Thinking out Loud 1/14/16

January 14, 2016 in Recovery

Hi guys and happy Thursday. One more day till Friday and only 3 more days till I move back into school. Crazy how fast this winter break flew (even though I did have a full month off hehe). Going to fully enjoy these last few days before heading back. I am excited to get into the swing of things and see my friends again!

As always, a huge thanks to Amanda for letting me think out loud on this Thursday and for the link up!

This Thursday, we are going to be talking about something that has been on my mind lately. This quote pretty much sums it all up.

“Focus on what you want your life to look like NOT just your body.”


I love this quote. I say it so many times. I say it to people struggling. I say it to myself. Because it is so important, it is such an important motto to live by. We get caught up in the little stuff, we get so fixated on looks and maybe we have some love handles or we have a roll on our stomach but you know what? That is normal. That is part of being human. We have imperfections. Heck, I have plenty. And each and every individual out there has some. But it’s time to stop focusing on them, because when you are just focused on your body, you are missing out on SO much else out there in life. Trust me, I know. I was focused on just how my body looked for far too long. I lost myself in this, I lost some great memories I could have created, I lost what I wanted my life to look like. I lost what true happiness meant, I lost genuine smiles and pure laughter when all I cared about was looks. And to me, having a six pack isn’t worth all of that; having a perfectly lean figure and no fat on your body is not worth that in the slightest for me. 

You see, when you are just focused on what your body looks like, you become your own worst critic. You become victim to body checking in the mirror every single day. You become victim to obsessively weighing yourself and making sure that number on the scale doesn’t change because God forbid maybe one day your a few pounds heavier: that would be the end of the world for you. These fixations on how you look detract you from so many other important things in life. How are you suppose to focus on what actually makes you happy when all you care about is how you look, when your sole focus is whether or not your stomach looks leaner today?? How are you supposed to be happy when your brain is filled with negative thoughts surrounding your body and your sole mission in life is to keep that lean, small figure with that tiny stomach and those six packs peaking out? How are you supposed to find joy in life?

I know I couldn’t find what made me truly happy when I was stuck in the trap of being fixated on my looks. As a society in general, we are far too fixated on how we look. Just the other day in the gym, I heard two girls talking about how they wish the fat in their stomach would go to their butt and that they want to make some changes to their bodies in 2016 and wow, my heart just broke for them. Hearing people talk poorly about themselves tears me up inside because a few years ago I was that girl in the gym talking like that and I was that girl wanting to make changes to her body because that’s all I cared about-how I looked. And by only caring about how I looked I thought my life would magnificently improve and I would feel amazing 100% of the time but boy was I wrong. I lost important relationships and I lost true happiness because all I could give a shit about was whether or not my bones were sticking out and I had a six pack. That is NOT Living. Please, please, please believe me when I say that. Stop focusing on just what your body looks like, there is a whole life OUTSIDE of that. There is a life outside of how you look and that life is complete with genuine smiles, laughter, and inner peace. 

Focus on what you want your life to look like, focus on your goals and your aspirations and don’t give a damn if you have that little roll on your tummy because THAT is normal and so many people have that roll on their tummy. Every person out there has little imperfections that make them who they are and THEY ARE STILL HAPPY REGARDLESS. Set goals for yourselves and do things that only make you happy and that bring you joy and stop caring about every little flaw you think you make have and instead accept them and embrace them because they are what makes you beautiful. Stop with the body fixations and the negative self talk because life is too short for that, life is too short to only care about looks-there is a whole life outside of that, and I believe a life where we accept ourselves and bodies and focus on things besides looks is in fact a beautiful, happier, and more peaceful life.

“So your thighs jiggle. So what? So you don’t have abs. So what? So your arms are flabby. So what? Does that make you any less of a sister, a best friend, a mother, a brother, a role model, a teacher or an athlete? Does that make you any less intelligent, funny, clever, interesting, wise, courageous, strong, outgoing or fun? No. If you suddenly get abs, or slim thighs, is your life going to improve significantly? Probably not. Don’t base your self-worth off of your aesthetics. Your body is the cover, not the whole story.”

Remember this quote, write it down in your notes on your phone, write it down on a sticky note and place it on your mirror. Repeat it to yourself over and over again. Your body is the cover and NOT the whole story. Stop basing your self-worth on how you look, stop allowing how you look to be the main focus of your life because when you stop that, you will see that you are capable of such amazing and incredible things. Focus on what you want your life to look like and STOP focusing on just how your body looks.

Now tell me,

Do you struggle with this? 

Also, do you have positive affirmations written on your mirror or quotes saved on your phone?

Would love to hear some feedback on this post and your thoughts!

Thank you for reading guys, have an amazing day!


Lyss <3

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  • Reply Jillian January 14, 2016 at 5:28 pm

    I freaking love this and YOU!

    • Reply Alyssa January 14, 2016 at 5:45 pm

      thank you so much for reading, love YOU<3

  • Reply stephane January 14, 2016 at 7:01 pm

    I love your quote your body is the cover not the whole story. Thanks for such a profound post!

    • Reply Alyssa January 14, 2016 at 7:05 pm

      thanks for reading!! 🙂

  • Reply Ellie January 15, 2016 at 1:43 am

    YES YES YES! I just copied that quote for myself. I have not been as body conscious lately but it has come up before and will again. Especially after a bad training run or race, I wonder if I had a better body composition I would be faster. But you know what? It probably wouldn’t. Runners come in all shapes and sizes including mine. I am happy, healthy and love myself. That is all that matters. I tell myself I am beautifully made my God and perfect from him. It isn’t a cure-all but it helps.

    • Reply Alyssa January 15, 2016 at 2:31 am

      So glad you liked this quote too!! So happy that you’re learning to love yourself and recognizing that YOU are beautiful. You deserve complete and total love from yourself! Thanks so much for reading Ellie and I hope you had a great day! Xoxo

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