Twenty!

December 1, 2016 in About Me / Recovery

Happy Thursday friends. Another week down and it’s December. Like whaaaaat. That’s just crazy!

AND I’m writing my first post as a 20 year old and not a teenager which is pretty cool too. My birthday was Tuesday and I turned 20!

It’s weird for me to say I’m not a teenager anymore, and it made me pretty freakin’ emotional Monday night thinking about it. My worst years were when I was a teenager and god those years were not easy. If you follow my Blissful Lyss Facebook page, you probably saw I posted a picture with my best friend with this caption:

“->My worst and hardest years were spent as a teenager.
->When I was 13, I first understood calories and began having negative thoughts about myself; but nothing drastic resulted from that.
->I remember my 14th birthday spent working my ass off in a gym with tons of other gymnasts and feeling fat and inadequate. Looking at myself in a leotard brought me discomfort.
->On my 15th birthday I was at my lowest weight. I lost 20 pounds in the course of 3 months. And my birthday dinner was 3 vegetable wontons and vegetables. No cake of course. I hated myself for even picking up the fork.
->My 16th birthday was by far the worst. I had crackers for dinner and sat by myself in my room that night. All I could focus on was how disgusting I felt. There was no fun to be had when you felt like shit about yourself 24/7. And there definitely wasn’t any cake.
-> On my 17th birthday I had my first piece of cake in 3 years. It led to me crying in my bedroom later that night, but I did it and I took that step.
-> My 18th and 19th birthdays were great. My teenage years were hard, but my struggles helped me grow.”

My teenage years were hard. Really hard. But I got through them and I survived when I didn’t think I would at some periods in my life. And my teenage years taught me a lot, so I wanted to share some of those things with y’all today.

  1. Plain spinach SUCKS. Don’t just eat plain spinach because you’re going to want to poke your eyes out while doing so.
  2. There’s only 24 hours in a day. Why waste any of those hours counting calories? That’s just stupid. Don’t do that.
  3. It’s okay to feel full, really. It’ll pass. Fullness is a normal feeling and it doesn’t mean you did anything wrong.
  4. Eating healthy doesn’t make you more superior to the chick sitting next to you in class, so get off your high horse if you think munching away on your unsalted rice cake with almond butter makes you better than anyone else. Food and morality have no connection whatsoever.
  5. Working out 2/3 times a day is way too much.
  6. Doing cardio all the time gets boring. Do something else. Working out should be FUN.
  7. Your self-worth doesn’t fall in the hands of others. How you feel about yourself comes from within.
  8. Keep trying new things until you find what you love. Learn how to knit, bake, read, write, blog, do yoga, swim, go on a hike. Find what you’re passionate about and once you do, keep pursuing that passion.
  9. Bloated bellies don’t last forever, but memories do.
  10. It’s okay to have to take a pill to make you happier. There’s nothing wrong with antidepressants.
  11. Don’t spend time with people who make you feel inadequate. Spend time with people who make your heart full and smile from ear to ear.
  12. Eating disorder treatment is really freaking hard and you’re going to want to give up. But don’t- don’t give up. Because recovery from an eating disorder is the most beautiful thing. You learn how to truly live again.
  13. Great people come into your life when you least expect it. Don’t search for greatness, it may just be right in front of you and you just haven’t realized it yet.
  14. Don’t forget to take deep breaths. Breathe when times are stressful. Breathe when your anxious. Deep breaths help. A LOT.
  15. Eating cake on your birthday guilt free is the best feeling in the world. Every person needs a slice of cake on their birthday.
  16. God is so good. He gives us so much strength, and we have him to thank for so much.
  17. Whole Foods is amazing and worth every penny.
  18. Coffee saves lives. I’m a firm believer in that.
  19. Family is there through it all. Through the good and the bad, they will always have your back.
  20. The bumps in the road are what makes us stronger. We can’t have the highs without the lows in life. And we learn SO much from those lows.

Thank you guys for reading all of these!

Now tell me:

What’s one big thing you learned in life so far? 

Do you have any birthday traditions? 

Hope you all have a great Thursday!! So much love and sending HUGE hugs <3

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12 Comments

  • Reply Steph December 1, 2016 at 3:49 am

    There were a lot of bumps on that path in your teen years, whoa baby! But you withstood them all!
    God bless you Alyssa and may your twenties be an adventure filled with ups and downs, twists and turns, highs and lows and god only no’s what. But you go it sweetie

  • Reply Kate December 1, 2016 at 11:41 am

    A good portion of my teenage years were hell as well. Sometimes I go back and read the things I wrote during that time and my heart just breaks. I was so isolated and alone! My happiness in my teenage years can be related back to family, God, and antidepressants as well.
    You are an incredibly strong lady with a beautiful story to tell. I’m so thankful you chose recovery and can don’t have to have another decade of life that you look back on that way. <3 <3
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  • Reply Neensmcg December 1, 2016 at 12:37 pm

    Happy Birthday!!!!

  • Reply Marina @ A Dancer's Live-It December 1, 2016 at 12:55 pm

    I’m SO HAPPY I got to talk to you on Tuesday!! I love all of these things and it’s incredible how far you’ve come. <3 #4 and #20 could not be more true…I love youuuuuu!!!! Cheers to you and your next decade of life! 🙂
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  • Reply Heather @ Polyglot Jot December 1, 2016 at 12:57 pm

    Happy birthday!!! 😀 So glad you were able to enjoy this year and look back on how you’ve grown and changed. I know this year will be fabulous for you!
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  • Reply Cayanne Marcus @healthyezsweet December 1, 2016 at 4:51 pm

    I love your birthday wisdom beautiful. Especially how bloated bellies don’t last forever but memories do. HELL YES <3
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  • Reply Megan Hallier December 1, 2016 at 9:22 pm

    I glad you had a great birthday. How freaky is it to be an adult now? For us you really become an adult when you turn 18 because that’s when you are allowed to vote/drink/get married.
    I love that post you wrote in Facebook. It is amazing to see how much you have grown and learnt over the years. Keep on chasing those dreams and making this world better!
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  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law December 1, 2016 at 10:02 pm

    I feel like your twenties is going to be such an exciting, rewarding and memory filled season for you! I am SO excited to see where life takes you, sweet girl! <3
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  • Reply Emily December 1, 2016 at 11:26 pm

    AMEN SISTER. Memories last so much longer than bloated bellies. Thinking about that especially as my stomach is not feeling so hot right now.

    And I am so super grateful that you are alive and that God brought a wonderful sister like you into the lives of many.
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  • Reply Melanie December 2, 2016 at 3:08 am

    Ahh Happy Birthday Alyssa!!!! Turning 20 is so exciting! 🙂 I love your Facebook post <3

  • Reply Elaine @ FoodParsed December 2, 2016 at 6:14 pm

    Happy birthday, Alyssa! I really love #3 and #4. One huge thing I’ve been learning is that I don’t have to be perfect, and I shouldn’t expect myself to be perfect in managing what I eat, how much I work, how much I exercise, etc.
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  • Reply Betty December 3, 2016 at 10:23 am

    Happy lated birthday!
    I like the way you share all the things you have done and what you have changed and grownup. Hope you have a great next year and all your wishes become true. Have a great weekend!

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