Take Care of your Temple Tuesday #7

September 27, 2016 in Recovery

Hi guys and happy Tuesday! So excited for another post for this series with my lovely friend Emily and to keep showing you all how important and vital it really is to take care of your body; as our bodies are temples! Taking care of your body means providing an endless amount of love for yourself, fueling yourself with feel good food and food that makes your soul thrive, moving in a way that makes you smile, and fitting in that self-care time even in the busiest seasons of our lives.

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Today we’re talking about body checking. You know- staring in the mirror and looking at yourself at different angles. Standing in front of that mirror longer than you should and spending way too much freaking time analyzing yourself. I know every person’s done it- I for sure have. And I went through phases were my body checking was out of control. It was an obsession and an addiction, one that was certainly hard to break.

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What was body checking like for me? 

-Standing in front of the mirror. First with my shirt down. Looking at myself at every single angle. Criticizing myself at every single angle.

-Pulling up my shirt in front of the mirror to look at my stomach. Grabbing my stomach and the fat I had on it with disgust.

-Checking my body in the mirror 20 minutes later to see if I looked more bloated and larger.

-Weighing myself multiple times throughout the day to make sure the number didn’t change at all.

-Changing my outfits different times to find one that I felt I looked the best in.

Body checking was a hit on my self-esteem. Every single time I looked in front of that mirror or stepped on the scale, I was bound to feel awful about myself. No positive words were ever said in front of that mirror. It was always how I could do more to look better and how I wasn’t pretty enough or good enough. It was an exhausting and draining cycle that I felt trapped in. 

How did I stop body checking? 

To be honest, it was such a hard cycle for me to break. I really believe the whole body image thing comes last in recovery. Feeling good about yourself in a world that always tells you that you can do more and you can be better is just tough. Here are some ways I quit the abusive cycle of body checking:

*Get rid of your scale. Throw it out, smash it. I don’t care what you do with it- just get rid of it. The temptation of having a scale there is enough to just draw you back in. Getting rid of it was like taking a huge weight off my chest.

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*Wear loose clothing on days your more bloated. This helped me tremendously. Being comfy and not having something tight around my stomach helped me to resist the urge to body check.

*Realize how you feel after you engage in these body-checking behaviors. You don’t feel good about yourself and you just wasted a chunk of time engaging in negative self-talk when you could’ve been doing something kind for yourself. Remind yourself this every time you want to stand in front of that mirror or get on the scale.

*Recognize the anxiety that you feel when you begin to stop body checking. Find ways to cope with that anxiety- listen to music, hang out with a friend, do a craft. Basically anything to get your mind off the situation or any positive distraction you can find.

*At least once a day, stand in front of the mirror and say something that you love about yourself. It could be as small as the color of your eyes or the way your hair looked today.

*Remember: your body is something that you shouldn’t be afraid to look at. Accept it for what it is. Accepting your body shape and realizing that you don’t have to change it is a huge step in the right direction.

*Remember: it is okay to look in the mirror- it is normal. For example, if you look in the mirror while shopping to see if you like the way an outfit matches, or if your getting dressed in the morning, or after you do your makeup. That isn’t an unhealthy behavior. Distinguish between the healthy and unhealthy behaviors. The unhealthy behaviors would be staring at yourself for a long amount of time at every angle while spitting out things you dislike about your body… see the difference?

*Recognize that every person has insecurities. It’s normal to have them. What isn’t normal is to let them eat at you and dictate your behavior and your life. Embrace your insecurities and accept them for what they are.

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That’s it for this Tuesday guys! 

Now tell me: 

If you struggled with body checking, what’s one thing you did to put an end to it? 

And as always, thanks for reading and all the love!! Have a happy Tuesday!

Xoxo,

Lyss <3

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16 Comments

  • Reply Emily September 27, 2016 at 7:06 am

    There is so much to love about this; I did exactly some of the same things a LOT until I finally decided not to look in the mirror unless I needed to; it really helped, as did not weighing myself. I definitely feel like it’s a huge journey of learning to trust and remember that my body is the way God wants it to be for a reason and that He takes care of it. I think remembering that actual anxious body checking doesn’t feel right and regular mirror checks do feel right is something that keeps me centered.
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    • Reply Alyssa October 3, 2016 at 8:39 pm

      It really is such a big journey and it is definitely not a straight-path!! Lots of bumps along the way for sure!

  • Reply Marina @ A Dancer's Live-It September 27, 2016 at 11:21 am

    Oh my gosh, this hit home for me SO HARD. I still struggle with mirror checking every now and then, especially at times when I’m bloated and I somehow think it’s a good idea to check myself in the mirror…? Something I’ve been working on to stop it is to stand reallyyyy close to the mirror and actually look at the TRUE size of my body, then I’ll back up and see how that perception changes and makes my eyes see it differently, most often larger than I think I am. Then I realize that the mirror is stupid and doesn’t show a true reflection of myself whatsoever! 🙂 LOVE this post and you so much!! <3
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    • Reply Alyssa October 3, 2016 at 8:38 pm

      that is such a great little tool girly, our perception does change and we look different at all times of the day and at all angles. And that is totally okay!! Love YOU lots!

  • Reply Heather @ Polyglot Jot September 27, 2016 at 5:52 pm

    Hey we’re on the same wavelength this week! Great post, and so true! Im still working on this myself.
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    • Reply Alyssa October 3, 2016 at 8:37 pm

      hehe yes we are!! And thank you so much for your kind words Heather!

  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law September 27, 2016 at 9:05 pm

    This is such a great post (as always), Lyss! We are all our own worst enemies. Growing up with a shoulder disability and a winged scapula I would ALWAYS pick on myself and stand at the mirror annoyed at how my shoulder looked. Now I just realise it’s there and there’s nothing I can do about it, however, for years it stopped me wearing certain clothes (you should SEE my cardigan collection) and I would always get so cranky about it!
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    • Reply Alyssa October 3, 2016 at 8:36 pm

      Thank you Kristy! I totally agree that we really are our own worst enemies. We can say such mean and cruel things about ourselves yet we would never say them about someone else!
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  • Reply stephanie September 27, 2016 at 11:02 pm

    Thanks so much for your honesty!! You are so special! and I am so happy of how your journey has taken you thus far.

    • Reply Alyssa October 3, 2016 at 8:31 pm

      I love you mom- thanks for your support!!

  • Reply Sarah September 28, 2016 at 1:18 pm

    I definitely struggle with body checking, especially lately. Thank you so much for these tips! Wearing comfy clothes and avoiding mirrors is what I do to help myself not fixate on my body so much. I need to work on not grabbing at my “fat,” my boyfriend is good at calling me out on it. Sometimes I don’t even realize I’m doing it! I also will try the positive affirmations- that is so important!

    • Reply Alyssa October 3, 2016 at 8:29 pm

      thank you so much for reading girl! Definitely try and work on the positive affirmations- that is so so helpful!

  • Reply Megan September 28, 2016 at 2:05 pm

    Great tips! I used to struggle with this big time. One thing that helped me was hiding my full length mirror for a while so I could focus on how I felt instead of how I looked. But getting rid of the scale + wearing loose clothing helped a lot too.

    • Reply Alyssa October 3, 2016 at 8:28 pm

      Love that you were focusing how you felt instead of how you looked! So important to do that because we often put such a big emphasis on our outward appearance
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  • Reply Caroline September 28, 2016 at 4:33 pm

    I used to have a huge problem with this and it’s something I still struggle with. One thing I did that helped was spending as little time with access to mirrors as possible. As in I’d get dressed at the last possible minute in the morning and not go back to my room unless I really needed to. Removing that temptation as well as the scale was really important. Also repeating affirmations to myself. Standing before the mirror and saying I am beautiful, I am fine eventually started sticking when I kept saying it every day over and over again.
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    • Reply Alyssa October 3, 2016 at 8:27 pm

      Repeating affirmations to myself is so helpful to this day! Definitely a great skill to use when standing in front of the mirror 🙂

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