MHM 8/8/16- Stop Finding Pride In What You Eat

August 8, 2016 in Recovery

Hi guys and happy Monday!! How was everyone’s weekends?! I had Friday AND Saturday off which was absolutely amazing. AND I got to meet my blogging bff Marina in Boston on Saturday. How wonderful is that?!? It was such a lovely day with her and a great weekend which I plan to touch on later on in the week, but I wanted to get the chance to link up with  Julia today for another Mental Health Monday! Let’s get started. 🙂

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Pride (according to Merriam Webster)- “a feeling that you are more important or better than other people; a feeling of happiness that you get when you or someone you know does something good, difficult, etc.” 

Stop finding pride in what you eat. There, I said it. Stop thinking you are better than others just because you are drinking a green smoothie or that you choose to get a salad while out to eat. Because the thing is, you are not superior to anyone based on your dietary choices. You just aren’t.

My pride in myself was strongly attached to the food I was eating for a very long time. I felt stronger than others for turning down a cupcake. I felt stronger than my friends for having that “will power” to eat “healthy” foods all the time. I thought I was better than them. While I lacked confidence in several other areas of my life, the one thing I was confident in and carried the most pride in was with the foods I ate. I was known as the health-nut at one period in my life and I absolutely thrived off of having that as my identity. The times I felt the most proud of myself was when I could manage to go longer than others without eating or when I ate “healthier” than everyone else. I distinctly remember getting angry at my Dad who was snacking on nuts while we were driving to our hotel before our vacation, and the feeling of disgust I had in him was so strong it engulfed me. But the feeling of satisfaction I had in myself for not having any of those salted, calorie dense nuts shined within me. It was those moments where I felt so proud of myself, those moments where I didn’t feel the need to get dessert with family because I wasn’t “hungry” and I claimed it to be so incredibly “unhealthy” filled me with a feeling of superiority to everyone else that I had never felt before.

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These moments are not ones I am proud of now. I look back on those moments and of course get frustrated with myself, but now I know for a fact that pride and food have no correlation whatsoever. And it tears my heart into pieces that this trend of feeling better than others or feeling stronger solely based on what one chooses to eat that day is still ongoing. With the ever so influential presence of social media in all of our lives and the growing fitness/healthy living community, I feel like many subconsciously place their pride in the food they choose to eat. The need to meal prep every single meal, bring a freaking scale to a frozen yogurt shop to weigh your fro yo so it “hits your macros,” tell all your friends and family and even third cousin that you are deciding to start a vegan, gluten-free, low-carb, low fat diet and how wonderful you know it is going to make you feel are all things that I really believe we should not be putting our pride in, nor so much time and energy into at all. And another thing, why should one feel the need to broadcast their meal-prepped dinner to the world every day or tell everyone on Facebook about how amazing their new diet is making them feel? In my opinion, I believe it is for selfish reasons. I believe it is because people are stuck in placing their pride and value in things as small as what one decides to eat. How did we all become so blind to what is really important in life and what we should really be proud of ourselves for; being a kind, selfless person who is constantly working hard to create a life they love and spread happiness to others? How did something as significant as that, something that we should feel pride in fall second to something as minuscule as what we are eating?

So get off your high horse if you think that you are greater than the girl next to you just because you have a meal-prepped “healthy” lunch and she just has some cold leftover pizza. You are not more important than this girl, you are not better than her. Because the thing is, this girl is probably the sweetest most genuine gal. Quit those judgments you hold upon others if they don’t eat as “healthy” as you. My best friends could give a crap about what they eat- and you know what? I adore that about them! They hate diets, my best friend hates cardio and vegetables. But the thing is, they are such down-to-earth beautiful souls and I no longer feel better than them if I get a sweet potato and they get french fries. I no longer care about that and put such an emphasis on it. I no longer place my pride in the foods I eat. I no longer place my pride in what I choose to eat. I no longer believe to be more superior and better than others simply based off of my food choices. I no longer feel any of those things. 

Every day I am striving to be a better version of myself. To carry pride about myself in ways I would have never thought of through the ages of 14-17. Every day I am embracing my imperfect self and working hard to love more, complain less, accept Jesus and God fully into my heart, rid of jealousy and hate, and to help others in any way I can. That is what I carry my pride in. Not in what I eat; never will I carry my pride in something so inconsequential as that.

No questions today, but as always I would love to hear your thoughts on this as I value and cherish them so much!! Have a happy Monday friends 🙂 

Xoxo,

Lyss <3

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  • Reply kat August 8, 2016 at 1:40 pm

    I really love this post girl. While I dont think that there is anything wrong with loving healthy food and eating it, I do think it can be obsessive [which is never a good thing!] when its something you take pride in. Im all about being proud of YOURSELF and what not, but putting the focus solely on food really puts the emphasis on the wrong area.
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    • Reply Alyssa August 10, 2016 at 1:33 am

      oh it can definitely become obsessive, so agree with you on that! I really agree too that when we put the sole focus on food in our lives, things become messy real quick. Thanks for your thoughts on this Kat! <3

  • Reply Emily August 8, 2016 at 2:36 pm

    AMEN sister. Taking pride in what we eat is so wrong, and it was one of the ways that God really humbled me after so many years of so much puffed up pride about me ‘eating healthy’ when others didn’t know how to eat healthy. It was so wrong, and I’m so thankful that you wrote this and reminded me not to do that again!
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    • Reply Alyssa August 10, 2016 at 1:31 am

      it is SO wrong that we put our pride in something so, so insignificant as what we are eating. Thank you for your sweet words love, so much love for you!!

  • Reply Emily August 8, 2016 at 3:13 pm

    So good! I used to be like this too unfortunately. And I still feel shame because I’m not a vegetable lover. I can’t help it I have picky taste buds! And you know what, life is too short. My worth comes from God and how I treat His children. Not food.

    • Reply Alyssa August 10, 2016 at 1:30 am

      totally okay that you don’t like veggies girly! And I’m so proud of you for realizing that 🙂 Yes- our worth does come from God and how we treat his children, amen to that!!
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  • Reply Claire @ My Pink & Green Life August 8, 2016 at 4:31 pm

    Oh. My gosh. Yes! I totally used to be like this, all through middle and high school, even when I wasn’t *really* experiencing my ED symptoms. In retrospect: ew. Stop it, teenage Claire.

    Last week, I realized how far I’d come when I went out for dinner with friends and ordered a pizza and it was definitely the least “healthy” entree ordered at our table. But you know what? I didn’t even think about it until our food came, and then I just shrugged. Because really, it doesn’t matter or say a thing about me!
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    • Reply Alyssa August 10, 2016 at 1:25 am

      That little story makes me so happy. Those moments like that always truly bring a smile to my face. Shows how far you’ve come girl!!

  • Reply Michelle August 8, 2016 at 5:39 pm

    Amen! I used to find a huge sense of pride in turning down food and in how long I could go without eating. I felt better than other people because of my “healthy” diet. People thought of me as the healthy girl, when in reality I was the farthest thing from her. The food we eat does not have any correlation with our worth. Eating a salad doesn’t make you better than someone else just like eating pizza doesn’t make you a bad person.
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    • Reply Alyssa August 10, 2016 at 1:24 am

      isn’t crazy that we used to find pride in that?? in something so insignificant? Thank you for reading this girl!

  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law August 8, 2016 at 9:26 pm

    YESSS! Pride in anything really irritates me but it’s so stupid how people take food and turn it into something to boast about.

    I mean, it’s all well and good if you really love kale and want to shout it from the rooftops – but don’t try to make someone feel bad if they say it’s disgusting (because let’s be honest, kale is the one vegetable I don’t actually like!) or choose something else.

    Food is food, that’s it!
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    • Reply Alyssa August 9, 2016 at 11:47 pm

      When people boast about their food and such it really irritates me too. I can only have kale mixed into a salad or sautéed in olive oil … it definitely isn’t one of my fave veggies either. And YES- food is JUST food!! xoxo

  • Reply Trine August 8, 2016 at 10:20 pm

    Love, love, love this post! It’s so so relate for me and my eating disorder. It’s kind of related to the idea of believing that we are the “exception,” and that we are so much better and different than everyone else (at least this is how I felt) because I could turn down pizza and dessert while everyone else enjoyed it. I feel so sorry for those who don’t allow themselves to eat what THEY truly want despite what others are having. I think society has had a play in this in some ways, like the idea that men can eat whatever and how much they want of something yet girls need to appear “dainty” and have self-control. It’s so frustrating and unfortunate.

    • Reply Alyssa August 9, 2016 at 11:45 pm

      Totally agree that society does create that idea that men can eat whatever and women have to appear dainty… isn’t that crazy and just SO sad?? Honestly gets me very angry too. Society is a big cause to so many issues surrounding food and body image in my opinion!

  • Reply Heather @ Polyglot Jot August 8, 2016 at 10:45 pm

    I cant say I’m perfect with this as I find myself thinking certain foods are gross when I see other people eating them. I am working to be even more mindful of these more judgey moments so I can stop doing it! It’s gotten so much better but theres always room for improvement!Great post!
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    • Reply Alyssa August 9, 2016 at 11:44 pm

      I think we can all work on being mindful about that Heather!! Thank you so much for reading and your kind words!

  • Reply Marina @ A Dancer's Live-It August 8, 2016 at 10:52 pm

    Omg YAS girl preach!!! This used to be me too, I would beam when my friends would get a cookie at the dining and I sometimes still catch myself doing it now if I’m on my period or am having a bad day. But I always remind myself that I’m no better than anyone else. If I want a cookie, I’m gonna have the dang cookie!! If I don’t that’s fine too!! LOVED LOVED meeting you again this weekend <3 xoxo
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    • Reply Alyssa August 9, 2016 at 11:43 pm

      I think checking in with ourselves and making sure we aren’t casting judgements is something we should all do from time to time, because I feel like we can subconsciously do it! And YES girl- yes to allll the cookies 🙂 And I LOVEDDD meeting you- seriously one of the highlights of my summer!! Love you mucho <3 <3

  • Reply Sarah Barnitt August 8, 2016 at 10:57 pm

    This was so fucking amazing Lyss. I definitely used to derive value from having more ‘willpower’ and making ‘healthy’ choices; but that’s WRONG. We should be proud of our actions and relationships. I am not special because I chose to turn down a cookie, and no one thinks that I am special because of that. You are such a beautiful and wise girl and i’m blessed to know you!

    • Reply Alyssa August 9, 2016 at 11:41 pm

      Aw Sarah thank you SO much!! So agree that we need to pride ourselves in our actions and relationships, not what we are eating!! Love you girly, so thankful for you<33

  • Reply Ellie August 9, 2016 at 12:31 am

    I also think people need to stop feeling proud in gorging themselves on junk. I see that so much at work. A person comes in with his friends and gets the biggest sandwich ever, he’s hungover and just because he gets it he feels like sandwich royalty or something. It bugs me when people feel obnoxiously proud of any type of eating. I mean, I get excited and post on Instagram or snapchat when my meal was delicious or pretty, but not because I’m proud to have eaten it. I’m proud to have created it!
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    • Reply Alyssa August 9, 2016 at 11:40 pm

      I agree that food is something that really shouldn’t correlate to pride at all in any situation! (maybe a few exceptions here and there of course) But yes! agree about cooking or pretty food hehe 🙂 thank you for your thoughts on this Ellie!

  • Reply Caroline August 9, 2016 at 1:02 am

    Amen to this! Honestly, food just isn’t something to feel self-righteous about. Following a specific dietary lifestyle that works for you? That’s cool and great and isn’t something that makes you better or worse. It’s like someone feeling like they’re better because they like jazz music over classical. Okay, you’re different, whatever, deal with it! I too, used to take pride in being the “healthy” one and I thought I knew it all when it came to all things “health.” It’s funny how wrong I was. Thanks for sharing on this topic and LOVE what you have to say about it! xoxo
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    • Reply Alyssa August 9, 2016 at 11:39 pm

      Food is NOT something to feel self-righteous about at all. I love the music comparison too- that is spot on in relation to food and what we eat! Thank you so much for reading Caroline and your sweet words!! <33 xoxo

  • Reply Megan Hallier August 9, 2016 at 7:58 am

    So true. Ugh I remember feeling so much better than people because I had the willpower to resist the cupcakes or do some insane workout.
    I hate how health and fitness is glorified these days. Being fit isn’t the most important thing in the world.
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    • Reply Alyssa August 9, 2016 at 11:37 pm

      I totally agree that health and fitness is SO glorified- what happened to kindness and love being glorified more?!

  • Reply Miss Polkadot August 9, 2016 at 2:53 pm

    Whole-heartedly agreed. I’m really not sure why so many people – partcularly on Instagram – not only feel the need to stress how super ‘clean’, refined sugar and whatever-else-free they eat. But also how they didn’t “need” any of “that crap”, “resisting” temptation at the office or when with family. None of that makes them superior to others, necessarily healthier [i.e. orthorexia, kidney disease due to eating too much protein etc.] or better than others. In fact, it might turn them into ‘worse’ people because they’re annoying to be around and make people around them feel bad. Rant over.

    • Reply Alyssa August 9, 2016 at 11:36 pm

      Exactly- I don’t understand that either!! I totally agree with you rant- thank you for your thoughts on this love!

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