I skipped the gym… and I’m okay

October 3, 2016 in Recovery

I skipped the gym. Not once, not twice, not three times. I skipped it four times last week. I worked out three times. That’s it.

I could’ve squeezed in a workout. But I didn’t.

And the thing is? I’m fine.

There’s a big part of me that craves routine and structure. That’s just who I am. I love having a plan. I love knowing what’s next and what to expect. But this week, I didn’t. I usually workout Friday, but a doctors appointment and life got in the way. And Saturday? My parents came for parents weekend at my college. I wasn’t going to prioritize the gym over them. I just wasn’t. I’ve done that in the past, and it hasn’t made me any happier.

With a past of exercise addiction, the gym and I have had a rocky relationship. I’ve abused it, I’ve worked my ass off there when I definitely shouldn’t have even been there, and I’ve let the gym control me. A missed workout would lead to crankiness, it would lead to incredible feelings of guilt and the biggest “low” I’ve ever felt. Feelings of failure and worries that I would get “fat” consumed me and made me into someone I wasn’t proud of.


We are products of our past, but we don’t have to be prisoners of it.”

But a missed workout doesn’t cause me to feel that way anymore.

I know the gym will always be there. I know that working out is important to my health, but I also know I don’t have to kill myself every single day at the gym and make that my top priority. Working out three times last week was all I needed. I need to prioritize other things sometimes in my life and stray away from that tight routine I often crave. Going with the flow makes my soul feel pretty damn good and I think we all need to work on just living in the moment and not following a routine every single day.

There were times on Friday and Saturday where I was thinking to myself that I could have squeezed in a good workout and I could have prioritized that over other things. During these times, I remind myself to swallow my pride and practice what I preach. The gym isn’t my life and it isn’t the sole thing that makes me happy. The gym isn’t some sacred place for me like it used to be where I went every single day and spent hours there. It is just a place. It is not my life. Working out is not my life. I am not the “fit girl.” I am not defined by what workouts I do and how long I stay in the gym. I am defined by a whole heck of a lot more.

 I am so thankful to be surrounded by people that constantly raise me up and remind me the importance of just living carefree and removing the expectations we place so tightly upon ourselves. We naturally expect so much from ourselves: get good grades in school, join clubs, be social, get enough sleep, workout, etc. etc. But we simply can’t do it all. Expectations lead to disappointment. That’s why we need to stop expecting so much from ourselves. We are only human and we can only do so much within 24 hours.


I exist as I am and that is enough.”

I am honestly happy to have taken that time off from the gym. I feel refreshed and more well-rested. I feel more free. Breaking away from my schedule reminds me of the importance of spontaneity in life and it shows me that I could spend hours planning for something, yet sometimes things just don’t go as planned. My three workouts last week were fun. I enjoyed them. But I also enjoyed so much more throughout my week. I enjoyed times with friends, family, my boyfriend (gasp), and time to just do nothing.


And just a special shoutout to this girl who makes my life so much better and so much brighter. She is an inspiration to me to just live in the moment and go with the flow. She shows me the power of positivity each and every day and I am so blessed to be able to call her my best friend.  This girl helps me with a lot, and I am so thankful I get to do life and college with her. Find the people in life that raise you up and inspire you to be a better person, because I know for sure that Jillian! <3 

That’s it for this today’s post!

Now tell me: 

What helps you to be more spontaneous? 

Hope you all have a happy Monday!! <3

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  • Reply Taylor October 3, 2016 at 3:28 pm

    great post girlfriend! I get very anxious when I don’t workout, but I have learned that I really have to be more flexible especially with the amount of traveling I do. I have learned to fit it in if I can and don’t worry if I can’t. I just try to still stay active by moving more and taking walks when I don’t have time for a full workout. This has made my life a whole lot happier. 🙂
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    • Reply Alyssa October 11, 2016 at 1:54 am

      walking is such an underrated form of exercise. I am so glad that you were able to find a good balance with working out taylor!

  • Reply Marina @ A Dancer's Live-It October 3, 2016 at 5:48 pm

    YOU ARE AMAZING lady! I used to be anxious when I didn’t workout too, but I’m happy I don’t feel that way anymore. I’m SUCH a creature of habit and I love plans too. But “the gym isn’t my life and it isn’t the sole thing that makes me happy.” YES! Thank you for reminding us to be kind to ourselves and to live our life to the fullest <3 Cal helps me be more spontaneous. 🙂
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    • Reply Alyssa October 11, 2016 at 1:53 am

      ah girl same- the anxiety used to drive me crazy! I am so so happy we both got out of that rut. You are such a strong gal and I’m so thankful to have you in my life!
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  • Reply Miss Polkadot October 3, 2016 at 8:19 pm

    Go you! It’s wonderful that you’ve already come to realize where your priorities lie and what does or doesn’t define you this early on in life. Others take a lot longer to understand that being the ‘fit girl’ isn’t the only thing that matters.
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    • Reply Alyssa October 11, 2016 at 1:52 am

      thank you so much girl!! <3

  • Reply rachel @ athletic avocado October 3, 2016 at 9:59 pm

    Love this! Your not defined by being “fit” or “healthy” you are defined by who you are in Jesus Christ 🙂
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    • Reply Alyssa October 11, 2016 at 1:50 am

      we ARE defined by who we are in Jesus Christ- amen to that!

  • Reply Trine October 4, 2016 at 12:00 am

    You are an amazing human and I will forever be inspired by you babe <3

    • Reply Alyssa October 11, 2016 at 1:48 am

      that means SO much to me <3 You are so so so amazing and incredibly sweet!!

  • Reply Ellie Pell October 4, 2016 at 12:12 am

    Life is more important than a workout. I was reminded of that today and it brought me back to reality. I needed to read this today Lyss, you have no idea how relevant this is right now.
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  • Reply Megan October 4, 2016 at 1:36 am

    Girl THIS POST. SO good. I think we’ve been in that exact same boat. I only went to the gym like..2 times in the past week maybe? And feeling very proud of myself that I don’t care enough to even remember haha. You nailed this perfectly <3

    • Reply Alyssa October 11, 2016 at 1:42 am

      aw thank you so much!! You are the besttt <3 and I am so proud of you too!!

  • Reply Megan Hallier October 4, 2016 at 2:28 am

    This year I didn’t get a gym membership and it has been really interesting to see how my attitude toward exercise has changed. Last year I worked out every single day and even on “rest” days I was itching to move. This year I have been way more relaxed and most weeks I only workout 3 or 4 days.
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    • Reply Alyssa October 11, 2016 at 1:42 am

      That is interesting! I think workouts outside of a gym environment can be so fun too. Allowing yourself to move in whatever way you want is so freeing 🙂

  • Reply Emily October 4, 2016 at 4:50 am

    So thankful for this reminder Lyss; living life is AWESOME and it doesn’t have to have a workout. Workouts are WONDERFUL and fun, but it’s okay to just be, be God’s child, and rest in His awesome grace and incredible love.
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    • Reply Alyssa October 11, 2016 at 1:41 am

      it is SO okay to just be. We need that at times! Miss you love!

  • Reply Lynne October 4, 2016 at 12:40 pm

    I am pleased you had a bit of ‘time out’. Sometimes I feel a person needs it, and the best news of all, is you are okay, you are great in fact….and, as you said, the gym is always there 🙂 Lyss, you are wonderful, never forget that. x
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    • Reply Alyssa October 11, 2016 at 1:41 am

      aw lynne- you are wonderful too! Thank you so so much <3

  • Reply Heather @ Polyglot Jot October 5, 2016 at 1:14 am

    Yay!! I have struggled with this too. It was hard not working out for a month because of my back and neck but guess what? Nothing terrible happened and my back healed up!
    Im ready to get back in to a workout routine but it was a great reminder for me to be thankful for the time i do have to workout but also a reminder that life happens and its okay!
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    • Reply Alyssa October 11, 2016 at 1:40 am

      Nothing bad does happen when we don’t workout, and our brains like to make us think differently!!

  • Reply Sarah October 5, 2016 at 1:30 am

    So proud of you Lyss! Lately I have noticed that as I have been eating (A LOT!) more and tackling that aspect of my recovery, I am struggling with the exercise addiction. I need to remember that I am not in a place right now where I can workout, and that the more I heal my body that stronger I will be. I love that Whitman quote, simple but so powerful! P.S you and your friend are so gorgeous!
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    • Reply Alyssa October 11, 2016 at 1:39 am

      You’re body isn’t in a place where it can workout. And by resting, you are fully allowing your body to HEAL!
      Thank you so much too Sarah- you are beaaautiful 🙂

  • Reply Stephanie Leduc October 5, 2016 at 5:31 pm

    Although I love routine, my life always ends up going with the flow. I am the most disorganized organized person and I feel like that applies to my everyday life too haha. I have intentions for the gym, but I dont always respect them. As I am writing to you, I chose to not go to the gym and go home instead as I struggled with my workout yesterday and know that a rest day is what I need today. Do I have time to do a workout? Yep, I’ve got all day actually. But some days you just don’t want to and that is so totally okay.
    Our bodies tell us what we need to do, if we start comparing ourselves to other people, we won’t be happy.
    This post was amazing, as usual!!
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    • Reply Alyssa October 11, 2016 at 1:38 am

      I am so happy you chose to stay home and just REST! Your body needed that 🙂 Some days you really don’t feel like working out and that is totally okay! And thank you so much for your kind words!!

  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law October 6, 2016 at 1:38 am

    We all need rest days and chances to shake up our routine! It’s so important to be flexible with your schedule – regardless of what your doing and this just shows how much of a healthy mindset you have now!
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    • Reply Alyssa October 11, 2016 at 1:37 am

      yesss it is! Learning to break free of our schedule is so good for our mental health 🙂

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  • Reply Emmy October 10, 2016 at 3:02 pm

    I totally can relate to this! I used to force myself to squeeze in a workout every single day but that takes away the joy of it and other things in life. I find that resting can even improve your overall performance anyways. 😉

  • Reply Alyssa October 11, 2016 at 1:36 am

    it really does take away the joy of other things in life! Stressing over squeezing in a workout is no fun at alllll

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