Setting Goals in a Healthy Way

January 2, 2017 in Balance

Happy 2017 guys!! I hope you all had a wonderful New Years Eve and had a great first day of the New year. 🙂

This NYE was super fun for me. I spent time with my best friends from both high school and college which was awesome! And it was just great to let loose with my friends, I haven’t done that in a while and it felt SO good. Definitely was much needed.

I know with the new year comes a whole lot of resolutions and a gym that’s jam packed. Throw in some new diets and juice cleanses in there and I think that sums up the month of January for ya! I don’t do the whole resolution stuff, but I do like setting goals! I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with goal setting as long as you do it in a healthy way.

I talked about some of my goals on here before, so I don’t want to list them all out again and bore you all. But I do want to focus on healthy ways to set goals, because often times we find ourselves in the black and white mindset. When we don’t achieve a goal, we are failures. And that is not how it should be!

So here are some of my little tips and tricks for setting goals in a healthy way, and I hope they help some of you! 🙂

  1. Be realistic with yourself. If you’re recovering from an eating disorder, don’t make it a goal to not have any bad body image days for the next month. Because chances are, you will probably not feel too great about yourselves some days. And that’s okay! Instead, change your goal from not having any bad body image days to using your coping skills on bad body image days.
  2. Don’t set such high expectations on yourself. It’s okay if you slip up. It’s okay if you don’t hit one of your goals for the week. Heck, we’re human!! We are gonna make mistakes. That’s just our nature. Don’t beat yourself up for them. Just keep trying you’re best and realize that is ALL you can do.
  3. Track your progress. If one of your goals was to stop body checking, write it in your journal when you went through a day without engaging in that behavior. If one of your goals was to become a better runner, keep track of your times. If one of your goals was to get stronger, take a picture of your muscles each week to see your progress! Ya get what I’m saying?!
  4. Use your goals as motivation! Not as a way to beat yourself up more and tear yourself down if you don’t achieve them. I love having goals because it gives me something to work towards. But if I don’t achieve one of them it’s not the end of the world. It just means it didn’t happen and God didn’t want it to happen! Remember to get rid of that all or nothing mindset. Find the healthy in-between.
  5. Leave room for yourself to mess up, leave room for yourself to fall down and for setbacks. Don’t expect perfection, because we all know that isn’t attainable.
  6. Don’t get obsessed with hitting your goals. If you’re goal was to go to yoga once a week and you have a ton of studying and homework to do, do the homework instead of the yoga. Don’t sacrifice other important things in your life (academics, schooling, friend & family time) just to hit your goals!

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Be authentic. Your goals are specifically for YOU. Your progress is going to be different than someone else’s progress. Your successes and failures will be different… stay true to yourself. Be honest with yourself. Stay true to your values. If someone’s goal is to lose X amount of pounds, stay authentic to your own beliefs: that does NOT have to be your goal too. Own your beliefs, own your values, own your goals, own who YOU are. That is the most important thing. 

Thanks for reading guys! Hope you all have a great first Monday of 2017!

Now tell me: 

One goal you have?

What helps you with goal-setting? 

Have a lovely day friends!! Sending lots of love <3

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24 Comments

  • Reply Emily January 2, 2017 at 11:21 am

    YES don’t become obsessed; such wonderful advice here. And being ok with not accomplishing them is important, because God Almighty plans our steps. And sometimes our plans aren’t quite what God has for us.
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    • Reply Alyssa January 6, 2017 at 12:44 am

      he goes plan our steps! you are so right about that em

  • Reply Heather @ Polyglot Jot January 2, 2017 at 3:49 pm

    Great tips! I love making short term and long term goals so that i can celebrate small victories on my way to larger ones.
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  • Reply Sarah @ Bucket List Tummy January 2, 2017 at 6:54 pm

    Love the message to focus on YOU and YOUR goals. We are each so different. And I completely agree with you about resolutions vs goals 🙂

  • Reply Julia @ Drops of Jules January 2, 2017 at 8:49 pm

    I love this Lyss! It’s so important to be kind to ourselves, and I’m going to be mindful of your tips as I enter into this new year. 🙂

    One goal for me: ENJOY FOOD. I’ve done a good job in recovery, but i want to learn to enjoy food.
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    • Reply Alyssa January 6, 2017 at 12:54 am

      that is a great goal, bc food SHOULD be enjoyed!

  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law January 2, 2017 at 9:16 pm

    These are such great tips – and you are so right! Sometimes goals become more obsessive than they are healthy, so having a healthy perspective is certainly the way to go!
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    • Reply Alyssa January 6, 2017 at 12:59 am

      thank you kristy! def important to have a healthy perspective 🙂

  • Reply Ellie Pell January 3, 2017 at 1:15 am

    I like these tips a lot Lyss. My favorite is to be forgiving if you mess up. There’s no reason to give up on a goal if you slip up, just get right back on. Also, I think modifying goals if they don’t work for you is important. For example, if you want to run a race, but break your leg, obviously, that goal isn’t right for you.
    Happy New Years!
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    • Reply Alyssa January 6, 2017 at 1:01 am

      thank you so much ellie! totally agree that it is OKAY to modify goals!

  • Reply Sarah January 3, 2017 at 3:02 am

    My number one goal is to not let fear hold me back from living life to the fullest! I am glad we have been able to reconnect, and thank you for these tips.
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    • Reply Alyssa January 6, 2017 at 1:03 am

      i love that goal and girl same here!! love you lots <3

  • Reply kat January 3, 2017 at 2:02 pm

    These are great, healthy goals girl <3
    My only goal this year is to just GROW in any and every way that I can. I just want to be better than I was last year!
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    • Reply Alyssa January 6, 2017 at 1:03 am

      that is such a great goal Kat! I want to do the same for myself too 🙂

  • Reply Susie @ SuzLyfe January 4, 2017 at 12:43 am

    I am a big proponent of setting priorities, not goals, and not even intentions. What are you dedicated to this year? What is your priority in your life?
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    • Reply Alyssa January 6, 2017 at 1:04 am

      ohhh i like that mindset susie!!

  • Reply Catherine @ A Cup of Catherine January 5, 2017 at 2:00 am

    Love these “rules.” I am not a big resolutions person, but of course I believe in setting goals. I think your #5 is crucial. This year I am setting small goals so I can measure my accomplishments and eventually build up to bigger goals.
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    • Reply Alyssa January 6, 2017 at 1:05 am

      Love the idea of setting smaller goals too- I think that can be so helpful!

  • Reply Melanie January 5, 2017 at 8:14 pm

    Yes x1000000! I love the idea of tracking progress- it really helps keep us accountable and prevent slip ups. I really want to work on being more kind/gentle with myself and also grow a stronger faith & relationship with God. I’m also hoping to get back into running! I haven’t been running the past few months so being realistic with myself is important… I think I’ll start out by running just once or twice a week and increase from there 😀

  • Reply Alyssa January 6, 2017 at 1:06 am

    love that goal girl! and yes to deepening your relationship with God- I’m right there with ya on that goal!

  • Reply Stephanie Leduc January 10, 2017 at 12:17 am

    My #1 problem is setting expectations too high, although I usually do it for smaller scale things like a list of homework I expect to finish that day. When the bar is set too high and you can’t achieve the goal, it sucks!! Definitely a huge mistake we should all avoid!
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  • Reply Leo Tat February 4, 2017 at 8:15 pm

    Hi Alyssa

    Good rules to stick with!

    I particularly like rule 6 where we shouldn’t get obsessed with hitting our goals. Life is not just about the hitting the goal, it’s about the journey and we should enjoy it
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