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Self-Care This Week

January 5, 2018 in Recovery

“If your compassion doesn’t include yourself, then it is incomplete.” -Jack Kornfield 

Here are some of the ways I was compassionate with myself this week and took care of myself:

1. Drawing

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-> Picking up a piece of paper and pencil is so therapeutic.

2. Yoga

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-> I typically do my own flows at home or videos from Yoga With Adrienne on YouTube. This week, I went to a Hatha class at a studio nearby. This practice of going inward aids in my ability to keep peace in my mind and stay grounded.

3. Reading

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I finished The Sun and her Flowers by Rupi Kaur this week.

4. Coffee, journaling, and music

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5. Netflix

-> Vampire Diaries has been my go-to show.

6. Lighting candles, burning incense, diffusing oils… all of this helps me to relax more and brings more light into my room which I love in the cold winter season.

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8. Face masks

Those are some of the ways I took care of myself this week and fed my soul. All of this stuff makes me happy and feel so GOOD. Taking this time to do things we love goes a long way for our mental well-being. Take this time for you friends!

Tell me… what did you do to take care of yourself this week? How were you gentle with yourself? 

Have a happy Friday! xoxo

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Wednesday Reminders

December 20, 2017 in Recovery

HELLO. I am (almost) done with school! One more paper to submit today by 1:30 pm. Then freedom and onto bigger things next semester, like studying abroad! Just wanted to pop in today to share some important reminders with you to keep you on track with your self-love journey.

1.for when you’re feeling stuck and down…

it’s just how life works you know? one moment you’re on the ground crying, the next you’re at a beach moving with the sound of the waves, a cold drink in your hand and a fresh watermelon by your side. these moments- the crying on the floor at 3 am moments. the staying in bed until 2 pm curled in a ball because the world is crumbling and you are losing any bit of stability you had left. all of these moments matter. but somehow we are able to pick ourselves out of that bed and open our curtains when the light seemed so foreign to us. we are able to make it to that beach and drink that drink and savor every bit of that watermelon. it’s the beauty of life. the beauty of strength. 

2. for when you’re struggling to love your body…

women: you do not have to be smaller. you do not have to look liker her. you do not have to do crunches until you get rug burn on your neck and you do not have to rip yourself apart every time you look in the mirror. you do not need to be embarrassed if your hips are “big.” let those hips move freely my friend and take up as much damn space as needed. 

3. for when you feel stunted with your growth…

“You’ll be different. You’ll be different from the self that you were. You’re constantly growing.”

4. for when you’re feeling overwhelmed…

get grounded. when your sitting or standing, actually feel how your grounded into the earth. you are here on this planet, you are grounded and strong.

5. for when things seem complicated…

“in thinking, keep to the simple. in conflict, be fair and generous. in governing, don’t try to control. in work, do what you enjoy. in family life, be completely present.” -Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

Wishing you all a happy Wednesday. <3 xoxo

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Self-Love Christmas Gift Guide

December 11, 2017 in Recovery

I love reading these, so I thought I’d make my own. All of these are self-love / self-care themed gifts that I genuinely love and think you all will too!

Books

Some of my favorites:

“The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brené Brown

“The Essential Rumi, New Expanded Edition” by Rumi

“The Princess Saves Herself in this One” by Amanda Lovelace

“Shifting Bone” by Alison Malee

“Yoga and the Quest for the True Self” by Stephen Cope

“Present over Perfect” by Shauna Niequist

“Milk and Honey” and “The Sun and her Flowers” by Rupi Kaur

Crystals

Crystals are so healing and can definitely help in deepening your spiritual practice. Some of my favorites:

Amethyst: relaxing, helps with anxiety and day-to-day stressors

Lapis Lazuli: aids in living your truth, opening the throat chakra, tuning in with your intuition

Black Tourmaline: associated with protection and staying grounded

Turquoise: calming energy and emotional balance

Selenite: removes negative energy and anxiety

I get mine from Poshmark, Etsy, or local stores!

Essential Oil Diffuser 

They have these on Amazon and a bunch of different stores now. I got mine from GNC!

10 Reasons Every Home Should Have An Essential Oil Diffuser

Essential Oils 

Some of my favorites:

Lavender

Frankincense

Peppermint 

Skin Care 

Doing facials is one of my favorite forms of self-care. Some of my favorite (and inexpensive) facials:

 

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Yes To Tomatoes Charcoal Mud Mask

 

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Alba Botanica Hawaiian Detox Sheet Mask 

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Fré Purify Me Facial Cleanser. This is on the more expensive side, but I love this company because for every skincare set you buy, an Argan tree will be planted to help replenish the Argan forest and support women who harvest Argan oil in Morocco. So cool. : )

Yoga Mat

You all know how healing I think yoga is… so obviously I had to include a yoga mat on this list. I got mine from Gaiam for a cheap price. I also got my yoga towel from this brand too!

Studio Select Dry-Grip Yoga Mat (5mm) black rolled

Journals

Journaling is such a soothing activity for me, and is something I always tell people to start doing.

Etsy has recycled journals and notebooks.

 

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Tea

I love making time to sit down and have a cup of hot tea. My favorite kinds are peppermint, passion, chai, pumpkin, and green tea.

Candles 

Lighting candles in the winter and bringing more light, as well as a good scent, helps me cope with the shorter days and the fact that the sun sets around 4:00 pm.

Himalayan Salt Lamp 

These do so many beneficial things. Not only do they look cool, but they also cleanse the air, improves the quality of sleep, enhance your mood, and lessen symptoms of seasonal affective disorder.

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Hope this gift guide gives you all some good ideas for the Holiday Season. All of these things I truly do LOVE and have helped me a lot in my own life!

Have you read any of those books?

Any book recommendations? 

Do you use essential oils? 

Happiest of Monday’s friends! 

xoxo <3 

Repairing Broken Relationships

December 8, 2017 in Recovery

My eating disorder destroyed my relationships. It left me numb, angry, depressed, and alone. My eating disorder did not let me have any companions besides the ED itself. It was too exhausting. Other people ruined ED and I’s relationship. They got in the way of food rules. They did not eat how I did. They took away from workout time. They disrupted my strict food routine. In my eating disorder, it was just me and the disorder doing “life,” or at the time what seemed like fully living, by ourselves.

The relationships broken hurt me, yet I was to sick to let that motivate me on my journey towards healing. The relationship with my parents slipped away from my fingertips, and that was the one that hurt the most.

Meal time was a war zone in our household. My parents, two of the people whom gave me so much love and light, become enemies in my eyes. They wanted to feed me, something my disorder and I did not want in the slightest. I began to see my parents as horrible human beings just because they were trying to nourish me. They spent years talking to my eating disorder instead of Alyssa, and I can’t imagine how exhausting and frustrating that must have been.

I never thought I’d be able to repair this relationship. When things were bad in my household, they weren’t just a few raised voices here and there. It was tears, thrown yogurts, yelling, and days went without speaking to give my family members the silent treatment. I saw very little hope in living a normal life again and having my relationships, especially the one with my Mom and Dad, be fixed.

When I went into treatment on my own terms and willingly admitted to my mother that this disorder was suffocating me, I began to feel the chains of this disorder loosen. I began to feel something besides extreme anger and frustration, and it was an incredibly powerful moment for me. Fast forward to when I was out of treatment and to the start of a new year where I was actively trying to shove my eating disorder to the curb, I had more powerful moments like that. And I was beginning to see that without my eating disorder, I could feel my Mother’s love. And because my eating disorder wasn’t holding me hostage and letting me simply feel, I was able to reciprocate that love back to her. Fast forward a few months, I was able to do the same thing for my Father. When I stopped caring so damn much about how many calories I was eating and if I ate too much etc. etc. etc., I could care about others, and others could have more emotions towards me besides worry and fear; for they saw that I was getting ahold of my life and this disorder. I was working towards freedom.

I apologized to my parents several times. They apologized to me. There was tremendous forgiveness: of myself, of my parents… forgiveness that my parents had to grasp for themselves and of me. Trust had to be earned that I would not slip back into ED’s ways: both on my end and my parent’s. With time, this all flowed together. With time, I began to realize how much love I had in my heart that I wanted to share with others. This emotion had been taken from me for so many years while living in my illness, and I was so happy to spread it. My friendships returned: both old and new, my brother and I became closer, and my parents and I were able to have a wonderful, healthy, loving relationship despite all that we had gone through on this journey of healing together.

Time heals all wounds. But first, you need to actively work on healing your own.

Seek help: for yourself, knowing that when you are your best self, you can give so much more to others and have stronger relationships. Let go of your eating disorder. Soften. You will see how when you let go of ED, you will regain back these connections you thought were long gone.

Find some fight in your soul. An ED will not take all connections and healthy relationships from you if you don’t let it.

Have a blessed weekend friends! Hope you do something kind for yourself and spend time with the people who make you smile. xoxo 

Inner work brings Inner Peace

December 4, 2017 in Recovery

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I heard this saying over the summer, and it’s stuck with me since.

Inner work brings inner peace. What we do to better ourselves, the work we put into ourselves… it all comes together in cultivating internal peace. It all seems easy when laid out on paper, but actually bringing this statement into action is a challenge.

There are times when I don’t want to do the inner work. For me, inner work consists of taking care of myself. Using coping skills. Taking the time to unwind. Tuning into what I truly need in that moment. There are times when I want to throw the coping skills out the window and just wallow in my thoughts or negativity, but I know that’s taking the easy way out. Doing this inner work- choosing to use these skills and do what’s best for me goes a LONG way.

Example 1… 

Sunday afternoon I was feeling a little anxious and out of sorts. I picked up my journal, put on calming music, lit a candle, and wrote poetry and just how I was feeling. Instead of mindlessly scrolling through social media or sitting among my uneasiness, I picked up my journal because I knew it would make me feel better- and it did.

Example 2… 

I did a short yoga flow when I was feeling out of touch with my emotions. Instead of remaining stuck in my head, I got on my mat and went into my body. I chose to quiet down my mind and let my body’s signals move me through this practice.

Example 3… 

I cancelled plans to go out a few nights ago. Working inwards sometimes means canceling plans or saying no. Instead of putting myself in a situation I did not want to be in, I said no. I stayed home, watched a TV show, lit my incense, and enjoyed a yummy snack.

->Using our coping skills is not as easy as people make it seem. Making the time for self-care is something we have to consciously fit into our schedules. I am a firm believer that there is always time to take care of ourselves and do this internal work. Whether it’s just 5 minutes a day, that time can go a long way.

Take this post as a reminder for your Monday to keep working on yourself. The journey of internal work does NOT stop. We can always keep improving ourselves and growing. When we are doing this work, more peace inevitably will come. And when it does come, let your soul just rest in it, marinade in its sweetness and take all of it in.

I hope you focus on this internal work today and keep on this path of achieving more peace and harmony within yourself.

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Post Thanksgiving Reminders

November 24, 2017 in Recovery

Yesterday was a lovely day. My family and I went on a beautiful nature walk, relaxed, and went to dinner at this yummy place. It was so nice to just chill and be present in the moment.

I know Thanksgiving is a challenging time for anyone recovering from an eating disorder. I know the Holidays can seem daunting in general. I know the day after Thanksgiving can seem overwhelming. I understand these feelings. I wanted to give you all some reminders post-Thanksgiving to keep yourself on course with your self-love journey.

  1. What you ate yesterday does not dictate what you eat today. You need food today. Nourish yourself. Nourish your body. Nourish your soul.
  2. It’s okay if you feel a little bloated today. The bloat will pass. It always does. Remind yourself this: the bloat always passes, but the memories you made on Thanksgiving will always be with you. Hold that close to your heart. The bloat fades away but the memories last forever. 
  3.  Do not kill yourself in the gym today. Do not force your body to do any movement if you don’t want to. You do not have to run 5 miles today. You do not have to do anything if that’s what feels best for you. Do not use movement as a form of punishment.
  4. Diet talk will be around you. It’s inevitable. Focus on you and your personal journey. Do not engage in this talk. Do not let this talk dictate your actions. You know what’s best for you. Just because someone is saying they need to go on a diet does NOT mean you do. YOU know what you need, and you do not need a diet.
  5. Do not fall in the “get back on track” mentality. You never “fell off” the track. You just ate a Thanksgiving meal. That’s it! No need to shame yourself for that and fall victim to the “get back on track” thinking. Keep doing what you usually do: listening to your body, being gentle with yourself, and honoring what you need.
  6.  Stop worrying! Take a deep breath. You got this. Keep filling your heart with love for YOURSELF and stop wasting energy on disordered thoughts around food and self-hatred. Let those thoughts flow out of your brain.

Need some extra support today?

Read these posts!

-> You don’t need to get “back on track”

-> Food is just Food

-> Your Diet is not the Catalyst to Happiness

-> Bloating 

Sending you all love, wishing you peace, and hoping you had a great Holiday with loved ones!

Xoxo

Lyss<3

Ebb and Flow

November 20, 2017 in Recovery

Ebb & Flow

“She yearns to learn how his tide is turned; to understand each grain of sand he knows, to move in rhythm with his ebb and flow.” -Lang Leav

Sometimes I have the tendency of getting caught in my head. The thoughts in my brain have the ability to tangle me, the “should’s” leave me wondering if I am doing enough, and the comparisons result in questioning my own choices. I do not have a perfect mind, but I am human and therefore not perfect. I accept the times where I feel small and my mind feels a bit darker because I know that’s part of the ebb and flow. I know that is part of life. We must ebb and flow.

I used to have to beat myself up every time I didn’t feel completely put together. I set high expectations on myself to walk around this world completely unshaken. And for the times I did feel broken, I would shame myself for it. The times I felt slightly off, I would instantly release negativity towards myself.

But the thing is, we have emotions other than happiness. But isn’t that so beautiful? We have the ability to feel. Sometimes amazing feelings, sometimes feelings that leave you empty. And sometimes, we feel it all and we are caught in a hurricane of emotions. The thing is, it’s okay to feel. Feelings come and go, we must remember that. We will have bad moments, we will also have moments where everything seems to be aligning just right. Instead of running away from the bad moments, what if we learned to just flow with them?

“I relax, I let go, my life is perfect in flow.”

Ebb and flow through every season of your life. Through every emotion. Every moment: from the time you’re crying, to the time where anxiety clutters your heart, to the time where the universe delivers you every possible thing you need. All of these moments, all of these feelings- we must not get too attached to for they all flow in and flow out.

When we let go, we let go of expectations. Of how we think our life should be. We let go of comparisons, we let go of the idea that we aren’t enough and we aren’t doing enough… when we let go, we find peace. For there is peace in surrendering to what doesn’t serve us. When we soften, we stop forcing… and when we stop forcing, we find the true power in following the ebb and flow that is life. We see how our life is like ocean waters, how sometimes the ocean’s waves are big and the current is strong; yet the water always finds a way to return to peacefulness.. we realize that we can breathe in the stillness of these calm waters. We too, like the ocean, can flow.

~I challenge you this week to strive to follow the ebb and flow of your emotions and the ebb and flow of this life. I challenge you to accept your good feelings and your bad feelings for what they are. I challenge you to just flow with it all this week, and I challenge myself to all of these things as well. Let’s flow this week friends.~

happiest of monday’s to you all! sending love and light. xoxo

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Apologize to Yourself

November 13, 2017 in Recovery

I think a lot. It’s who I am. I’m a thinker. Sometimes that’s great, sometimes that’s bad. But I embrace it regardless.

One thing I think a lot about is how we treat ourselves. The way I have treated myself is definitely a valid reason for why I reflect so much on this topic, but also I see many other people treating themselves so poorly. And it really does hurt my heart.

Whether it’s negative self-talk, falling victim to an eating disorder, letting the mirror dictate how you feel, comparing yourselves to others, self-harming, pushing yourself day-in and day-out with excessive exercise, or not accepting yourself for who you truly are; all of these actions are actions of cruelty against the self.

Think how many bad things you have said in regards to your body. Maybe you’re ashamed of it. Ashamed of how you look. Or maybe you just simply hate your body and can find no appreciation for it, because it is not “thin enough” or “toned enough.” And when you’re getting caught in this thought cycle, have you ever once just said, “I am sorry, body.” For your body is not something you should be ashamed of. How could you carry an abundance of hatred for something that has taken you through life thus far, allows you to breath, and pumps blood throughout your body? Your body, it is not bad nor has it ever been bad. And just because you have some belly rolls and stretch marks on your thighs does not qualify it to be bad. So please, apologize to your body. Your body is an unappreciated miracle.

Think of how many destructive things you have done to your body. Restricting. Purging. Self-harm. Laxative abuse. Overexercise. You have harmed yourself. You have hurt your body. You have hurt something that works relentlessly to keep you alive. Give your body an apology for that. For the destructive behaviors you have done against it. It never asked to be treated that way. Your body never deserved those acts of harm.

We are so hard- on ourselves, on our bodies. I see so many individuals go on in this life hating themselves. But hate is heavy, and we must let it go. 

“Be melting snow. Wash yourself of yourself.” -Rumi

We must wash ourselves of our own love, even if we feel like it’s impossible to find. We must stop treating our bodies with such cruelty. We must apologize to ourselves for the hate we projected onto ourselves. We never deserved that hate. Our bodies are the one piece of the universe we’ve been given- how amazing is that? We must be softer with ourselves friends. We are enough. Our bodies are crafted so wonderfully. We do not need to hurt them.

You are so whole and complete as you are. It’s time to just give yourself a hug, apologize to your body, soften, and let go. 

“You are a divine being. You matter, you count. You come from realms of unimaginable power and light.”

Give yourself a hug today friends. Let your light shine. You are SO incredibly enough. Wishing you all a happy Monday. <3 xoxo

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Let Go

October 23, 2017 in Recovery

“There is peace in surrender.” 

On the 20 years I’ve been on this planet, I’ve learned that in creating more peace in my life, I’ve had to let go of what was hurting me. My eating disorder, toxic relationships, activities, sports, unhealthy coping mechanisms, etc. I get asked a lot how I overcame certain things, more specifically, my eating disorder and depression. Sometimes I struggle in formulating a great response, because there was no 4 step plan that I followed and felt automatically cured. A lot of my healing came in truly abandoning what was generating the most pain and suffering in my life.

A lot of us with eating disorders or mental illnesses don’t understand the concept of “softening.” Anorexia made me very hard, it made my edges sharp and left me with a constant itch to control every situation. Everything I ate, every workout I did… this is what I was always thinking about. I held on tightly to my love for restricting calories and purging my food through laxatives and overexercise, because it’s what felt easy for me. This is how I coped with the unknown of life, with the feelings that were not so pretty, with the anxieties that clouded my head. When we find a coping skill, we cling onto it: and this is what I did with my eating disorder- to the point that this disorder became who I was. What happened in my brain that ultimately led to a shift in how I was living my life? I realized what I was doing was not living. It was surviving. And from that point forward, I softened and let go. Was it a straight, easy path in letting go? Absolutely not. And I will never put that message out on the Internet or Instagram that my journey has’t been tough. Because it has been- it’s been messy and confusing, for losing the one thing that you thought was a part of you… losing your one coping skill… that’s challenging. But with inner strength, outside support, and just realizing it is so worth it to truly let go, you will find that peace in surrendering to this disorder.

Depression, on the other hand, made me numb. It left me with the inability to feel anything but sadness. I gripped onto the numb feeling, and felt guilt when any bit of happiness passed through me. I did not “deserve” that feeling like others did, and my mind left me convinced of that. With depression came unhealthy coping skills like sleeping too much, crying- a lot, isolating myself, and self-harming. These coping skills were what felt comfortable for me at the time. I let my depression harden me, make me weak, and leave me in a crippling state of sadness. It is what I knew, and it is how I thought my life was supposed to be. The same shift happened in my brain just as it did with my eating disorder. I realized what I was doing was not living. It was surviving. So again, I let go. I let go and in doing so realized other ways to cope with life’s difficulties that were far healthier than what depression gave me. I forgave myself for what this illness did to me, I did not rush my healing process, and I ultimately realized that strength did not come from holding onto my eating disorder or depression: what made me the strongest human came in letting go and surrendering. 

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“Letting go: being courageous to let go of things that make you feel bad and no longer serve you. /letting go creates space for something better/.” 

What are you going to let go of today? How are you going to soften? 

xoxo

lyss

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Women’s Retreat Talk

October 16, 2017 in Recovery

Hi guys! If you follow me on Instagram (blissful_lyss29) you’ll know I had the gift of leading a women’s interfaith spirituality retreat. I also had the gift of teaching yoga and sharing a speech I wrote on nurturing seasons in our life. I wanted to share it with you in hopes that some of you would connect with it as well!


 

After looking at the evaluations from last years retreat, there were a lot of requests to talk more about self-love, body acceptance, and confidence. After seeing this, I was like “yes this is the stuff I LOVE to talk about.” If you don’t know, I do a lot of work in all these areas through blogging and Instagram and talk a lot about self-love and embracing the body you are in. These topics hold a very special place in my heart.

So I am honestly thrilled to be giving this talk on nurturing seasons today. I think that in life we can find our dharma, or purpose, through what has hurt us the most. And I feel like that is very true in my own life.

The word nurture means to “care for and encourage the growth and development of.” The first thing that comes to mind for me is how we so lovingly nurture a young child. We feed it well, we make sure it gets enough rest, we never say any mean words to it, we are always so gentle with it. There are no actions of cruelty against this young child. We would never neglect it and leave it without care. But the thing is, we so easily do that to ourselves. We forget to treat ourselves with love and we are shy to appreciate who we are. We think we don’t have enough “time” to practice acts of self-love. We are caught in the trend of saying cruel things about ourselves and our bodies. We fight the natural shape we are supposed to be in and try to mold our bodies into what society deems is “beautiful.”

Women spend so much of their lives trying to take up less space, but why? We were given this space on the universe, we might as well own it and stand tall- feet grounded into the earth, our home and the place where we were meant to be. When we are trying to take up less space, we aren’t nurturing ourselves. We aren’t caring for ourselves, we aren’t loving ourselves. I spent years trapped in a terrible mental illness- anorexia nervosa- where I was constantly on a mission to take up less space, to be “less.” When I was 17 years old I realized this was not how I wanted to live my life anymore. Years beyond years of trying to be less, did I realize that less was not more. I deserved more than a less than life.

I live my life a lot differently now than I did in my high-school years. I have finally learned to love my body. And in loving our bodies doesn’t come days where we don’t feel the best about ourselves- I have those days. Those days just make us human. But in loving my body I have found greater appreciation for all it can do. It allows me to walk from class to class. It gives me the ability to climb mountains and teach yoga classes. It allows me to inhale all of the beauty of this world, it lets me dance with my friends and walk my dogs into trails surrounded by nothing but green. In loving my body I have grown so much gratitude for it. The years I spent abusing it, the years I did anything but nurture it… now I have learned to cherish it and treat myself with the utmost respect. For I deserve that, and so does my body.

In nurturing myself, I have grown to only plant kind words into my head, and to water the words that I know beautiful flowers will come from. I spent so many years planting toxic thoughts into my brain, watching flowers die day in and day out. Now I know better. When I plant positive thoughts about myself and body into my brain… even when I may not believe them,  I know that the most beautiful plants will sprout for positive thoughts carry enough power to grow an entire garden.

I value self-care, and it’s something I will always tell people to spend more time doing. We cannot pour from an empty cup. In doing acts of self love and care, we give ourselves the chance to refill our cups. For when our cups are full, we can pour to others. I never understood the topic of self care. It seemed selfish and like a waste of time. But when I realized that I am so worthy of devoting this time to myself during the time to replenish my soul, my life changed: my head became clearer, my soul felt at ease, and I felt a greater sense of peace. Self care for me is through journaling, writing- poetry, blogging, my thoughts; yoga- as a spiritual practice to connect me closer to my innermost self and transcend my ego, using crystals as a healing source or meditating, rejuvenating my soul in nature though walking, hiking, or spending time outside just in silence doing absolutely nothing but listening.

A few years back, I read this quote while on Pinterest. It struck a chord with me, and I will never forget it: “and I said to my body. softly. ‘I want to be your friend.’ it took a long breath and replied, ‘I have been waiting my whole life for this.’” Nurture yourself. Your body needs your love and care. Your mind and soul are craving it, your body wants to be your best friend. Have the most beautiful love story be with yourself- in the way you treat yourself, in the way you live life wholeheartedly, in the way you love and accept every layer of your being.

And to end with two poems; one of my favorite poems by Rupi Kaur, an incredibly talented writer you probably all know, and a poem I wrote myself.

“the universe took its time on you

crafted you precisely

so you could offer the world

something distinct from everyone else

so when you doubt

how you were created

you doubt an energy greater than us both” -RK

 

I quieted the echoes of voices that told me I was a body of imperfections.

I began to realize these imperfections made me real-and I would not let these imperfections become insecurities.

The pain sculpted in my bones and heart was replaced with the utmost appreciation for myself

How wonderful it was to be overflowing with love for every fiber of my being


Thank you guys for reading this. Hoping one day in the future I could share these kinds of things with you all in person!!

Thinking of you all as you spring into a new week and sending you nothing but good vibes and love. Happy Monday!

xoxo. <3 

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