Hi guys and happy Monday! Hope you all had a lovely weekend.
Going to be linking up with the amazing Julia for a mental health Monday post!
Today, we are going to be talking about how it’s okay to not be okay. You’ve probably heard this saying before, right? Learning to be okay with simply not being okay. It can get confusing, but boy does this saying go a long way. Sometimes in life, we are just not okay. We may be angry, we may be sad, we may be confused, we may be upset. Those are all normal emotions to have- those are just a sign that we are human. We feel, we get hurt, we cry, we get angry.
For so long I had this belief that I had to just be strong through it all. I believed tears were a sign of weakness, if I was angry I had to quickly put on a smile and pretend like everything was okay, and if I was upset I had not rational reason to be upset so I had to pretend like I was fine. I thought that I had to fake a smile even if I was sad and fake laughter even if laughing was the last thing I wanted to do. But I learned quickly that this was not a way to live, and that if I didn’t let out emotions; they were bound to explode at some point. I think as humans we all believe that we have to put on this tough face and if we are anxious to ignore those feelings and if we are upset to disregard that. But that is NOT healthy. If we are sad, we need to learn to feel that sadness. If we are angry, we need to learn to feel that anger. Feeling every sort of emotion is vital to a healthy frame of mind in my opinion. There is this huge misconception that we have to be happy little birdies all the time full with energy and a smile plastered to our face. But you know what? Sometimes life just sucks, and it’s okay to not be happy 24/7, because God knows I am not! We have these emotions in life because we are meant to feel them, and experiencing them is not a sign of weakness.
“Sometimes it’s okay to not be okay.”
Sometimes it’s okay to not be okay. You know why? Because life is just freakin’ tough sometimes! We get thrown all these obstacles. Whether that may be with mental health: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, OCD; these are all huge battles to overcome, and an everyday fight. Of course there are going to be tough days, because tough days are a sign that we aren’t robots. Even if you don’t have a mental illness, there are going to be bumps in the road. Whether that is with family, friends, a relationship, school; life throws us different challenges at all times. But one thing I learned these past 19 years is that not letting myself experience these emotions is even more detrimental to my well-being. I cry, I get sad, I get angry, I have anxiety: I let myself feel all of those emotions. I let myself cry at night if I am sad and I let myself yell or swear if I am angry. Having these emotions by no means signifies that I am weak and shows that I am incapable of things; it symbolizes I am human, and like other humans I feel, I hurt, and sometimes I am just not okay! But learning that it IS okay to not be okay is one thing that really has helped me over the years.
“Trust me in your times of trouble, and I will rescue you, and you will give me glory.” -Psalm 50:15
As this is my blog and I am all for being honest and vulnerable, my anxiety has been up and down and there have been some tears here and there. There has been some conflict within my family which has caused some stress, and there has been some new adjustments I have had to make (summer, starting this new job) that have caused my anxiety to spike at times. Instead of denying my feelings and pretending they don’t exist, I am acknowledging them, I am writing about them; I am letting myself feel these things and I am turning to God, journaling, and the close and amazing people in my life to help me through. I let myself not be okay because I know that the future is bright and this little time right now is tough. But pretending that nothing is wrong and everything is fine and dandy will not help me in the long run. Let yourself feel the sadness, let yourself know that life is full of obstacles, and the one you are experiencing right now is just another one of those that you have to climb- but you can do it.
“We’re supposed to feel. We’re supposed to love, and hate, and hurt, and grieve, and break, and be destroyed. And we build ourselves to be destroyed again. And that is human. That is humanity. That is being alive. That’s the point.”
Let yourself not be okay. Let yourself love then hate, let yourself hurt then grieve, let yourself break. Because you will get put back together. Let yourself be destroyed, because you will be okay eventually. Humanity is feeling all these things, being human is getting broken and crying and getting upset then in time after letting yourself be human, overcoming every single hardship and being like, “Wow, I really can overcome any little battle that life will throw at me.”
“You have been assigned this mountain to show others it can be moved.”
I am a firm believer that each individual’s hardship is their hardship for a certain reason. God knows that you can overcome it. The universe knows that YOU have been assigned this mountain because YOU can specifically move it.
So remember, it’s okay to not be okay at times.
And like Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
Thank you Julia for letting me share my thoughts this Monday! And thank you guys for reading and being so awesome.
Sending my love as always.