“Don’t let your mind bully your body”

October 31, 2016 in Recovery

Hi guys and happy Monday!

I hope you all had a happy Halloweekend if you celebrated/dressed up. 🙂

I was peanut butter on Friday and my roommate was Jelly, and on Saturday my best friend and I were hippies!

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Jumping into what I actually want to talk about in this post…

The whole idea of not letting your mind bully your body.

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“Don’t let your mind bully your body it believing it must carry the burden of its worries.”

We’ve all been there- we’ve had some bad thoughts about ourselves. What we ate, how we look, whether or not we did well on a test, feeling like we didn’t do enough in the gym. I guarantee you each and every one of you have had these thoughts before, and I know for sure I have.

The thing is, it’s normal to have these thoughts. There are days where I feel shitty physically- I feel bloated sometimes and just feel like throwing on a pair of yogas and a loose shirt because I don’t want anything hugging my stomach too tightly, I feel lazy sometimes or like I “should” be doing something when I’m relaxing, I feel like maybe I should’ve said no to the mozzarella sticks I ate at 11:30 at night, there are times when my mind tells me a whole lot of things that are far from positive. I’m not a robot and I’m not going to sit behind this computer screen and tell you that every thought that passes through my brain is a positive one- because they aren’t. Sometimes they’re pretty freakin’ ugly. Sometimes my anxiety is alll over the place and my brain just feels like it’s going to explode.

When we let our mind and our thoughts control the way we act towards our bodies, we are never going to achieve a healthy relationship with ourselves, and we are certainly not going to be happy. How could we be happy if just because we don’t feel good about ourselves we stay in for the night and don’t go out with our friends?? Or just because we feel a little bloated we decide to not get dessert even when our bodies are craving one. When we let our thoughts about ourselves and our bodies dictate the way we treat them, we are bound to have a negative relationships with our bodies. We certainly aren’t showing our bodies any love when we force ourselves to go to the gym when it’s the last thing we want to do, or we only workout because we are feeling a little “pudgy.” We aren’t doing those things out of love for ourselves, we are doing them as punishment for our bodies.

The difference between now and the past is that I don’t let my mind bully my body and I don’t take these thoughts out on myself. I recognize that I’m having them and I don’t pretend like they’re not there, because I tried that and it doesn’t work either. Say I’m feeling kinda “blec” for eating some less “healthy” food late at night. I recognize that, then I move on. I don’t go into the day with the mindset that just because I had that little thought I need to bully my body and not eat as much and shove kale down my throat all day. I go into my day as I would any other day. I fuel my body, I eat, I rest, and I don’t just sit and think about how I ate some greasy food late at night. I recognize that life is about doing that; being spontaneous and having fun, eating less “healthy” things with the people I love because life is too short to not do that. I missed out on so many of those memories before, and I remind myself that I won’t miss out on them again. When I have a negative thought, I recognize it, I realize it is not rational, then I move on. I don’t sit there and dwell. I don’t obsess about it. I just think to myself, “I know this thought isn’t true. It’s okay I had it. Now let’s move on with the rest of my day.”

It took me a long long time to get to that point. It took me a long time to not take those thoughts out on my body. What helped me the most is recognizing that by taking the negative thoughts out on my body, I am only hurting myself. I am only dragging myself down- not anyone else- just me. And by letting these negative thoughts create an unhealthy relationship with my body, I am simply digging myself into a bigger whole of unhappiness. 

I survived because the fire inside me burned brighter than the fire around me.”

Let the fire inside of you burn brighter than the fire around you. You have the power to not let your mind bully your body, and to not let the negative thoughts you have control you and dictate how you live your life.


Now tell me: 

If you dressed up this weekend, what was your costume?

What is one thing you do to cope with negative talk? 

Have a great Monday guys and a good start to your week!

Xoxo

Lyss <3

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34 Comments

  • Reply Megan Hallier October 31, 2016 at 4:04 am

    I love your pb and j costumes! When I start talking negatively about myself I recite scriptures with God’s truth about me in them.
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  • Reply Mackenzie October 31, 2016 at 6:45 am

    I know I say this all the time, but you are inspirational, darlin. You bring such a genuine heart and so so many people resonate with this deeply. Thankful you are hear, spreading your wisdom and encouragement!
    – Dressed up as Holy Guacamole (my husband was the 2nd amendment) : https://mackmarie.com/2016/10/19/long-time-no-update/
    – Negative talk: Combat it with positive talk. You know the saying for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction? There is ALWAYS a way to spin something positive when it is negative. And I don’t mean falsely… but probably even more realistically than the negative thought.

    Thank you for posting, Lyss <3

    • Reply Alyssa November 7, 2016 at 5:28 am

      Thank you SO much, I am so grateful for your support <3
      Totally agree that there is always a way to spin something negative into something positive- it all has to do with our mindset!

  • Reply Steph October 31, 2016 at 10:48 am

    Your costumes were great! I might be a cat! What a wonderful post, thanks for all the help you give us Alyssa, you are very insightful and you are prove that you can stop your mind from destroying the beautiful body the supreme being has given you. Peace my love!!!!

    • Reply Alyssa November 7, 2016 at 5:29 am

      Thank you mom, I love you LOTS!

  • Reply Claire @ My Pink & Green Life October 31, 2016 at 1:01 pm

    I love the PB&J costume idea… you guys are super cute. 🙂 And I love this post. It is so true. It took me so long to realize that oftentimes when I was stressed, I just projected those feelings onto my body instead of dealing with them outright–which is what I should have been doing!
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    • Reply Alyssa November 7, 2016 at 5:30 am

      Thank you Claire! 🙂
      When I was stressed I did the exact same thing. Dealing with them outright is hard but so much healthier for ourselves!

  • Reply Emily October 31, 2016 at 1:33 pm

    Lyss, I LOVE this. It’s amazing, because part of the service yesterday at church was an exhortation about self-control as part of the fruit of the Spirit. And he said that it’s so important to control your body and mind, because your body or mind can go out of control. I know that that’s SO true when it comes to an ED and recovery. If you don’t control your mind and fill it with Philippians 4:8 thoughts, then your mind just goes crazy. I love your strategy for going into the day like any other day. It makes it so simple and reminds me that it is okay to have greasy food or ___(fill in the blank). This is so important because the mind is so powerful in recovery.
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    • Reply Alyssa November 7, 2016 at 5:31 am

      Totally agree Em, we have to control our mind and what we think or it has the power to take over us and fill us with negativity which is never a good thing. Thank you for your support love <3

  • Reply Taylor October 31, 2016 at 7:40 pm

    Great post!! I definitely used to let my mind bully my body. I used to feel so bad if I ate bad or missed a workout, but these days I just move on. I’m not sure what the turning point was for me, but life is a lot more pleasant this way! xoxoxo
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    • Reply Alyssa November 7, 2016 at 5:32 am

      Life is so much more pleasant when we don’t let our mind bully our body- we can actually fully live and learn to love ourselves more and more each day!

  • Reply Jenny Jo October 31, 2016 at 8:09 pm

    Wow this is such a genuine post. It’s so nice when people bring up body awareness/appreciation topics because so many of us can relate to it in one way or another and when all these points are laid out and you can be like “oh yeah, me too” its literally a relief knowing that you’re not the only one thinking these particular thoughts. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this!

    • Reply Alyssa November 7, 2016 at 5:33 am

      Thank YOU for reading and your input Jenny! <3 xoxo

  • Reply Kate November 1, 2016 at 1:35 am

    Love that quote! The fire in us must burn brightly. I’m so thankful I have Jesus to learn on because some days keeping the fire burning is hard.
    Such a great message for all!

    • Reply Alyssa November 7, 2016 at 5:33 am

      I loved that quote too, it really stuck with me and I saved it on my phone. Such a good reminder!

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  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law November 1, 2016 at 5:28 am

    I love this so much! We are often our own worst enemy and it’s so not fair!

    I love that quote so much! <3
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    • Reply Alyssa November 7, 2016 at 5:34 am

      we are our own worst enemy and our own worst critic! crazy how hard we can be on ourselves and how much pressure we put on ourselves

  • Reply Heather @ Polyglot Jot November 1, 2016 at 11:53 am

    This is such a great post! I am guilty of doing this and when I catch myself, I simply replace it with a compliment to myself.
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    • Reply Alyssa November 7, 2016 at 5:34 am

      I like that approach Heather! I think replacing a negative thought with a compliment is such a good idea.

  • Reply Brittany November 1, 2016 at 1:27 pm

    Haha love your costumes!! And loved this post. I often catch myself worrying about gaining weight while studying abroad, so I need to just remember how wonderful my body is for taking me around to all of the wonderful places I’ve visited so far!

    Hope you had a nice Halloween 🙂

    • Reply Alyssa November 7, 2016 at 5:37 am

      Thank you Brittany! You do need to remember all your body can do for you and not put such an emphasis on looks- like you said, your body is capable of taking you around to see all these amazing places and that is such an awesome thing!

  • Reply Liv @ Healthy Liv November 1, 2016 at 3:14 pm

    Peanut butter + jelly is such a fun roommate costume to do together! And I love this post, Alyssa! Being kind to ourselves is so important 🙂
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    • Reply Alyssa November 7, 2016 at 5:37 am

      Thank you so much Liv!

  • Reply Edye November 2, 2016 at 12:36 am

    Your costume was so cute and fits your love for nut butter perfectly 😉 I feel like if I’m relaxing I still need to be doing something, too. I’m learning that rest is something our bodies not just need, but require. We should never feel guilty about taking care of our souls.
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    • Reply Alyssa November 7, 2016 at 2:29 pm

      hehe thank you Edye! Rest is something our bodies require and like you said, we should never let our minds trick us into thinking differently!

  • Reply kat November 2, 2016 at 12:41 pm

    This is such a great post beautiful girl <3 I bully myself OFTEN [as Im sure a lot of women do!] but its just one of those things that I try to push back. I am so blessed to have the life that I have – and God could care less what physical shape my body has. He cares about the depths of my heart! That's what I try to focus on more of and let the other crap go. It doesn't always work but when I can focus on BIGGER things it really helps to put it all into perspective.
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    • Reply Alyssa November 7, 2016 at 2:30 pm

      putting things into perspective really helps me too and looking at the big picture. Thank you for your input on this Kat!

  • Reply Melanie November 2, 2016 at 2:38 pm

    I love this message Alyssa! I’ve been having some negative thoughts creep up lately about body image and how my clothes fit. I’m trying to be aware of the thoughts and not ignore them, and instead counteract them with something positive about myself. It takes a lot of effort to be aware of negative thoughts and not let them bully our bodies. Thanks for this great reminder <3 by the way, you and your roommate looked so cute in those costumes!!

  • Reply Alyssa November 7, 2016 at 2:30 pm

    love that method of counteracting those thoughts with a positive one! such a good approach to have Melanie 🙂

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