My Body is Just Fine

January 11, 2018 in Uncategorized

Throughout my 21 years, I’ve definitely received my fair share of comments about my body.

“You’re too thin.” “You’re too big.” “You’re too tall.”

In the depths of my eating disorder, my ED was fueled by the “you’re too thin” comments. These made me feel good. Thinness equated to beauty in my eyes.

It’s taken me many years and a lot of hard work to fully accept my body. On some days, I still don’t. And that’s okay, because I’m human. And we all have those days. It’s taken me many years to pull myself out of the destructive cycle that my eating disorder created. But I did. And I am thankful for that every single day.

A few days ago, I was left in a position where an individual made a very rude comment about my body. “Wow, you got a little belly there, huh? I’m surprised you don’t have a six-pack!”

I was left not knowing what to say but simply chuckle and move on.

But this comment hurt. My belly has always been my most insecure feature on my body. I don’t have a six-pack. And I’ve never had a six-pack. Not even in the worst of my eating disorder. In the past, this comment would have sent me spiraling back into my destructive ways. I am aware of the pain I felt from this. I am aware of the discomfort this comment had me feel. Yes, I did cry after this. I am frustrated with individuals making comments about others bodies, and I find it completely inappropriate to make comments like that towards someone.

I wish our society stopped making comments about other’s appearances so damn much. I wish our society stopped putting such an emphasis on how we look. I wish that people would learn to see the inner beauty within every individual’s soul.

The thing is, I know my stomach is beautiful the way it is. I know that I have fat on my stomach- and that is okay. That is perfectly, 100% okay. I know that I am perfectly content not having a six-pack.

One comment about my body will never dictate how I feel about it. It will never take away the appreciation I have for it.

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16 Comments

  • Reply steffie January 11, 2018 at 3:26 am

    I am so very proud of you. Sometimes this world and the people in it can be so cruel and though they may apologize it still hurts. This hurt and one time would have caused you to break, but no longer. My god that is wonderful! You are a true warrior!

    • Reply Alyssa January 15, 2018 at 4:30 am

      thank you so much <3

  • Reply Kalee January 11, 2018 at 2:13 pm

    So true Lyss. Yes, i know that initally that comment was hurtful, but just think…if it wouldnt have been said then this blogpost may have never been written. If this blog post wouldn’t have been written, then it would have been one less seed of self love planted in me and many others. Love you lyss and how you use every experience as an oppotinity to grow and help others grow! I have so much love and admiration for you.

    • Reply Alyssa January 15, 2018 at 4:30 am

      aw Kalee- that is so sweet of oyu. I have a lot of love for you friend- you have such a big heart!

  • Reply Nancy January 12, 2018 at 1:26 am

    This was beautiful. So proud of you for how far you’ve come and for loving your body just the way it is – that’s how it’s meant to be.

    • Reply Alyssa January 15, 2018 at 4:30 am

      thank you so much Nancy <3 so kind of you

  • Reply Emily January 12, 2018 at 1:54 am

    This makes me so sad that someone would make a comment like that, but it totally reminds me of that verse in 1 Samuel about God looking on the heart, even though man often looks on the outside. I’m so thankful that God looks beyond the outside into the heart and that He knows our hearts. <3 <3 you Lyss; and I think you are JUST lovely the way God made you.
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    • Reply Alyssa January 15, 2018 at 4:31 am

      <3 you too friend!

  • Reply Catherine @ A Cup of Catherine January 12, 2018 at 2:15 am

    Love this, Lyss.
    Oof, that comment would’ve hurt me, too, but it speaks volumes of your healing and self awareness that you were able to recognize the emotions, allow yourself to feel the hurt, and move to a better place.
    My body image has changed so much the last few years – I’m so grateful that pregnancy, nursing my child, and retaining a few pounds postpartum allowed me to see that, no matter what shape my body takes, it’s really just a shell for the whole of me. <3 <3
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    • Reply Alyssa January 15, 2018 at 4:31 am

      thank you Catherine <3 love that "it's really just a shell for the whole me" so so so true!!

  • Reply Joyce @ The Hungry Caterpillar January 12, 2018 at 4:04 am

    Ick. I’m so mad for you, Lyss. I remember the first guy I was ever undressed with told me my chubby tummy would be great for having babies. And I didn’t think it would bother me…maybe it was even supposed to be a compliment?…but it did bother me more than I was expecting. And it’s such a blessing that you’re in this place now where you can hear that kind of comment and be hurt for a bit but also move on because you know you’re beautiful the way you are.
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    • Reply Alyssa January 15, 2018 at 4:32 am

      oh gosh.. that is terrible. some people are very ignorant and don’t think before they speak. thank you for your kind words friend <3

  • Reply Cora January 13, 2018 at 7:35 pm

    I already commented on Instagram, but just to reiterate…. thank you for this. You are beautiful and you inspire me so much with your strength and inner compassion.
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    • Reply Alyssa January 15, 2018 at 4:32 am

      <3 you very very much cora!! xoxo

  • Reply Kaylee January 13, 2018 at 7:43 pm

    It is incredibly annoying when people comment on others’ bodies even in a joking manner. For me, even ‘positive’ comments about my body can be triggering because it makes me feel like it needs to stay a certain way to be accepted. Ughhh I’m sick and tired of it.
    Props to you though for having the wisdom to not let that awful comment affect your relationship with your body. You go girl!!!
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    • Reply Alyssa January 15, 2018 at 4:33 am

      right? I wish we made comments about things OTHER than people’s appearance. hopefully one day. Thank you for reading and the support!!

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