Hi guys and happy Thursday! Leaving today for the long weekend and I’m super excited to be home with my fam and my pup eating good food, showering without flip flops, and reuniting some of my friends I haven’t seen since summer. This weekend is going to be a good one. 🙂
Linking up with Amanda today for a Thinking out Loud post, so let’s get started because no one likes intro’s anyways. 😛
Instagram and I have a love-hate relationship. I love posting pictures with my friends and I love spreading body love and body positivity. I love seeing what others are up to, what others are cooking or what others are doing. I feel inspired when I see certain posts that are so raw and authentic: the unedited photos that show us that we are beautiful at any angle and without any touch-ups. Those are the things that keep me from deleting the Instagram app from my phone.
But what I have not been liking is this competition I feel like Instagram brings. “How many likes can I get on this photo…. she got more likes than me, it’s probably because I didn’t look that great in that picture.” It becomes a contest of who can get the most likes and who has more followers. It becomes another thing that can pick and pull at our self-esteem.
The competition that Instagram brings is one aspect that I certainly don’t like. But my main problem is the fact that an Instagram picture only shows the smallest portion of our lives. We know that an Instagram picture is just from that one moment, yet we forget to remember that it could have taken 10 shots to get the angle that everyone felt they looked the best in, the photo could be extremely edited, and the people smiling in that picture could in fact be miserable.We continue to compare ourselves and we continue to scrutinize our bodies if we aren’t as skinny or as tone as the girl who posted an Instagram that got 200 likes and 20 comments telling her how pretty she is.
The amount of effort that goes into an Instagram photo is crazy. The amount of apps that are available to edit a photo; whether that may be making us look smaller, touching up zits, or making certain parts of our bodies (butts, boobs) look bigger is insane. It is taking away from what a photo should actually be: an accurate representation of what was going on at that time. The unfiltered version, the picture where our flaws might be visible but we are able to look at that photo and have all those memories flood back. We shouldn’t be drawn to how we look when we first see a photo, yet Instagram makes it pretty freaking hard to not be.
Attract what you expect, reflect what you desire, become what you respect, mirror what you admire.”
We think that the girl who has tons of Instagram followers and appears to have a perfect life does actually have a perfect life, but chances are; she doesn’t. She could be struggling with so much, but an Instagram photo isn’t going to tell us that. All Instagram does is show us the highs. We never see the lows. Because no one wants to talk about those. The lows can be ugly and just flat-out sad. So we rarely post about them and as a society, we rarely talk about the hard stuff. Instagram has the ability to make us forget that other people have lows. We tend to compare our lives to the lives of those on Instagram and are so easily able to find faults and flaws within our lives.
Instagram does carry the ability to spread goodness, and I do see a revolution on Instagram promoting body positivity, self-love, and people having the courage to open up about their hardships and struggles. I hope that my Instagram is spreading goodness and giving hope to those struggling, and I hope that I am doing a good job in practicing what I preach. I don’t think it is wrong to use filters on Instagram- heck, I do it. I love VSCO cam and seeing the different effects. What I think we need to work on is realizing that an Instagram photo does not capture the whole picture. We need to end these comparisons that Instagram creates- whether that is comparing our bodies to someone else, comparing the amount of followers we have, or comparing what we eat/how “healthy” we eat to someone else. And the more this body positive revolution is taking off, the more I think we will be able to do that. Vulnerability is scary, yet vulnerability heals. Posting an unedited photo or a photo where we may not look super lean carries SO much more power than posting a typical selfie with a snap-chat filter. It reaches more people and has the ability to inspire whoever may be scrolling through Instagram that day. These pictures are the ones that are the most beautiful. They symbolize strength and fearlessness. They show us that it is possible to love ourselves in a world where dissatisfaction with our bodies is the norm. They show others that beauty doesn’t come in the form of edits and filters, it is something that each and every one of us have. Each one of us carries inner and outer beauty.
“Be a seeker, Find beauty in the smallest moments and live inspired.”
That’s it for my little word-vomit today. I just wrote a paper on the media and its affects on body image which definitely inspired today’s post. I loved learning more about how much the media truly does affect body image and I’m so glad I got to write on a topic that is meaningful to me!
I hope you all have a wonderful Thursday!! Thank you all for reading and the support you give me daily. So grateful for you alllll!! <3
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