Hi guys and happy Monday! Last week at home for me before I go back to school… eeeeeep!
Anyone else get tons of snow this weekend? I left the house once Saturday to workout but that was it. The roads were pretty dang bad!
Anyways, let’s just into today’s post because it’s something that’s been on my mind a lot.
No regrets, just lessons learned.
I don’t care who you are, we all have regrets. We all wish we did things certainly at one point or another. Or we could get a time machine and go back to change how we acted in a certain situation/how that situation played out.
Flashback to about a month-ish ago. I was driving and I literally just SCREAMED so friggin loudly because that feeling of regret him me so hard. I just got so mad at myself for letting things in my life spiral so out of control. “If I did this differently, this wouldn’t have happened. Or if I stayed single, I wouldn’t have felt this way, etc. etc. etc.” The feelings of regret and frustration with myself hit me so awfully hard during that car ride. It started with frustration, but it eventually led to tears. Because it hurt me! And that’s okay to admit. I was hurt and my emotions were all over the place.
A few weeks later looking at pictures from the summer, this feeling hit me even harder. It sucked seeing pictures from before this all happened. And again, those “what if” questions kept itching their way back into my brain. “What if I did this differently? What if I spoke up when I so desperately wanted to?” You all know how detrimental those what if questions are. They hit so close to home. And they drive you crazy, because there simply is no answer to those questions. So we sit and think about them, we sit and dwell on them. And that is what I did all that night.
It wasn’t until the end of December where I had a big realization. There is nothing to regret from what happened these past couple months. Sure, it sucked. Sure, it hurt a whole lot. The depression, the tears, losing myself… it all hurt. But I learned SO much from it all. I learned that I can never settle in a relationship, and I learned how I don’t want to be treated. I learned what I do value in a relationship. I learned better coping skills for my depression. I learned that life can throw you some pretty crappy moments, but that God will never give us more than we can handle. And I could handle it. I’ve handled hard times before, and I handled this challenging time just fine. I got through, and I came out a whole lot stronger.
“This is where I start my comeback. I will spend no more time asking God why doors have been closed because I’ll be too busy praising God for doors that are about to open.”
“Train yourself to find the blessing in everything.”
We need to train ourselves to find the blessing in every single obstacle life throws at us. Because if we don’t, if we have that “why me” attitude, we are not going to grow.
I was talking to my friend Jimmy Saturday night, and I wanted to share something from our convo because it was a pretty awesome one. (but they are always awesome with him!)
And I don’t want people to feel pity for me. Bc I truly understand why god put this hardship in my life and I’m okay with it. Because flowers get stepped on but they still grow after. And that’s just like me. I got stepped on a whole lot these past two months. But here I am blooming despite all that.
We are going to get stepped on in life and we are going to get bruises. We are going to get wounds and we are going to hurt. We can’t keep picking at those wounds or they are never going to heal. We can’t keep dwelling on those hard times and getting mad that they happened to us. Instead, we must embrace the difficulties life gives us. We must embrace God’s plan and even though it isn’t always so easy to do so; we must fully accept that in the midst of challenging times, we always do learn some pretty amazing lessons.
“Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you. They’re supposed to help you discover who you are.” Amen to that!!
That’s it for today guys. Thank ya for always letting me share what’s on my mind. And for reading it! Love you all and hoping you have the best Monday. <3
Let me know what you think in the comments too! If you can relate/if you have felt the same way at one point of your life/etc. Always love hearing what y’all have to say!
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