I spent Friday night and Saturday at home. I love college, but I also like having a change of pace and being with my family. Change has never been easy for me. Freshman year, I would get so excited to go home, but coming back to school would be tough. Transitions were painful for me. I would get so excited to go back to school, and coming back home would be a challenge. Once I found my comfortable place, I didn’t want to leave it. It took a while to find that space, so leaving it was even more challenging.
I didn’t start embracing my independence until this year. I felt like I always put so much of myself into others, but never into myself. I talked about this on my Instagram (@blissful_lyss29) and touched on the topic of being single. My inner peace and stability was thrown off so much in the past because I planted seeds into people who could not nurture them. Once someone treated me poorly, I was on the search for another human to make me feel better. Whether that was through friendships or guys, the search for validation from others was one that I was constantly on.
Once I started to do more work on myself, I found more inner peace than I thought was possible. With working on making myself whole, I created a home within myself that I spent time nurturing and caring for. I stopped throwing my worth into other people’s hands, embraced difficulties and discomfort, and realized that whatever destination this life brought me to, I would be okay- simply because I have this home within myself. I am connected to my mind, body, and soul, and I take care of myself.
When I created a home within my own heart, change became easier, my confidence grew, and I developed an intimate relationship with myself. One that consisted of self-love, self-care, spiritual practices, not putting my energy into people that don’t give it back to me, and living an authentic life.
When I returned home to myself, I realized how truly unique and beautiful I am. What an utter shame it is to put every layer of my being into someone else’s hands that is undeserving of it… when I could simply be trusting in my own intuition and power and cultivating more happiness by myself. Finding a home within myself has made this life better. I spent a month away with complete strangers and was able to care for myself and treat myself with love, come back home and transition nicely. I am able to adjust to change better and check in with myself if I’m feeling a bit anxious. I am able to throw myself into new situations, or simply just embrace the discomfort of life and always being kind with myself in doing so.
I challenge you this Monday to let yourself in. Let yourself come back into your heart space and work on making yourself feel whole again.
and tell me… what is one self-care practice you’ve been loving lately??
Facebook: Blissful Lyss
Youtube: Alyssa Cristadoro