Finding a Home within Myself

September 18, 2017 in Recovery

I spent Friday night and Saturday at home. I love college, but I also like having a change of pace and being with my family. Change has never been easy for me. Freshman year, I would get so excited to go home, but coming back to school would be tough. Transitions were painful for me. I would get so excited to go back to school, and coming back home would be a challenge. Once I found my comfortable place, I didn’t want to leave it. It took a while to find that space, so leaving it was even more challenging.

I didn’t start embracing my independence until this year. I felt like I always put so much of myself into others, but never into myself. I talked about this on my Instagram (@blissful_lyss29) and touched on the topic of being single. My inner peace and stability was thrown off so much in the past because I planted seeds into people who could not nurture them. Once someone treated me poorly, I was on the search for another human to make me feel better. Whether that was through friendships or guys, the search for validation from others was one that I was constantly on.

Once I started to do more work on myself, I found more inner peace than I thought was possible. With working on making myself whole, I created a home within myself that I spent time nurturing and caring for. I stopped throwing my worth into other people’s hands, embraced difficulties and discomfort, and realized that whatever destination this life brought me to, I would be okay- simply because I have this home within myself. I am connected to my mind, body, and soul, and I take care of myself.


When I created a home within my own heart, change became easier, my confidence grew, and I developed an intimate relationship with myself. One that consisted of self-love, self-care, spiritual practices, not putting my energy into people that don’t give it back to me, and living an authentic life.


When I returned home to myself, I realized how truly unique and beautiful I am. What an utter shame it is to put every layer of my being into someone else’s hands that is undeserving of it… when I could simply be trusting in my own intuition and power and cultivating more happiness by myself. Finding a home within myself has made this life better. I spent a month away with complete strangers and was able to care for myself and treat myself with love, come back home and transition nicely. I am able to adjust to change better and check in with myself if I’m feeling a bit anxious. I am able to throw myself into new situations, or simply just embrace the discomfort of life and always being kind with myself in doing so.

I challenge you this Monday to let yourself inLet yourself come back into your heart space and work on making yourself feel whole again.

and tell me… what is one self-care practice you’ve been loving lately?? 

xoxo. <3 

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  • Reply Maria September 18, 2017 at 4:49 pm

    So much wisdom in this post… long time reader here (too shy to comment much) and amazed by your journey. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, they have helped and inspired me greatly. Thank you a million times!!

    • Reply Alyssa September 25, 2017 at 2:54 am

      aw my goodness you are such a sweet human.. thank you so so much maria!! sending you all the love and light <3

  • Reply kat September 18, 2017 at 8:57 pm

    Love this girl <3
    I've been pretty lax on my self-care lately if I'm being honest. It really is something that I need to do more of, but I guess I consider my gym time kind of like my self-care time. It's the one time that nothing else matters – its just me and my sweat, my heart thundering in my chest and my body moving, pushing and pulling. I could never do without that time, so I guess that's kind of my self-care 😉
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    • Reply Alyssa September 25, 2017 at 2:54 am

      that’s so lovely you have a form of self-care that takes you outside the stressors of life!

  • Reply Catherine @ A Cup of Catherine September 19, 2017 at 3:40 pm

    This is a beautiful post, Alyssa. And so, so wise. I struggle with transitions, too – always have. Definitely needed to read this today! ❤
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    • Reply Alyssa September 25, 2017 at 2:55 am

      thank you catherine… always so happy to see you stopping by my blog <3

  • Reply Ellie September 19, 2017 at 10:47 pm

    One self care practice I’ve been loving lately is allowing myself to get rid of things. I always feel like I should save stuff or keep things because I am blessed to have them. However, letting things that I don’t use as much or are not important makes me feel free 🙂
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    • Reply Alyssa September 25, 2017 at 2:56 am

      thats a great thing!! sounds like you’re on the path to a more minimalist life 🙂

  • Reply Maria September 20, 2017 at 10:38 am

    I loved reading this so much – so well written and I am so happy to hear that you are putting trust in yourself and are practicing self-care and self-love to the fullest as doing that is much harder than it sounds. Recently, I’ve been loving mindfulness as a means of getting accustomed to just being in the moment, being with myself and my thoughts and accepting whatever emotions I may be experiencing as a normal part of the human condition. And of course, a workout is the best way to connect with my body and appreciate what it can do. Much love and I hope you’re having an amazing week so far – so happy I came across your wonderful blog!
    maria |

    • Reply Alyssa September 25, 2017 at 2:56 am

      aw I am so glad you stumbled across my blog 🙂 much love to you! love that you are working on being more mindful too!!

  • Reply Emily September 20, 2017 at 7:40 pm

    Self care practice that I love to do is to just relax and read blogs. It’s weird, but I love to do it especially in the evening when I don’t have anything else I need to do.
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    • Reply Alyssa September 25, 2017 at 2:57 am

      evening time is a great time for it!

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