What’s serving you right now? Take a step back and look at all aspects of your life. Is there something that you aren’t too pleased with? Maybe your having a hard time turning off those voices in your head that always tell you that you aren’t good enough. Think: those voices are not serving you in any positive way whatsoever. Look at other parts of your life, is there anything that is positively serving you? Anything that is helping you to grow?
Straying away from a foodie post today, because I got way more on my mind lately than taking a picture of my lunch for Instagram. In fact, I put myself first and unfollowed some accounts who were no longer serving me any more on Instagram. I always feel so so bad doing that, but we need to put ourselves first. And at this moment in my life, hearing about someone’s 5:30 am leg day and what macros they’re going to eat isn’t going to help me grow into the best Lyss I can be. That isn’t positively serving me right now. That isn’t helping me to better myself. And that does not match the beliefs I have associated with food and exercise freedom- at all.
So what do I mean about this whole serving thing crap. No, I’m not talkin’ bout’ serving sizes- because we all know those are so silly. I’m talking about the fact that every thing in our life in the here or now is serving us in some way: that way may be positive, that way may also be negative, or maybe it’s just completely neutral to our well-being; like the fact that my dog pooped in the house today and my mom cleaned it up. Looking back on past hardships; for example- my eating disorder; my eating disorder was negatively serving me in my life at that time. It did not bring me any progress or happiness. It simply brought me tears and a new hatred toward myself and food. But now I can say that my eating disorder did serve me in a somewhat positive way in my life: it made me stronger, it lead me down the career path I want to pursue, it allowed me to have a passion for writing and blogging and meeting all of you wonderful souls through the Internet.
We have to discern what is positively and negatively serving us in our lives on a daily basis. Is negative self-talk positively serving us? No. So we need to cut that out as best as we can. We need to put ourselves first. Talking poorly about ourselves is not going to help us grow. It is not serving us in any good way. So we have to take a step back and learn how to stop that behavior. Focusing on the things that make our soul flourish and serve us the best is essential to our well-being. For me that is this blog, yoga, my relationships with family and friends and God, being outside and surrounded with nature, etc. All of those things are serving me in an incredibly positive way right now, and keeping them in my life is so good for me.
When relationships are toxic and not serving us like they should be, it’s okay to end them. When we are not happy living in a way that is harmful to us anymore and we are tired of letting our minds win that battle at the dinner table every single day, it doesn’t make us weak to throw in the towel and make a change because those behaviors are negatively serving us. Restricting, purging, bingeing, over-exercising- of course they will provide instant gratification for the sick side of our minds, but what will come after that? They are not going to positively serve us in any way, in any shape, or in any form. So we do not have to engage in them, we can engage in acts of self-love daily instead. Because as we all know: self-love isn’t selfish nor is self-care. Both things are essential.
Whatever is serving you: make sure it is helping you grow. Helping you flourish. Helping you thrive. Make sure it is positive. That it is helping you to be the happiest version of yourself you can be.
Thank you for listening to my rambles today, as this weekend got me thinkin’ about lots of things I want to share! 🙂
Now tell me:
What in your life do you feel is positively serving you right now?
Have a great day guys!
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