Practicing What I Preach

March 22, 2016 in Recovery

Hi guys and happy Tuesday! Thought I’d pop in today to share a bit about my day yesterday.

If you read my blog, you know that I preach self-love. I preach intuitive exercise and intuitive eating, I preach that full recovery from an eating disorder is possible. I am an advocate of loving yourself and an advocate that achieving balance in all aspects of life: food, exercise, friends, school, etc. is possible. I think that listening to your body is so so important and I think that not putting certain foods off limits is extremely important for a happy life and a healthy mind.

So I preach all of that; and I write about it here on my blog and of course I follow it. But that doesn’t mean that sometimes it’s harder than others to practice what I preach. I could tell you all to take that rest day and to eat that cupcake when you are craving one; but sometimes telling myself to do that is hard too; telling myself it’s okay to take that rest day can be a mental challenge at times but you bet that I end up taking it. It doesn’t mean it’s a walk in the park, it doesn’t mean that it’s a piece of cake and I don’t feel some discomfort after.

Since this is a blog and I choose to share my personal life with you, this is exactly what I intend to do. I’m not going to sugar coat it for you and make my life seem like it’s all butterflies and roses because it isn’t.

Friday night was great. Saturday night was a bit rocky. I don’t want to go into details, but it could have been better. On a positive note, it could have been worse. Sunday was a day filled with brunch with two good friends, homework and dinner with my best friend Tim, and church for Palm Sunday. I had some anxiety last night. Basically, I just don’t like the male population as of late but Saturday night taught me a lot just like any tough night does. And I’m learning, I’m growing. I learn from every mistake I make.

Monday I wanted to see one of my good friends Jimmy for lunch, but the only time he could go was 1:30. I usually grab lunch right after class (11:30), workout around 1:30, come back to my room and shower, then head to class at 4:00. But this day was different, my routine was thrown off a bit but I needed a good lunch with my best friend and I needed a long vent sesh. So I went with it. And you know what?? I picked lunch with a great friend and decided to not rush and stress about squeezing in a workout. After my class ended at 11:30 I decided to go to the library instead to do homework, grab lunch at 1:30, do a little homework before class, then go to class. I could have been stressing and freaking out about when I was going to workout, but that is toxic. That is toxic for me and that is toxic for my mental health. I am not going to sit behind this computer and tell you all to pick plans with a friend over a workout then be a hypocrite and ditch lunch plans with a friend for working out. That wouldn’t be practicing what I preach. That wouldn’t be going with what I know deep down is best for me.

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“Your beliefs don’t make you a better person; your behavior does…”

I was going back and forth on whether I should try and squeeze in a workout before lunch with Jimmy or after lunch before my class, but quite frankly it was stressing me out. I didn’t wanna show up to lunch or class all sweaty and I didn’t want to workout just because I felt like I had to. Because that is not healthy in the slightest. The gym should not feel like a chore, it should be something fun for you to do and a good way to get out some steam. But today the gym felt like a chore. Today, the gym felt like an extra stressor in my life and that is the last thing I need in my life right now: more stress. So I went against my routine and I took the day off.

Did I feel a bit guilty at first?? Yes. Did I get over it?? Yes!! Am I going to look any different tomorrow?? No!! Of course I won’t. At first I felt guilty and like I should’ve squeezed in that workout, but then I reminded myself that I shouldn’t get anxiety or feelings of guilt for not going to the gym today or not going to the gym any day. The gym and working out should be fun. The gym should NOT ever be something you dread to do. It should not carry that connotation with it at ALL. There will be plenty of other days to workout, there will be plenty of other times where I am less busy and the gym will always be there. Amazing friends like Jimmy who is an absolute ray of sunshine is more important to me than an hour workout. Jimmy is one of the greatest friends I have, he is one of the most genuine souls I have encountered. And no way would I ever miss out on lunch with him just to go to the gym. I have done that in the past and it got me absolutely nowhere; it brought me nothing but loneliness and isolation. That one-hour workout is not worth all of that if you ask me.

So yes, I do practice what I preach. No, my life isn’t always easy with this kinda stuff. These little mental battles come and go but the difference is, I always fight back at them; I am always able to overcome them. I don’t dwell on that initial discomfort I feel at first because I know that it will pass and I am confident that everything will be fine. If there is one thing I want to be known as through the blogging community is real and raw. I am going to share my life on here whether that is the glorious and happy moments or the little tough ones that I battle back at and overcome because I am a firm believer that both of the happy and the sad moments teach us a tremendous amount in life and without them, we wouldn’t be who we are today.

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“Get out from your house, from your cave, from your car, from the place you feel safe, from the place that you are. Get out and go running, go funning, go wild. Get out from your head and get growing, dear child.”

I hope you guys enjoyed this little ramble Tuesday, and I hope by showing that I am in fact human and I do have struggles shows that I am authentic, I am not a robot. I am just a 19 year-old girl trying to do the best she can. I am just a girl writing here on this blog, a girl that is sharing what she believes in and IS in fact practicing what she preaches to all of you and anyone who reads this.

Thank you guys for reading and always being so supportive and kind! You are all so amazing.

Sending my love as always.

Xoxo

Lyss<3

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29 Comments

  • Reply Marina @ A Dancer's Live-It March 22, 2016 at 11:54 am

    This is so inspiring Lyss! Something like missing a workout would have affected me too, but I realize now how important it is to be kind to ourselves and to be HUMAN. You have such a beautiful soul!! 🙂 Btw, boys are so DUMB so you have every right to be annoyed at the male population lol. I hope you have an amazing day love!! <3

    • Reply Alyssa March 22, 2016 at 1:51 pm

      Aw Marina- thank you so much!! And YOU have a beautiful soul as well babe! Have an amazing Tuesday girly 🙂

  • Reply Lynne March 22, 2016 at 1:23 pm

    We all have ‘those’ days, and it is good to know we are all human. Hang in there. Always be good and kind to yourself, no matter what. Have you have a good week 🙂

    • Reply Alyssa March 22, 2016 at 1:50 pm

      Thank you so much Lynne for your support and kind words!

  • Reply Jillian March 22, 2016 at 2:06 pm

    I LOVE how honest you are! There’s no shame in sharing your struggles. You are amazing babe xo

    • Reply Alyssa March 23, 2016 at 1:29 am

      I love YOU! Thank you beautiful for the love and support!

  • Reply Kaylee March 22, 2016 at 2:07 pm

    First of all, I love your honesty! So thank you!
    Secondly, it’s awesome that you’ve realized this and you can overcome those mental battles. We are all just trying to do the best we can with what we have. Struggles are bound to happen but they make the successes that much sweeter.

    • Reply Alyssa March 23, 2016 at 1:28 am

      Aw Kaylee thank you!! Your kindness and sweet words truly do mean a lot to mean. You are so right: struggles DO make successes sweeter! xoxo

  • Reply Taylor March 22, 2016 at 3:11 pm

    Such a great post! As a health coach, I stress balance to all my clients, but I definitely feel hypocritical sometimes when I have a hard time finding balance in my own life. I don’t like to miss a workout and if I do, my day is kinda thrown off. I really try to move on and let it go and be ok with it. It is important to practice what you preach, but I have learned that it is still difficult and it is a choice I have to make every day. We are all human and we can practice what we preach and still struggle sometimes. 🙂

    • Reply Alyssa March 23, 2016 at 1:28 am

      It is a difficult choice during our hard days to practice what we preach; but like you said, it is so important! We do have to remember that it is okay to struggle sometimes because we are human. Thank you so so much for reading Taylor! <3 xoxo

  • Reply Kate March 22, 2016 at 3:39 pm

    I think being a dietetics students truly dissolved any desire (can I call it that?) for me to participate in restrict eating. I think when we put a message of self love and nourishment out there we are making ourselves accountable. I think you are making HUGE progress just by voicing your thoughts.

    • Reply Alyssa March 23, 2016 at 1:27 am

      Amen to that!! I agree that putting out the message of self love and nourishment does help keep ourselves accountable. Sending lots of love to you girl and hope you are having a great week!

  • Reply Cayanne Marcus @healthyezsweet March 22, 2016 at 7:43 pm

    You are so much wiser than your years Lyss. Whenever people ask me questions about how to tell the difference between healthy exercise and exercise motivated by ED, I tell them to measure their anxiety levels. Is it stressing you out? Do you feel like you HAVE to? If so, skip it. And that’s the motto I try to use in my own life. Like you said it’s not always easy, but ultimately the best choice towards inner peace and happiness. Proud of you!

    • Reply Alyssa March 23, 2016 at 1:25 am

      Cayanne that seriously means so much to me coming from you. That is so true- when we feel like we simply have to workout and don’t do it because we genuinely want to; that’s when it all becomes so unhealthy! Thank you for your support pretty lady! <3

  • Reply Sarah March 22, 2016 at 9:03 pm

    I am so proud of you girly! You listened to your healthy mind and you benefited from it.

    • Reply Alyssa March 23, 2016 at 1:24 am

      So thankful to have you in my life Sarah! Love you girly <3

  • Reply Ellie March 23, 2016 at 12:21 am

    I love how real you are Lyss <3 I applaud your decision and I bet Jimmy did too 😉

    • Reply Alyssa March 23, 2016 at 1:24 am

      Aw Ellie thank you so so much!

  • Reply Emily March 23, 2016 at 6:26 pm

    That’s why I am so THANKFUL for the Blogger community/recovery community. It really does keep me accountable to really dwelling in and meditating on the FREEDOM wherein Christ hath made me free. I <3 <3 this.

    • Reply Alyssa March 23, 2016 at 10:29 pm

      I am so thankful for the blogging community and the amazing people like you that come along with it!! Thanks for your kind words and support Emily!

  • Reply Edye March 23, 2016 at 8:58 pm

    Your honesty is so admirable, Lyss! So proud of you for listening to your heart <3

    Blessings,
    Edye // Gracefulcoffee

    • Reply Alyssa March 23, 2016 at 9:13 pm

      Thank you so much edye!!

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  • Reply Cora March 25, 2016 at 1:39 pm

    These experiences – though seemingly “small,” – can actually be so huge. This was basically my day yesterday. I had a planned work out. I was “supposed to.” But the weather was awful and the last thing I wanted to do was leave my school to go out to the gym (or anywhere). So I stayed and just read/wrote/hung out with colleagues for three hours instead. I had a lot of guilt. A lot of sadness. But I know.. I KNOW.. I felt so much lighter when I made the decision to not go, and I know it was what I truly wanted. I didn’t want to go anyways, lets be real. You hit in on the head with working out being an “extra stressor,” and yesterday, I just really really did not want any extra stress to my day. I’m still trying to tell myself it was okay, but the fact that I made the right choice is all that matters. Thanks for your authenticity and motivation less <3

    • Reply Alyssa March 25, 2016 at 1:54 pm

      I’m glad that you decided to just stay in and relax girl- that is a huge sign of progress and shows how far you have truly come! Thank you so much for your support and kind words Cora, truly means a lot <3 xoxo

  • Reply Heather@hungryforbalance March 25, 2016 at 2:16 pm

    Thank you for your realness here. I think we can all relate to how hard it can be to really practice what we preach in ALL aspects of life, but especially where food and exercise are concerned.

    • Reply Alyssa March 25, 2016 at 6:10 pm

      Thank you so much Heather. You are so right, it is hard to practice what we preach in all aspects of our life. But it IS possible. Thank you for stopping by my blog, can’t wait to connect more with you and read your posts as well! Happy Friday girl!

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