Hi guys and happy Monday!
I hope you all had a happy Halloweekend if you celebrated/dressed up. 🙂
I was peanut butter on Friday and my roommate was Jelly, and on Saturday my best friend and I were hippies!
Jumping into what I actually want to talk about in this post…
The whole idea of not letting your mind bully your body.
“Don’t let your mind bully your body it believing it must carry the burden of its worries.”
We’ve all been there- we’ve had some bad thoughts about ourselves. What we ate, how we look, whether or not we did well on a test, feeling like we didn’t do enough in the gym. I guarantee you each and every one of you have had these thoughts before, and I know for sure I have.
The thing is, it’s normal to have these thoughts. There are days where I feel shitty physically- I feel bloated sometimes and just feel like throwing on a pair of yogas and a loose shirt because I don’t want anything hugging my stomach too tightly, I feel lazy sometimes or like I “should” be doing something when I’m relaxing, I feel like maybe I should’ve said no to the mozzarella sticks I ate at 11:30 at night, there are times when my mind tells me a whole lot of things that are far from positive. I’m not a robot and I’m not going to sit behind this computer screen and tell you that every thought that passes through my brain is a positive one- because they aren’t. Sometimes they’re pretty freakin’ ugly. Sometimes my anxiety is alll over the place and my brain just feels like it’s going to explode.
When we let our mind and our thoughts control the way we act towards our bodies, we are never going to achieve a healthy relationship with ourselves, and we are certainly not going to be happy. How could we be happy if just because we don’t feel good about ourselves we stay in for the night and don’t go out with our friends?? Or just because we feel a little bloated we decide to not get dessert even when our bodies are craving one. When we let our thoughts about ourselves and our bodies dictate the way we treat them, we are bound to have a negative relationships with our bodies. We certainly aren’t showing our bodies any love when we force ourselves to go to the gym when it’s the last thing we want to do, or we only workout because we are feeling a little “pudgy.” We aren’t doing those things out of love for ourselves, we are doing them as punishment for our bodies.
The difference between now and the past is that I don’t let my mind bully my body and I don’t take these thoughts out on myself. I recognize that I’m having them and I don’t pretend like they’re not there, because I tried that and it doesn’t work either. Say I’m feeling kinda “blec” for eating some less “healthy” food late at night. I recognize that, then I move on. I don’t go into the day with the mindset that just because I had that little thought I need to bully my body and not eat as much and shove kale down my throat all day. I go into my day as I would any other day. I fuel my body, I eat, I rest, and I don’t just sit and think about how I ate some greasy food late at night. I recognize that life is about doing that; being spontaneous and having fun, eating less “healthy” things with the people I love because life is too short to not do that. I missed out on so many of those memories before, and I remind myself that I won’t miss out on them again. When I have a negative thought, I recognize it, I realize it is not rational, then I move on. I don’t sit there and dwell. I don’t obsess about it. I just think to myself, “I know this thought isn’t true. It’s okay I had it. Now let’s move on with the rest of my day.”
It took me a long long time to get to that point. It took me a long time to not take those thoughts out on my body. What helped me the most is recognizing that by taking the negative thoughts out on my body, I am only hurting myself. I am only dragging myself down- not anyone else- just me. And by letting these negative thoughts create an unhealthy relationship with my body, I am simply digging myself into a bigger whole of unhappiness.
I survived because the fire inside me burned brighter than the fire around me.”
Let the fire inside of you burn brighter than the fire around you. You have the power to not let your mind bully your body, and to not let the negative thoughts you have control you and dictate how you live your life.
Now tell me:
If you dressed up this weekend, what was your costume?
What is one thing you do to cope with negative talk?
Have a great Monday guys and a good start to your week!
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