Hi guys and happy Thursday! Going to be sharing some thoughts today as it is Thursday. Thank you Amanda for letting me share what’s on my mind today and the link up!
Don’t label me as “healthy.”
*Everyone in the USA turns head with confusion and disbelief.*
Yeah, I don’t want to be labeled as the “healthy girl.” In a society that is health and fitness oriented, this is probably a huge shocker to some. But I don’t want to be labeled by the food I eat or the exercise I do. Because there is far more to me as a person than that. All of that is just the small stuff, all of that doesn’t define who I truly am.
I get annoyed sometimes when people label me as this. “Ahh you’re so healthy!” As I just get my salad with chickpeas and feta cheese and veggies and dressing and nuts. “You have so many healthy and organic snack choices! I need to start eating those kind of snacks too.” As I grab my Wild Friends peanut butter and apple. “Omg… the self-control you have! I wish I was as healthy and good as you!” As I say no to a piece of chocolate.
Quite frankly, those comments annoy me just as much as the “I can’t believe you ate all of that!” ones or the “Wow, you must’ve been really hungry!” type of remarks. All of these comments are uncalled for. I don’t see a need to comment on what/how much someone is eating. Because in my book, food isn’t that big of a deal. It isn’t a priority. When I’m out to lunch with a friend, the food comes as the second most important thing. The time spent with my friend comes as the first.
During the depths of my eating disorder, I had this desire to be labeled as the “healthy-nut, fitness-guru, clean-eating girl.” This is what I wanted to be known as: this label was the most important thing to me. When people complimented me on my food choices and the control I had, I experienced a sort of high. I was maintaining this label, I was doing something right. During the depths of my eating disorder, I also felt like I had absolutely nothing besides this label. I had absolutely nothing besides the identity of being the extremely thin, clean-eating, fitness obsessed girl. I was known as the girl who was so knowledgable about nutrition and what to eat and what not to eat. And that’s all I felt like I had. This label. This label as “healthy” in reality brought me nothing but unhappiness. This label as “healthy” brought me nothing but loneliness, it brought me nothing but a strained relationship with food. It brought me into a life controlled by food and exercise, and with this label: I lost the true Alyssa. I lost myself.
“Calorie counting is not the catalyst to happiness.”
“Today, I will not count calories. I will not eat numbers. I will eat food that will nurture my body and help it grow and thrive. I will not feel guilty. I will smile because I am alive another day in this beautiful world and because I am one step closer to being healthy and happy.”
So yeah, I do get annoyed when people label me or think of me as “healthy” now just because I may get a salad one day or just because I say no to some chocolates one time. You don’t see everything behind the scenes- you don’t see me eating my freaking eating my cheddar bunnies at 10 p.m. I don’t want this label, I would MUCH rather have the label as being balanced. Of course it is important to eat your fruits and veggies and all that, but it is just as important to eat your chocolate and your ice cream. I eat “healthy” food, that is a fact. I love Quest Bars, greek yogurt, fruits, veggies, salads, veggie burgers, almond milk, almond butter, sweet potatoes. I genuinely enjoy the taste of all those foods. But you know what? I also love ice cream, peanut butter cups, chocolate chip cookies, dark chocolate covered almonds, frozen yogurt with lots of toppings, all that good stuff. And I eat all that stuff too. Because that is what is considered “healthy” for me now- including a wide variety of foods, not letting food control your life, not being consumed by calories and letting yourself eat what you truly crave. And for a lot of people, so many foods are off limits. People won’t let themselves eat certain things, people won’t let themselves eat cookies or chips or red meat or whatever they deem to be “unhealthy” for them. But in my eyes, “healthy” is defined as a diet where no foods are off limits. But so, so many people’s definition of “healthy” is the first one, and that’s why I don’t want to be labeled as that; that’s why I don’t want that identity. I want to be labeled by my personality, by my characteristics. That is what is most important to me now. Label me as Alyssa, the girl that loves to smile, the girl that loves to laugh, the girl that is kind and loves to help others. Label me as Alyssa, the girl that is reserved but also super silly and outgoing, the girl that is empathetic, the girl that is always willing to be there for someone. Label me as those things, remember me by that, not as simply the “healthy girl.”
“I eat a little of everything. I hear that’s pretty unpopular these days.” -> My motto. Amen to that.
No questions today, but I would love to hear your thoughts on this post! Thank you so much for reading. 🙂
Hope you guys have a great day!
Sending my love as always.
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