“The ability to observe without evaluation is the highest form of intelligence.” -Krishinamurti
Observation without judgment. It’s something that is definitely not easy for me. Lately I have been observing areas of my life and judging them. I feel like quotes pop up right when I need them. I have read this quote several times before, but was reminded of it the other night. When I teach yoga, I tell the class at the beginning to just notice how they are feeling without judging themselves for whatever those feelings may be. Tired? Honor it. Energetic? Honor it. Sleepy? Honor it. Whatever they do for that hour is done with the intention of honoring those feelings without any sort of judgment. It’s so tough to remove judgment against certain feelings because society enforces these feelings as “bad” or out of the norm. For example, tiredness is sometimes misconstructed as laziness. Not having a bunch of energy all the time/ not wanting to do a bunch of movement is also seen as lazy. Crying can be viewed as being weak or overly emotional. Anger can be viewed as a lack of control or as being aggressive. So, think how easy it is to judge our feelings when society places the expectation that we should all be smiling and loving life 24/7.
When looking at my week last week, I definitely noticed moments of judgment against myself. I have improved tremendously in this area, but am obviously still growing. I found myself saying I was being too dramatic for skipping a class when I didn’t feel well, I found myself saying that no one cared about my yoga classes because my turnout was so small, I found myself feeling less wholesome, I found that I was judging myself for feeling sad and crying… We all have these moments of judgment against ourselves. How we react to them is what’s most important.
I think if we all just took the time and energy to notice our feelings and check in on ourselves WITHOUT tossing in the negative self-evaluations and judgment, we would feel as if our mind, bodies, and souls were just sighing saying “thank you.” We put our minds, bodies, and souls through a lot when we are constantly judging and evaluating ourselves. If we could end the judgment that sometimes follows observing how we are doing, and if we could just simply OBSERVE without those judgments, think how peaceful we would be.
By no means am I telling you to ignore your feelings. I ALWAYS promote feeling your feelings! But also feel your feelings without judging yourself or being so hard on yourself for what you’re feeling. That will only stunt your growth. Work on just noticing how you are doing. Check in with how you are feeling that day. Get in tune with yourself. Once you made those observations, don’t get angry or frustrated with yourself if you aren’t in the best mood and aren’t pleased with a feeling you’re having. Know that this mood or feeling will soon pass and you are simpy a human being that encompasses a variety of feelings.
Thanks for reading. 🙂
How can you be more gentle with how you are feeling today?
How can you remove judgment against yourself in your life?
Happy Monday! Sending love and light. Xoxo- Lyss <3