Hi guys and happy Tuesday! So excited for another post for this series with my lovely friend Emily and to keep showing you all how important and vital it really is to take care of your body; as our bodies are temples! Taking care of your body means providing an endless amount of love for yourself, fueling yourself with feel good food and food that makes your soul thrive, moving in a way that makes you smile, and fitting in that self-care time even in the busiest seasons of our lives.
Today we’re talking about body checking. You know- staring in the mirror and looking at yourself at different angles. Standing in front of that mirror longer than you should and spending way too much freaking time analyzing yourself. I know every person’s done it- I for sure have. And I went through phases were my body checking was out of control. It was an obsession and an addiction, one that was certainly hard to break.
What was body checking like for me?
-Standing in front of the mirror. First with my shirt down. Looking at myself at every single angle. Criticizing myself at every single angle.
-Pulling up my shirt in front of the mirror to look at my stomach. Grabbing my stomach and the fat I had on it with disgust.
-Checking my body in the mirror 20 minutes later to see if I looked more bloated and larger.
-Weighing myself multiple times throughout the day to make sure the number didn’t change at all.
-Changing my outfits different times to find one that I felt I looked the best in.
Body checking was a hit on my self-esteem. Every single time I looked in front of that mirror or stepped on the scale, I was bound to feel awful about myself. No positive words were ever said in front of that mirror. It was always how I could do more to look better and how I wasn’t pretty enough or good enough. It was an exhausting and draining cycle that I felt trapped in.
How did I stop body checking?
To be honest, it was such a hard cycle for me to break. I really believe the whole body image thing comes last in recovery. Feeling good about yourself in a world that always tells you that you can do more and you can be better is just tough. Here are some ways I quit the abusive cycle of body checking:
*Get rid of your scale. Throw it out, smash it. I don’t care what you do with it- just get rid of it. The temptation of having a scale there is enough to just draw you back in. Getting rid of it was like taking a huge weight off my chest.
*Wear loose clothing on days your more bloated. This helped me tremendously. Being comfy and not having something tight around my stomach helped me to resist the urge to body check.
*Realize how you feel after you engage in these body-checking behaviors. You don’t feel good about yourself and you just wasted a chunk of time engaging in negative self-talk when you could’ve been doing something kind for yourself. Remind yourself this every time you want to stand in front of that mirror or get on the scale.
*Recognize the anxiety that you feel when you begin to stop body checking. Find ways to cope with that anxiety- listen to music, hang out with a friend, do a craft. Basically anything to get your mind off the situation or any positive distraction you can find.
*At least once a day, stand in front of the mirror and say something that you love about yourself. It could be as small as the color of your eyes or the way your hair looked today.
*Remember: your body is something that you shouldn’t be afraid to look at. Accept it for what it is. Accepting your body shape and realizing that you don’t have to change it is a huge step in the right direction.
*Remember: it is okay to look in the mirror- it is normal. For example, if you look in the mirror while shopping to see if you like the way an outfit matches, or if your getting dressed in the morning, or after you do your makeup. That isn’t an unhealthy behavior. Distinguish between the healthy and unhealthy behaviors. The unhealthy behaviors would be staring at yourself for a long amount of time at every angle while spitting out things you dislike about your body… see the difference?
*Recognize that every person has insecurities. It’s normal to have them. What isn’t normal is to let them eat at you and dictate your behavior and your life. Embrace your insecurities and accept them for what they are.
That’s it for this Tuesday guys!
Now tell me:
If you struggled with body checking, what’s one thing you did to put an end to it?
And as always, thanks for reading and all the love!! Have a happy Tuesday!