Hi guys and happy Monday! Hope you all had a lovely weekend. 🙂
Going to be linking up with the amazing Julia for a mental health Monday post!
Today we are going to be talking about business. Business: you know, constantly being going, constantly doing something and having your mind engaged. No breaks, no relaxation time. Just go-go-go. We are all busy in one way or another. Whether it is school, a job, lots of errands, volunteering, or just a hectic time with everything: we have all been there and have been busy. Being busy sometimes is great! Because when we are busy, we typically get a lot done. There is no time to relax, no time for ourselves. We are going without breaks. And this is definitely a satisfying feeling when we are going and accomplishing a lot. But too much of anything is not a good thing. Extremes are never healthy, and when we are constantly going without any time for ourselves, problems can arise and we begin to lose focus on how important relaxation time is.
“We wear our business as a sign of honor.”
During my yoga workshop a few weeks ago, the instructor said this quote and it really stuck with me. I feel like I definitely connected with it on a personal level. Wearing our business as a sign of honor is something I feel we all do at some point. Do you ever notice how after a long and busy day, we are never shy to tell people all that we did; all that we accomplished? For instance, “Today was so long! I studied for about 3 hours then went to the gym right after. Then I was back in the library and studied more, went to church, went to a TA session, and now I am just exhausted!” We are never shy to tell people about our crazy days and we are never shy to justify why we should be exhausted after them. But what if I did pretty much nothing? I woke up, ate, watched some Netflix, grabbed coffee with friends, and walked my dog. We may not go on and on about our days, because we weren’t that busy; we don’t feel that our days were that exciting and maybe even if we are exhausted on those days, we don’t feel like we have a reason to. On our busy days, we feel that we have this badge of honor to show and tell people about.
But that shouldn’t be the case. That sign of honor should not be earned just from a busy life. Because too much business is a bad thing. What if we never take time to just breathe; take time to step back from it all and just relax? I know for me when I didn’t do that, it resulted in some poor mental health and a constant state of stress and anxiety. Being busy is a good thing sometimes. Again, I feel like moderation applies to this too; and what people’s definition of busy exactly is. Sometimes doing a lot is fun! It takes our mind off of things. And sometimes busy days are not a choice we make. If we have work, an outing with family, etc. etc. all on our plate one day; we have to go to all that and the business of that day is really out of our hands. But what if we really have nothing on our agenda? This is what can become a problem. What if we are not okay with simply just sitting and doing nothing? What if that arouses anxiety? That is a big issue, because sitting and doing nothing is vital to our mental health. If it’s a day where you don’t have work, you don’t feel like working out, all your friends and family are busy; or if it’s a day where you quite frankly don’t feel like doing anything, then you shouldn’t feel the need to do a boatload of things just because you feel this desire to be busy and constantly going. That is not healthy, and that is not good for your mental health. How are we supposed to make time for self-care when we are busy all the time? Or how are we supposed to do things to make our soul sing when we have so much on our plate? The answer: when we are going non-stop, we won’t have time for those things, and in my opinion: days of relaxation are so, so important.
“You have enough. You do enough. You are enough. Relax.”
Relax. Something I used to not be able to do at all. Take a step back, take time for yourself, nap, watch Netflix, make yourself a cup of coffee. Relax. Don’t make a to-do list of things for the day just to be busy, don’t push yourself past your limits. Relax. Don’t go to the gym if you don’t want to today and don’t go to a two hour workout class just because you feel like you haven’t been busy enough today. Do something to make your soul happy. Go to a cute little juice bar and read a book; go grab yourself an iced coffee and sit outside with your doggies. It’s time we stop wearing our business as a sign of honor. Because how much we do and whether we are constantly going or not is something that should not be worn as a sign of honor; it is something that should in no way, shape, or form define us. Yes, we will have busy days. That’s life! The need to have them all the time is very unhealthy though.
“There is virtue in work and there is virtue in rest. Use both and overlook neither.”
Work, have your busy days. Relax, have time for yourself, take naps, go read a book, watch TV. That is balance. Don’t overlook your busy days. And don’t feel the need to have them all the time to prove yourself to someone. Don’t feel poorly about yourself if you hardly move from your couch. Because those types of days are essential for our mental health and well-being. They are what makes us whole.
Thank you Julia for letting me share my thoughts this Monday! And thank you guys for reading and being so awesome.
Sending my love as always.
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