Finding your Tribe

January 5, 2017 in About Me

Happy Thursday my loves! Hope you all have been enjoying the first week of 2017. My week has been great so far- tried Soul Cycle for the first time, saw my good friend from college for dinner, and went to hot yoga with a good friend from college as well! Been working at GNC too and trying to make some money to pay off all the money I spent over the Holidays.

Yesterday morning as I was reading my daily reading plan for the book of Philippians from She Reads Truth, it focused a lot on finding those people that strengthen your faith.  And it emphasized that we become the most like those we spend our time with. So if we spend our time with negative Nancy’s, chances are we will become negative too. But if we spend our time with those who are positive and always striving to be their best, then we will be positive and always striving to be our best. Ya get the gist?

It made me think about my relationships in my life right now. I am blessed to have some pretty incredible friends who inspire me daily, who make me want to grow as an individual and chase after my dreams. It made me realize that I should be thanking God every single day for those friends I have that inspire me to grow in my faith, to grow as an individual, and to work to spread kindness at all times; no matter what the circumstance is.


My best friend Jillian and I 


My best friend Maria and I 

Now that I am single and can really put my focus into deepening my relationship with God and Jesus, my friends, my family, all of you who choose to read my blog or follow my Instagram; I want to work on creating stronger relationships in all of those areas. I want to work on appreciating the amazing tribe I have found.

But something that God has continued to show me is that our tribe can always grow. I have seen that in the year of 2016. Some amazing and incredible people were placed into my life. Those that showed me the power of hard-work and the endless love that God has for us; those that inspired me and helped me become more passionate about the things I love.


I am not the most loud and outgoing person, and something that scared me in the past was reaching out to people who I thought I had a lot of common in and asking them to hang out or grab a meal. In 2016, my mindset around that has definitely changed. I was able to meet some amazing people at my college; whether they reached out to me and asked to do yoga with me, or I reached out to them and just simply said how awesome I think they are. Within this past week I have already done this and reached out to people who I feel are very similar to me and share the same values as I do. I had the pleasure of doing a Soul Cycle class and getting Sweetgreen with a friend from Instagram, and doing a hot yoga class with my friend from college who I want to get to know more. I truly believe that if you see something awesome in someone, tell them!! I do this a lot, whether it’s over text or Facebook message- don’t be shy to recognize the good in someone!

After reading that piece from She Reads Truth, it got me reflecting on a lot of things (hence the blog post). All good things though. It got me thinking how I should be more thankful for my tribe. How I am excited to find more people in the world who share similar beliefs and values that I do. How there are SO many other individuals out there who could be so amazing and incredible that I haven’t even met yet. And how in 2017 I want to express more gratitude for my tribe, yet also always be willing to expand it.


“Find your tribe, love them hard.” 

Now tell me: 

Where have you met some of your closest friends? (I met my best friend in high school and the other one in my college psych class- we are both psych majors!) 


I hope you all have a wonderful Thursday! Sending alllll the love <3

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  • Reply Lynne (Lynne's Recipe Trails) January 5, 2017 at 11:29 am

    Happy Thursday Lyss 🙂
    I have two best friends. The one, we were next door neighbours from age 6, and have stayed besties ever since. My second best friend I met just after school. These girls are like sisters to me 🙂 so cool 🙂

    • Reply Alyssa January 11, 2017 at 3:00 am

      awww that’s so awesome!!

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  • Reply Marina @ A Dancer's Live-It January 5, 2017 at 12:40 pm

    Love this so much!! I finally found my “tribe” when I got to college, and it’s been great! I met my best friend in high school and his name is CAL! 😉 Haha seriously, he’s not only my bf but he’s my best friend too 🙂
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    • Reply Alyssa January 11, 2017 at 3:03 am

      omg you and cal just make me SO FRIGGIN HAPPY. and you make me so happy too!!

  • Reply Emily January 5, 2017 at 3:06 pm

    I consider you one of my tribe Alyssa, and people in church + my sweet family are part of my tribe; they lift me up; point me to Jesus, and glorify God! I love to be with them. I love to follow you, talk to you, and hear about how God is working in you. <3
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    • Reply Alyssa January 11, 2017 at 3:03 am

      I love you Em!! You are so sweet, thank you <3

  • Reply Taylor January 5, 2017 at 3:36 pm

    Love!!!! Who you surround yourself with is sooo important. It has made the world of a difference for me eliminating toxic people from my life and focusing on strengthening the relationships I value the most. I met my one best friend in middle school and my other best friend in high school. A few of my best friends are from college and afterwards.
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    • Reply Alyssa January 11, 2017 at 3:13 am

      eliminating toxic relationships has been HUGE in my growth!

  • Reply Caroline January 5, 2017 at 7:55 pm

    Love this and I feel this very deeply. I’m working on saying yes to deepening friendships. I tend to love my alone time so much that I fail to reach out and nurture relationships. I’ve met some of my best friends in college, especially in my sorority. I’m amazed with how many women I’ve met who have such great faith and the kindest souls around!
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    • Reply Alyssa January 11, 2017 at 3:14 am

      so cool you met some awesome friends through your sorority! those will def be lifelong friendships too 🙂

  • Reply Melanie January 5, 2017 at 8:08 pm

    I loved reading your thoughts on this. I can definitely relate! I have a really hard time reaching out to people and asking them to hang out/grab coffee/etc. I met my best friends in high school but haven’t made as strong of friendships in college. Especially in college, I wish I had pushed myself more to reach out to others and meet new people in general. It’s scary to put yourself out there, but I think the right people will come into our lives and appreciate our interest to spend time with them. I love what you said about letting others know the good qualities we see in them- I think that is so important. I’m glad you’ve been able to grow in this and make new friends in college. Thanks for this post, it definitely inspires me to be more open to reaching out to others and grow my “tribe” 🙂

    • Reply Alyssa January 11, 2017 at 3:15 am

      definitely push yourself a bit, whether it’s a quick coffee date with a girl from class or going out to dinner with someone! Thank you for reading love!

  • Reply Sarah January 5, 2017 at 10:25 pm

    I definitely consider you to be a part of my tribe! Surrounding myself with people who lift me up, and inspire me to be the best versions of myself that I can is super important. This year I will make more of an effort to connect with people and ask them to hang out. I always have this fear that people don’t like me, or won’t want to hang out with me. But that is just fear holding me back, and I vowed that this year I will live life to the fullest, and face my fears!
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    • Reply Alyssa January 11, 2017 at 3:16 am

      and I consider you to be part of MINE! People will love you, and you have to keep believing in that!! xoxo

  • Reply Heather @ Polyglot Jot January 6, 2017 at 2:10 am

    These words are so true! Who we spend our time with definitely has an impact on how we live and act and think. Im thankful to be in your blogging world tribe–if you ever want to have a fun trip to Philadelphia I’m your gal! <3
    Is She Reads Truth a devotional? It sounds like an eye opening book.
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    • Reply Alyssa January 11, 2017 at 3:19 am

      it does have a HUGE impact. I have noticed that when I am with positive people, I feel so much better!!

  • Reply Megan Hallier January 6, 2017 at 7:49 pm

    I’ve actually found it really hard in college to make friends or stay friends because so often people drop out or classes change and then you just don’t see each other.
    I guess friendship just takes actual effort in the real world unlike school where we all had to hang out everyday.
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    • Reply Alyssa January 11, 2017 at 3:21 am

      yes! they definitely take effort and time for sure

  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law January 6, 2017 at 9:01 pm

    I never had any close friends in high school because I was actually bullied for being friends with everyone. It sounds totally odd but somehow I started high school in the “popular group”, was placed in the “gifted and talented” class because of my grades and befriended the “nerds”, was bullied and rejected by the “popular group” for associating with said “nerds”, then I kind of just became friends with whoever was in my classes (because that’s just how I am) and then often went through periods of having no one to sit with at lunch because no one liked the fact that I liked everyone else… or the people I sat with at lunch were just people I sat with – and not actually my friends because I didn’t fit perfectly within their bubble.

    I always thought that I’d never have real friends and that was just how I’d be – but I was SO wrong. Now I have the most amazing tribe of women around me. They’re all older than me but that’s what I need. These women are my “people” – and their husbands are our people because they’re Jesse’s best friends too. Here I went from thinking I’d never have friends to being amazed by the fact that I have so many people I’d call “close friends” – those who actually care about me and love me unconditionally.

    And holy moly that’s an essay 😉
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    • Reply Alyssa January 11, 2017 at 3:23 am

      ugh I am so sorry to hear that you were bullied. But I am SO happy to hear that you have such amazing women in your life now and an amazing husband!! so awesome how things work out <3

  • Reply Claire B. January 7, 2017 at 1:27 am

    Sending all the love to you, too, girl! <3 I think that cultivating existing relationships is a wonderful goal for this year. Let's see… I met my best girlfriend in the world when we were 7, in second grade (I cannot believe we've been friends 15 years!) and I met my best friend from college because we lived on the same floor our freshman year and were both hot messes, thus giving us something to bond over 😛

    • Reply Alyssa January 11, 2017 at 3:26 am

      awww that’s awesome!! I love hearing how people meet their best friends.

  • Reply Susie @ SuzLyfe January 7, 2017 at 9:08 pm

    Tribes are so important. I met my tribe in a few places: my sorority (which I ended up not spending tons of time in after a few years, but I had created my own little sorority within it!), the blog world, and a few other places along the way.
    You know when you meet the people that are “your people.” Hold them tight and never let them go!
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    • Reply Alyssa January 11, 2017 at 3:26 am

      I feel like the tribe I have in this blogging community is so so special! one I am very grateful for.

  • Reply Joyce @ The Hungry Caterpillar January 7, 2017 at 10:53 pm

    As hard as it can be to end a relationship, I think it’s really insightful that it can, in some cases, help us focus other things that are important to us, as well as help us form important relationships with other people in our lives. So glad you’ve been able to enjoy some fun group fitness classes and hang out with good friends! In the last couple of years, I’ve made a lot of friends through swing dance, but my roommates and a few people in my graduate program have also become awesome friends.
    By the way, did you paint that sign yourself? You are a talented artist. 🙂
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    • Reply Alyssa January 11, 2017 at 3:28 am

      Thank you girl! And no I didn’t- I wish though!!

  • Reply Jillian January 8, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    So much love for you always girlie <3333333

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