Hi guys and happy Monday!! How was everyone’s weekends?! I had Friday AND Saturday off which was absolutely amazing. AND I got to meet my blogging bff Marina in Boston on Saturday. How wonderful is that?!? It was such a lovely day with her and a great weekend which I plan to touch on later on in the week, but I wanted to get the chance to link up with Julia today for another Mental Health Monday! Let’s get started. 🙂
Pride (according to Merriam Webster)- “a feeling that you are more important or better than other people; a feeling of happiness that you get when you or someone you know does something good, difficult, etc.”
Stop finding pride in what you eat. There, I said it. Stop thinking you are better than others just because you are drinking a green smoothie or that you choose to get a salad while out to eat. Because the thing is, you are not superior to anyone based on your dietary choices. You just aren’t.
My pride in myself was strongly attached to the food I was eating for a very long time. I felt stronger than others for turning down a cupcake. I felt stronger than my friends for having that “will power” to eat “healthy” foods all the time. I thought I was better than them. While I lacked confidence in several other areas of my life, the one thing I was confident in and carried the most pride in was with the foods I ate. I was known as the health-nut at one period in my life and I absolutely thrived off of having that as my identity. The times I felt the most proud of myself was when I could manage to go longer than others without eating or when I ate “healthier” than everyone else. I distinctly remember getting angry at my Dad who was snacking on nuts while we were driving to our hotel before our vacation, and the feeling of disgust I had in him was so strong it engulfed me. But the feeling of satisfaction I had in myself for not having any of those salted, calorie dense nuts shined within me. It was those moments where I felt so proud of myself, those moments where I didn’t feel the need to get dessert with family because I wasn’t “hungry” and I claimed it to be so incredibly “unhealthy” filled me with a feeling of superiority to everyone else that I had never felt before.
These moments are not ones I am proud of now. I look back on those moments and of course get frustrated with myself, but now I know for a fact that pride and food have no correlation whatsoever. And it tears my heart into pieces that this trend of feeling better than others or feeling stronger solely based on what one chooses to eat that day is still ongoing. With the ever so influential presence of social media in all of our lives and the growing fitness/healthy living community, I feel like many subconsciously place their pride in the food they choose to eat. The need to meal prep every single meal, bring a freaking scale to a frozen yogurt shop to weigh your fro yo so it “hits your macros,” tell all your friends and family and even third cousin that you are deciding to start a vegan, gluten-free, low-carb, low fat diet and how wonderful you know it is going to make you feel are all things that I really believe we should not be putting our pride in, nor so much time and energy into at all. And another thing, why should one feel the need to broadcast their meal-prepped dinner to the world every day or tell everyone on Facebook about how amazing their new diet is making them feel? In my opinion, I believe it is for selfish reasons. I believe it is because people are stuck in placing their pride and value in things as small as what one decides to eat. How did we all become so blind to what is really important in life and what we should really be proud of ourselves for; being a kind, selfless person who is constantly working hard to create a life they love and spread happiness to others? How did something as significant as that, something that we should feel pride in fall second to something as minuscule as what we are eating?
So get off your high horse if you think that you are greater than the girl next to you just because you have a meal-prepped “healthy” lunch and she just has some cold leftover pizza. You are not more important than this girl, you are not better than her. Because the thing is, this girl is probably the sweetest most genuine gal. Quit those judgments you hold upon others if they don’t eat as “healthy” as you. My best friends could give a crap about what they eat- and you know what? I adore that about them! They hate diets, my best friend hates cardio and vegetables. But the thing is, they are such down-to-earth beautiful souls and I no longer feel better than them if I get a sweet potato and they get french fries. I no longer care about that and put such an emphasis on it. I no longer place my pride in the foods I eat. I no longer place my pride in what I choose to eat. I no longer believe to be more superior and better than others simply based off of my food choices. I no longer feel any of those things.
Every day I am striving to be a better version of myself. To carry pride about myself in ways I would have never thought of through the ages of 14-17. Every day I am embracing my imperfect self and working hard to love more, complain less, accept Jesus and God fully into my heart, rid of jealousy and hate, and to help others in any way I can. That is what I carry my pride in. Not in what I eat; never will I carry my pride in something so inconsequential as that.
No questions today, but as always I would love to hear your thoughts on this as I value and cherish them so much!! Have a happy Monday friends 🙂
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