People are annoying

January 18, 2016 in College / Recovery

I’m back at school! I got in around 4 yesterday and unpacked. I had so much stuff it was like I was basically moving in again. Added a ton of new pictures and some quotes to my wall! 🙂

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I’m excited to get back into the swing of things and start a new semester! I don’t start classes until Tuesday, so I have this day to just get adjusted and see friends and such which is good.

Anyways, your probably wondering what the heck the title of this post means, or that I’m just a bitch for thinking people are annoying. Well there IS an explanation for it. As I was sitting down to pee yesterday, I noticed this little sign on the door.

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“Diet… eating 5 a day and learning portion sizes are ESSENTIAL! Cardio 5x a week for at least 30 minutes; Weight lifting 2x a week working all muscle groups. Alcohol adds extra calories to your diet… choose water.” Blah blah blah blah blah. I couldn’t even enjoy my pee because I got so annoyed with this sign. Like c’mon man.

I see this stuff all over regardless of on a college campus or not. I hear people talking about it, I heard people talking about how they are going to workout ever day and start this diet or eliminate this food and I’m not going to lie, I do get annoyed from time to time and it can be hard to listen to all of this. Especially with the past of an eating disorder. It isn’t healthy for me to be eliminating any sort of food or exercising every single day. That’s just what’s best for me.

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But it does get hard because man people are just so god damn annoying sometimes. We live in a diet obsessed world where exercise and losing x amount of pounds is the main focus. A few years back if I saw that sign I would’ve immediately used behaviors; I would’ve skipped dinner or gone to the gym an hour longer. But I don’t do that anymore; I am able to cope with all these triggers.

But how?! Quite frankly sometimes I just laugh. Because when I think about it, half of the stuff on that sign isn’t even true. You don’t have to do 30 minutes of cardio 5x a day to be healthy. There are other forms of physical movement too-what about yoga?! What about just a nice walk, something that may not feel so strenuous? I recognize that half of what people say or these signs are not the full truth. How else do I cope? Well, I realize that I need to do what’s best for me. And what’s best for me is not what’s best for someone else. I am my own person with my own individual needs. What Alyssa needs may be different than, lets say, what Suzie needs. If I want a freaking cookie because I want and am craving one then you bet I will get that cookie. Now if Suzie doesn’t get a cookie that day, then who cares! I’m not going to compare what I eat to what Suzie eats because I know if I do that I’m just going to drive myself bonkers. And that wouldn’t be good. I want the happiest and healthiest version of myself, and I know that by comparing myself to others I am not going to achieve that. I also am able to block out all this diet talk now. Especially with it being January and people with all their new years resolutions, I just know to tune out of conversations where people are only talking about how they need to lose x amount of pounds etc. etc. During these conversations, I will sometimes just go on my phone. Or I’ll even try and switch the topic. Sometimes I add my two cents too, because I have an opinion on all of this and I think it deserves to be heard even if people don’t listen to it. “You don’t need to lose x amount of pounds. You can have the cookie if you want it. You look fine in that dress and your stomach looks great.” I add in my two cents with stuff like that from time to time because I have a say in all this too and it does deserve to be heard.

Basically, people are annoying with this stuff. But you don’t have to let it get to you, you don’t have to let it drag you down and pull you back in your recovery. Focus on YOU, focus on yourself and doing what is best for you. Block out all this diet talk and also don’t be afraid to stand up for what you believe in. NO comparisons, just focus on being the healthiest, happiest version of YOU and I promise you; these little triggers will get easier and easier to cope with. And next time I pee or poo, I’ll probably laugh at the sign or maybe just go in a different stall because I’m not going to be interrupted again by that nonsense.

Now tell me, 

Do you get annoyed with all the diet talk? 

What are some of your favorite coping skills? 

Hope you all have a great day!

Xoxo,

Lyss <3

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23 Comments

  • Reply Jillian January 18, 2016 at 8:14 pm

    I hate diet talk. It’s one of my biggest triggers. I think it’s important to promote wellness and balance, not deprivation and restriction. Good luck with your first week of classes! Love you xo

    • Reply Alyssa January 18, 2016 at 9:28 pm

      YES, amen! Definitely agree with promoting balance and not deprivation. Thank you so much babe, love you! <3

  • Reply Stephanie January 18, 2016 at 9:24 pm

    Alyssa, I love this, I feel the same way. We are all different and we should not be made to feel badly if we don’t fit into this perfect little mold! I broke the mold a long time ago!!
    Miss you already!

    • Reply Alyssa January 18, 2016 at 9:33 pm

      thank you so much for reading it mom! I miss you already too and can’t wait to see you 🙂

  • Reply Catherine @ foodiecology January 18, 2016 at 10:40 pm

    That would’ve annoyed me, too.
    Healthy living doesn’t have to be all or nothing – and I find I’m less likely to burn out (exercise in particular) if I’m not so rigid in my schedule. You’re absolutely right that what’s healthy for me might not be for you and vice versa.
    Good luck with your new semester!

    • Reply Alyssa January 18, 2016 at 11:15 pm

      Same here with my exercise, it isn’t enjoyable to me when I’m so rigid about it! Thank you for reading Catherine, hope you have a great day!

  • Reply Nina January 18, 2016 at 11:43 pm

    Love the post, and your entire blog for that matter! The worst is when it is your family members (parents) making the comments about the gym, or about how much they or someone else ate. Love that your Mom commented above, makes my heart happy! Good luck with school this semester!!

    • Reply Alyssa January 19, 2016 at 12:23 am

      Thank you so much Nina! So happy you stumbled across my blog, and I am so thankful for my mom’s support! Hope you have a great week <3

  • Reply Ellie January 19, 2016 at 1:21 am

    I don’t really get annoyed anymore because for someone out there, that prescription could be what makes them their best self. I know it’s not for me and that’s fine. Some of my coworkers are watching their carbs. That’s fine for them, but I don’t really think about that for me. I would be annoyed if someone saw what I was eating and critiqued it, but that doesn’t really happen much. I guess I’m lucky in that way.
    Your room looks so good! I would love to sleep under so many memories.

    • Reply Alyssa January 19, 2016 at 2:38 am

      That’s a great way to look at it! Definitely is so important to put yourself first. Thank you for reading Ellie! Xoxo

  • Reply Liv @ Healthy Liv January 19, 2016 at 5:06 am

    I’m glad you were able to laugh at the sign instead of it being a trigger for you. Way to overcome the constant “diet talk” we hear ALL of the time!

    • Reply Alyssa January 19, 2016 at 1:03 pm

      Thank you so much liv! <3

  • Reply Melanie January 19, 2016 at 3:08 pm

    Love this post. I used struggle a lot with diet talk and sometimes it does still get to me- but I try to remind myself that what others are doing is none of my business. I have to do what works for me, and restricting my intake and cutting out certain foods only creates problems. It really is sad though that people are so misinformed with what is healthy- cardio 5 days a week and eating smaller portions doesn’t work for everyone. I think balance and learning what’s best for your body is most important. Thank you for sharing, Alyssa!

    • Reply Alyssa January 20, 2016 at 3:13 am

      I am so glad you are able to realize what is best for you, that is a huge step! So true about the cardio 5x a week thing and the portion sizes, each person is different and healthy is different for each individual! Thanks so much for reading Melanie <3 Hope you have a great day!

  • Reply Kate January 19, 2016 at 6:11 pm

    UGH. I work with all women and you don’t even want to know how much I hear about this stuff. It’s so hard to not just say “shut up”. Haha. I try to remember how fortunate I am to be freed from those kind of thoughts… to not have to be tied down to thinking calories and exercise 24/7.

    • Reply Alyssa January 19, 2016 at 8:01 pm

      Exactly, so so hard to not just say shut up! And same here, I’m so glad to not be consumed by those thoughts anymore. Thank you for reading Kate! Xoxo <3

  • Reply Sarah January 19, 2016 at 9:50 pm

    I totally relate to this post, the comments can get annoying. Like you I try to spread messages about body peace and balance with food and exercise amongst my friends, but it’s hard in our culture. I think everyone would do well adhering to the whole “you do you” philosophy. Everyone is different and the comparison game gets people nowhere.

    • Reply Alyssa January 20, 2016 at 3:12 am

      I agree with you on the whole “you do you” philosophy, I think that is the best mindset to have. Comparing ourselves to others will just drive us crazy! Thanks for reading Sarah <3

  • Reply Stephanie Leduc January 20, 2016 at 12:51 am

    Diet is a word I am totally against, that poster made me mad too! Although some of the claims is true, I find this poster as being totally unrealistic and will discourage anyone! I think this goes against the goal of the poster, no one likes to be given lists of rules!!

    • Reply Alyssa January 20, 2016 at 3:01 am

      Hate the word diet!! Glad you agree with me on this, thank you for reading Stephanie! xoxo

  • Reply Emily January 20, 2016 at 1:30 am

    I’ve definitely learned to just appreciate different people’s individualities in their food choices. I’m so grateful to just be able to move on and not care about it anymore. 🙂 It’s all about balance.

    • Reply Alyssa January 20, 2016 at 3:11 am

      Love that mindset and am so glad you are able to have it now too! Life is too short to compare ourselves to others. Thanks for reading Emily!

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