to be the happiest version of yourself you can be.

Thank you for listening to my rambles today, as this weekend got me thinkin’ about lots of things I want to share! 🙂

Now tell me: 

What in your life do you feel is positively serving you right now? 

Have a great day guys!

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25 Comments

  • Reply Marina @ A Dancer's Live-It July 13, 2016 at 12:53 pm

    Love love love this babe!! I did the same thing on Instagram and Facebook too, especially fitspo people. Not to be sappy or cheesy, but YOU are serving me positively right now!! 🙂 Your friendship and your wisdom give me so much hope and life and I’m so blessed to have been able to connect with you and get to know you through blogging. You motivate and inspire me on the daily! Have a wonderful Wednesday beautiful <3 xoxo

    • Reply Alyssa July 13, 2016 at 12:59 pm

      oh my goodness you are the best and sweetest Marina, that truly made my morning. I am so thankful for you!! You motivate me and inspire me daily love!! Can’t wait to meet up with you soon in Boston 🙂 Have a lovely day girl!! <3

  • Reply kat July 13, 2016 at 1:14 pm

    100% agree with everything you’ve said in your post. I think I’m due for some instagram deletes as well. There are some people on there that I just have no business following, whether it be because its a trigger for my ED or because I don’t really believe in the things they post. I try to follow people who motivate, teach or simply exude joy!

    • Reply Alyssa July 13, 2016 at 3:01 pm

      I think it’s good we go through every once in a while to make sure we are following people that will positively serve us! Nothing against those that don’t, but we all gotta make sure we are putting ourselves first 🙂

  • Reply Emily July 13, 2016 at 2:55 pm

    I 100% agre with you too Lyss, and I had to shave down who I followed on Instagram, not because of any personal dislike, but just because they weren’t as edifying or building up to me in the spiritual walk every day. Lyss, you constantly teach me everyday, and I’m so thankful for you.

    • Reply Alyssa July 13, 2016 at 4:11 pm

      I am proud of you for doing that ’em! I think that it a wonderful step to make sure social media is serving you in a positive way 🙂 I am blessed for YOU too love. xoxo

  • Reply Claire @ My Pink & Green Life July 13, 2016 at 7:30 pm

    Unfollowing people on Instagram is hard, especially when you really want them to succeed and overcome. I have been there! Kudos to you for prioritizing YOUR health! 🙂

    Having an internship that I love is serving me right now! I love being able to get up and look forward to another busy day in the office–this is one of my first jobs that I’ve actually liked, and it makes such a difference in my quality of life.

    • Reply Alyssa July 15, 2016 at 1:25 am

      It is tough because we always feel bad doing it! I am so happy you like your internship. Liking your work makes it seem like it isn’t even work which is so awesome!

  • Reply Ellie July 14, 2016 at 12:28 am

    You have such a pretty smile 🙂 I definitely have gone through my Instagram and deleted those accounts that were not serving me or making me smile. I do that on Facebook too, high school classmates or people I haven’t talked to in years. It feels good to get rid of the old things that keep us stuck.

    • Reply Alyssa July 15, 2016 at 1:26 am

      Aw Ellie thank you! I am glad you did that with instagram as well. It can be so beneficial for our well-being!

  • Reply Sarah Barnitt July 14, 2016 at 12:39 am

    I TOTALLY resonated with this, lyss. Right now, Yoga, my friends, and my job are serving me. But some things (definitely some of my habits surrounding social media, as well as some ED behaviors that are SO HARD to break), are just making my life more TOXIC and not helping me grow. Thank you for this beautiful reminder. Love you long time.

    • Reply Alyssa July 15, 2016 at 1:27 am

      All of those things sound wonderful! I am so supportive of you eliminating all the toxic things in your life so you can grow and beat this eating disorder. Love YOU! <3

  • Reply Kate July 14, 2016 at 1:20 pm

    This is such a great message- a simply question of does this serve me positively or negatively? I’ve opted not to follow Instagrams or read blogs because they just don’t make me feel great! We have to make the best decision for ourselves. You’re so wise!

    • Reply Alyssa July 15, 2016 at 1:29 am

      Thank you for your sweet words 🙂 truly do appreciate them! I need to do a little clean out of who I’m following on bloglovin/other social medias as well.

  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law July 14, 2016 at 8:29 pm

    You are so so right about this! I think we need to take a look at who we surround ourselves with and who influences us and really look at whether they’re influencing us in a positive or negative way.

    It’s like when you see a good teenager who falls in with a bad crowd – monkey see, monkey do and they end up doing exactly what their “friends” are doing in an effort to fit in.

    As humans, we have this ridiculous desire to belong and be loved and often times that leads us into trouble as we try to “fit in” with the wrong influencers for us.

    • Reply Alyssa July 15, 2016 at 1:55 am

      Yes- that is such a great comparison Kristy and a great point! We really do have this huge desire to fit in. And like you said, that definitely leads us to associate with the wrong influencers!

  • Reply Cayanne Marcus @healthyezsweet July 14, 2016 at 9:46 pm

    So proud of you for going with your gut and deleting toxic IG follows..it’s tough and it used to make me feel badly too, but at the end of the day that person has more to worry about than my follow. And more to do than dwell on it! Right now, my sense of flexibility is serving me. I’m working hard on going with the flow and trusting the process.

    • Reply Alyssa July 15, 2016 at 1:57 am

      Thank you so much Cayanne! And that is so true about the IG unfollows. I’m so happy you are going with the flow. Life is so much easier and less stressful that way. Definitely something that I think each person can work on!

  • Reply Catherine @ A Cup of Catherine July 14, 2016 at 11:23 pm

    I LOVE this so much, Lyss. You are so right that it’s OK – great, even – to rid ourselves of the things that are bringing us down rather than serving us well. I’ve deleted some not-so-encouraging IG accounts, too, and it’s refreshing to surround yourself with POSITIVE people.

    • Reply Alyssa July 15, 2016 at 1:58 am

      Thank you so much Catherine for your kind words!! It is such a breath of fresh air to put yourself in the presence of others who are positive. I truly feel so much more happier when I’m around those kinds of people!

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  • Reply Cora July 16, 2016 at 6:06 pm

    Beautiful, Lyss. Not much more to say that hasn’t been said.. but this needs to be a daily reminder for us all. We truly can live a much more peaceful life if we just ask ourselves this simple question every day – “how is this serving me?” Thank you for sharing your beautiful words and wisdom and deliverance of self care. Much much <3

    • Reply Alyssa July 18, 2016 at 2:38 am

      Thank you so much Cora <3 I totally agree that we need to ask ourselves that question daily! Thank you for reading love!

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