Let’s Talk About Relationships

June 2, 2017 in About Me

Happy Friday friends! Hope you all have enjoyed your weeks thus far. I’ve been working a lottt and trying to find time for friends/fam/me! And this blog because it truly makes me so genuinely happy.

This is a topic that is pretty important to me: relationships.

If you know me, you know how much I value human connection. I love being able to connect to people on a deeper level.

If you also know me, you know that I have never truly been in love. I have spent years seeking validation from guys, letting what men think destroy my self-esteem. I was in a crazy cycle of “find a boyfriend, if you don’t find one there’s something wrong with you.”

I know so many girl (and guys!) struggle with that, and the pressures of being in a relationship. I still do too.

But the thing you have to remember is you must be whole by yourself before you allow another human into your life. Be confident in who you are and recognize that you are too full of life to be half loved, that you should never shrink yourself for someone else.

Be willing to meet others, be willing to open your heart. But also be open to the fact that there are so many people we haven’t met, and so many people we might connect with out there in this world. If you haven’t met that person yet, you will. The universe just wants you to focus on YOU right now.

I’ll let the video suffice for the rest. 🙂

Now tell me: 

Dating advice you think would be helpful to share? 

Have you ever struggled with seeking validation from others? 

Thank you for watching friends. All the love to you great humans.

Have the best weekend!!

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  • Reply Heather @ Polyglot Jot June 2, 2017 at 12:05 pm

    I went through a phase in early high school where I did a lot of dating around in order to receive validation of myself. That was a time where my self esteem was super low and I was very unhappy! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this–more ladies and men need to be open about this!
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    • Reply Alyssa June 5, 2017 at 3:03 am

      that sounds just like me in college! thank you for listening Heather!

  • Reply Emily June 2, 2017 at 2:10 pm

    I’ve definitely struggled with seeking external validation from others instead of just wanting to love God more; I think that I’m learning it slowly that the only approval I need is God’s, and because of Jesus I can be confident of God’s love and mercy.
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    • Reply Alyssa June 5, 2017 at 3:03 am

      <3 that is so great Emily

  • Reply Sabrina June 2, 2017 at 9:12 pm

    I big time had issues with seeking validation from others. I was scared for a while that I’d forever be single, which was honestly my biggest fear. Now that I’m older, I’m content with being single. I get to focus on where I’m headed and work on my insecurities before diving into a relationship, which is the only advice I’d have to share lol. This was an amazing post!

    • Reply Alyssa June 5, 2017 at 3:04 am

      thank you so much Sabrina. It makes me so happy to hear you have found peace with being single. Being selfish and focusing on ourselves is really a great thing.

  • Reply Melanie June 3, 2017 at 11:36 am

    Love this topic and video! I have definitely struggled with seeking validation from others and still do. I love what you said about being whole just as we are and not needing someone else to complete us. That’s the mindset I’m working toward. Hope you have a wonderful weekend! <3

    • Reply Alyssa June 5, 2017 at 3:05 am

      Thank you so much Melanie! I think we can all work towards being more whole and independent. I hope you had the best weekend <3

  • Reply Megan June 4, 2017 at 8:46 pm

    That bit near the end where you were talking about being whole by yourself and knowing you can do this on your own made me so proud. You go girl!
    It makes me so happy to hear people creating a life on their own instead of needing someone else to do that for them.
    I am a huge fan of that singleness season. I have learnt so much and I am so happy with where I am at right now.
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    • Reply Alyssa June 5, 2017 at 3:05 am

      Thank you Megan 🙂 that means a lot to me!! And I am a fan of it too. There is a lot to learn when you are alone and independent!

  • Reply Bethany June 5, 2017 at 1:07 am

    I struggled with others approval until I truly started living for an audience of One! God makes all things good and new!
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    • Reply Alyssa June 6, 2017 at 3:55 am

      Yes, he does!! <3 amen to that girl!

  • Reply Maddy June 5, 2017 at 9:20 pm

    I spent a goooood amount of time putting my worth in the hands of others in order to seek out that external validation-only to get absolutely crushed in the long run 🙁 Luckily this time around is different (still gotta tell you alllll about that 😉 ) after spending a good amount of time really learning about myself
    A partner should enhance our lives, not complete them!

    • Reply Alyssa June 6, 2017 at 3:54 am

      I NEED to hear this full story. And I need to see you!!

  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law June 7, 2017 at 11:26 pm

    I loveeeee this and I am so glad you shared it.

    I never really dated as I met Jesse when I was so young and that was it – but I know so many girls who dated lots and lots of guys (often the wrong guys) just because they were either afraid of being alone – or didn’t want to be the one without a boyfriend. That’s not how a relationship should work!
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