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Stop Food Shaming

June 22, 2017 in Balance / Recovery


The other day I was viewing Instagram stories, and I saw someone shame another’s food choices. And to me it came off as they were “better” for eating that clean protein bar, and the other person was not as good for eating that Nature Valley bar.

There is NO good or bad food. Food is just food. And I am so tired of seeing this message being spread on social media platforms. 

My instant reaction to that Instagram story was frustration. This is why our society has such an unhealthy relationship with food. When we are constantly hearing different foods that are good for us and foods that are bad for us, we start to view food as such a black and white thing. And in order to have a balanced relationship with food, you need to be able to see the grey areas.

Yes, an RX bar is more nutritious than a Nature Valley one, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a Nature Valley bar. It is still fuel, it still has some wholesome ingredients, and they are cheaper than RX bars. Nature Valley bars are not bad, and RX bars are not good. These bars are just snack bars to give our bodies fuel. That’s it. You are not a better person if you chose to eat the RX bar over the Nature Valley bar. Our morality is not tied to the foods we eat, and we often lose sight of that. If you want to eat the RX bar because you actually enjoy it and it feels good for your body, then by all means eat it! But do not go vocalizing to others and in your own head how that Nature Valley bar is bad and “unhealthy.” Because it is not.

What happens when we fall into the food shaming mentality? 

Viewing certain foods as good and bad is detrimental to our mental health. When we view a food as bad, we have the tendency to put that food off limits. And when we say that we cannot have something, our natural instinct as humans is to want that more. What does that lead to? Bingeing. When we also put that “bad” food off limits, it can also just lead to us thinking about it over and over again causing our head space to get a bit foggier and our overall state of happiness to decline.

Viewing food as just food. 

I hardly ever see this mentality around food anymore. Food is such a complicated, messy topic that causes so much stress and anxiety in people’s lives. But the thing is, it shouldn’t. I strongly believe food shaming has a lot to do with it, not to mention the diet industry and unrealistic beauty expectations. But what would happen if we viewed food as just food? No good, no bad. Just looking at food as fuel. Obviously there is the more nutritious food and the “fun” food. But maybe if we worked on being in tune with our bodies and allowing ourselves food from both categories, people’s relationship with food would begin to improve. When we aren’t labeling what we eat as good and bad, it’s also easier to be compassionate to ourselves. Whenever I ate a “bad” food, I felt disgusted with myself. I hated myself for consuming such a disgusting thing and all the love for myself went out the window. But when we eat a cookie and aren’t labeling it as bad, we can be more kind with ourselves. “I just ate that cookie and I LOVED it. It was so good and such a yummy snack to have!” There is no talk about the cookie being bad and any guilt surrounding that cookie. It is just talk of enjoyment! And that’s how it should be.

Food is not like people. There is no good or bad. 

When we think of people, we often label them as good and bad. A good person may have remarkable qualities like being kind, respectful, loving, and caring. And a bad person may have less admirable qualities like being rude, dishonest, vengeful, and irresponsible. These qualities come to mind when I think of good and bad people. So why would we label food the same way that we label people? Are sweet potatoes loving and caring but white potatoes aren’t? You see what I mean?? At the end of the day, it sounds so silly to use this food shaming mentality. Because all food is is just food. It is nourishment. That’s it. No bad, no good. It gives us life, it gives us energy, and it keeps us going. 


Keep growing good thoughts in your brain. About yourself, about this world, about food, about your body.

// only grow thoughts in your brain that you wouldn’t mind putting in a vase //

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Let’s Catch Up+ Some Rambles

June 20, 2017 in About Me / Balance

Hi friends! Usually I post on Monday’s but I was up late Sunday because I was at a concert (which was so fun)!! So I thought I’d pop in today to ramble a bit.

-I’ve been thinking a whole bunch about my future. (while making sure to stay in the present too of course!!) I have this crazy idea of wanting to write a book. If you know me, you know I love reading and writing poetry. I’ve been doing a lot of writing, and the thought of publishing my own book someday has been on my mind. Gah that would just be so amazing for me!! Until then- just more reading and writing. 🙂


(You can find some of my writing on Tumblr, or I have been posting some on my Instagram)

-I spent Saturday at a coffee shop with my mom and it was the best thing ever. We drank all the coffee and did all the writing and reading. This lady is just amazing and I cherish days like this with her. Setting time aside for the things that make my soul flourish is one thing I always need to make sure I am doing. Because afternoons like these make me feel SO dang good.


-Sunday I went to one of the best concerts of my life!! I saw SOJA and the Dirty Heads with my bff (and roomie next year) Krista! The energy at the concert was just so good and they played all my favorite songs. Music holds a very special place in my heart. If you haven’t heard of these bands you gotta check ’em out! SOJA especially has some very powerful lyrics.



**Sometimes I think people forget that those who have fought a mental illness and are recovered still do have bad days. And I just want to reinforce that my life is not perfect by any means. Anxiety plagues me from time to time, I can’t sleep some nights, I worry, I feel inadequate and fall into the comparison trap. I am human and it is normal to feel these things. Authenticity is something I value SO much, and it would be an utter shame to post myself on the internet as being the perfect most put-together person, because I’m not.

My headspace was a bit off last week. I felt overwhelmed, anxious, and pulled in a whole lot of different directions. If you saw my post last week, you know that I have always struggled with anxiety. Sometimes with life’s stressors it gets a bit worse. I will be leaving this Sunday for a month and will be taking on the long but rewarding journey of becoming a certified yoga instructor. The thought of leaving for a month has been freaking me out a bit, but I know that this has been one of my dreams for a very long time. After reading “You Are A Badass” (this book rocks) and hearing that life is too short to put your dreams on hold, it has definitely given me a push in the right direction. I have a whole lot of dreams and goals in my head, and I want to chase them head on.

I am so grateful for the good days in my life, and when the bad one’s hit and I am feeling at a place of struggle, I really dig deep and remind myself that I am human. I am flawed. And I do not have to be ashamed of feeling anxious or feeling weak just because I run a blog and Instagram on mental health. That is why I value authenticity SO much- because by showing you all that I am not perfect, I am showing you all what it is like to live a realistic life style. You are not going to wake up everyday ready to embrace each obstacle thrown at you, you just aren’t. Somedays you’ll wake up with a heavier heart and foggier mind but that doesn’t mean you should be frustrated with yourself. It means you are human, and that little bump in the road will too pass just like the other ones have as well. 73d97d8cf75d856df0629121d12c9541-1.jpg

The moment’s we are feeling uncomfortable? Embrace them. Be fearless in what scares your mind and makes your heart beat faster. I remind myself this daily. Be present, be calm. But do not be afraid of the anxious feeling in your chest or the uncertainty that the future holds, for life is too short to be lived in fear.

All over the place post, but I think I got everything out I wanted to say.  🙂


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Food is just Food

April 10, 2017 in Balance / Recovery

This is something that’s been on my mind lately. The past month actually. So after writing about gendered healthcare in our country why not spit this out into a blog post.

Food is just food.

That’s it.

Food is just food for me. There is no good, there is no bad. There is no right or wrong. There is no right time to eat something, no wrong time to eat something. There are no rules.

Food is just food.

It is not the most important thing in the world. It is not and should not be the most important thing in your life. It is not and should not be the most important thing in your day. There is just so much more to focus on. There is so much more to talk about, so much more to think about than food.

How sad would it be if you missed amazing opportunities because you were worried about the food? How crazy would it be if you missed out on trips because they wouldn’t have the normal “healthy” food you eat every day?

Food is just food.

Food is what powered me through an interfaith women’s retreat this weekend. Food: not kale salads and vegan protein balls; but biscuits and regular yogurt and normal fries.

Food is what powered me through a mission trip last month. Food: not green smoothies and chickpea pasta; but macaroni and cheese and spaghetti.

Food is what carries me through my weeks at college. Food: not the kind I pack in tupperware containers; but the kind I purchase from the dining hall: the bagels and cream cheese, the pb&jellies and caesar salads.

Food carries me through. 

Sometimes this is all the Siggi’s yogurts and edamame in the world. Sometimes it’s all the bagels and pretzels.

But the thing is, food is really just food. 

It gives me energy for when I am tired and lagging. It keeps me fueled through long hours of studying. It keeps my brain thinking about things that have been exciting me so much lately: things I want to do in the future; dreams I want to work on making happen and goals I want to reach. It keeps me fueled through weekends where I am blessed enough to be able to teach yoga, it keeps me fueled through workouts at the gym and walks with friends.

Food is just food.

That’s it. That’s all there is too it. So why put the main center of your life on something so small?

I challenge you today to step outside yourself. Step outside your bubble. Step outside your comfort zone. Do not put all the focus on this one thing. Change it up, switch up your routine, grab a new lunch. Put the sweetener in your coffee. Don’t be afraid. Because the thing is food really is just food. It will not hurt you, it will not harm you. It will keep you energized. For when we are energized, we have the power to make a positive difference in this world. To make a difference in not only our lives, but in someone else’s.


Remember what is truly important in life, and hold that close to your hearts this Monday.

Wishing you all a happy start to your week!! As always, comments are so so welcome. 🙂 Thanks for stopping by friends. 

Sending lots of love, 


Lyss <3

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I’m Glad I Eat at the Dining Hall…?

March 20, 2017 in Balance / College / Recovery

HAPPY MONDAY LOVE BUGS! I hope you all had the best St. Patty’s day weekend and did something fun! 🙂

Today’s post is directly for my college friends out there, but I feel like a lot of people can relate to the gist of this message regardless of if you’re a college student or not. 🙂

I’m glad I eat at the dining hall. Yep, you heard it. Yeah, I’ll complain about the food there sometimes, but I’m glad I have a meal plan at the end of the day. And I’m glad I have access to my college’s dining hall.

I’m glad I eat at the dining hall because…

  1. I don’t have time for meal prep while I’m at school. I don’t have time to make chicken & rice & broccoli on a Sunday night when I’m scrambling to finish assignments or just want to sit on my bum and drink Kombucha/read blogs. It’s not a priority for me. And for me, Netflix/blog time > meal prepping during my free time.
  2. Everyone at my school has a meal plan. It normalizes me and my eating habits. I’m not just going to sit in my room and eat my perfectly little prepped meal or bring tupperware to the dining hall while everyone else is eating food from there. Yeah, nope. That just doesn’t sound appealing to me at all.
  3. Food dates are fun. Same with coffee dates. And when your a college student, half the time those are at the dining hall. And with a meal plan, I am easily able to do that.
  4. Eating at the dining hall = relinquishing control. You don’t know how the food is prepped. You don’t know how many calories is in it. You aren’t making it yourself. You are just going to get some nourishment and fuel, and the rest doesn’t matter. Going to the dining hall is a good way to challenge a disordered mindset around food. It is a good way to just go with the flow and realize that all food really is fuel.
  5. Eating at the dining hall= giving less power to food. You don’t need your perfectly prepped overnight chia seed oats with matcha powder + coconut oil + some other nutrient straight from the earth every morning. Sometimes a bagel does the trick. Or an egg sandwich. Or a muffin. The chia see matcha coconut oil almond butter flax whatever you want to make oats just don’t happen every morning. And that is fine.
  6. It helps me keep my priorities in line. Because sometimes when I’m running in 500 directions all I can manage is a pb&j and some yogurt for lunch while on the go, and that is fine. Other things come first. Food isn’t the #1 most important thing in the entire universe. Sometimes a pb&j gets gobbled down while running late to class instead of a quinoa salad with 10 pounds of vegetables. And that is 1000% okay in my world.

So yeah. I am glad I eat at the dining hall. No, the food isn’t gourmet. But yes, I am thankful to have the privilege of eating there anyways.

No questions for today. Any thoughts are welcome!! Always appreciate them so incredibly much. 🙂 Happy Monday friends, sending tons of love!

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Go with the Flow

March 15, 2017 in Balance / Recovery

Hola friends. It’s humpppp dayyy!! Woo Woo. Going to be jumping into this post so let’s get started.

Going with the flow can be… quite the challenge for me to say the least. I like having a plan. I love routine and schedules. But I have also learned to love going with the flow and just being. Being in the moment and not wanting to be in control. Being spontaneous. Breaking my routine.

The last three weeks have been a prime example.of breaking my routine. With a whole bunch of exams and not being able to go to the gym as much, to getting sick and again not being able to really workout at all, to going on a week long service trip and not having food or exercise be any sort of priority at all.

Last week consisted of pb&j’s for lunch pretty much every day. White bagels, limited exercise besides some yoga here and there and two short runs, and not a whole bunch of fruits and veggies. Last week was a huge test to me to just learn to be. Be in the moment and fully immerse myself into what I was doing. And I think I passed that little mental test of mine. Sure, there were moments where I felt kinda “bleck” about myself, but in no way did I let that interfere with my time in West Virginia. I went with the flow. And it felt pretty freaking good.


I haven’t had a “gym routine” in three weeks. Other things have come up within these past three weeks, and the thing is my body is doing just fine. It didn’t get all the kale salads while in West Virginia but it sure got a lot of love from others and absorbed a great deal of knowledge. The gym will always be there, so will the smoothies and nourishing meals; but experiences like the one I just had won’t.

We all know what we need. For me, I need breaks in my daily ebb and flow of life. And I think these past three weeks were a Godsend in a way to loosen up my sometimes too tight of grip and just let go. A lot of things happened that were completely out of my control. Two exams and two papers all assigned within one week, then getting really sick, and still being sick for the first half of my trip. I couldn’t control any of these things. I had to let go and let God take control. And he did a pretty dang good job of that. Because I still remained calm and content during this time. Because I finally just relaxed and went with the flow. Something that would have been incredibly difficult for me a few years back.

So listen to me on this: your body will be fine if you don’t eat all the kale salads all the time. You will be okay if you take time off from the gym. YOU WILL BE FINE. TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY FINE. The sun will still come up even if you have white bagels for a week. The earth will keep spinning if you sit on your bum bum all day instead of sweating at the gym. The gym will always be there. So will all that green food. Your mental and physical health won’t be, or the awesome experiences that come our way when we least expect it. Take ahold of those experiences. Take ahold of those amazing opportunities.

Chill out. Go take a sip of water and realize that our priorities in life change. Take a step back and just go with itGo with the flow. 

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“Let every moment be what it’s going to be. What’s meant to be will come your way. What’s not will fall away.” 

That’s it for this Wednesday loves.

Now tell me: 

Is it easy for you to go with the flow? 

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How Orthorexia Has Effected Me

February 10, 2017 in Balance / Recovery

Hi guys! Happy Friday. 🙂  MA got hit with a tonnn of snow. Which I love/hate at the same time. But hey, least lots of snow means snow days!!

Jumping into today’s post because intros suck lol. This topic has been on my mind a lot recently. Orthorexia. For those of you who don’t know, orthorexia is the obsession with eating only healthy foods. It’s basically being fixated on how clean your eating. My good friend Sage shared her journey with orthorexia on her blog, and inspired me to share my own journey with it. (This gal rocks. So thankful to go to school with someone as cool/down to earth/sweet as her!!)

Orthorexia friggin sucks. For me, this is how my eating disorder started. I was obsessed with “clean eating.” At first, it was not about restriction. It was about “Is this organic? I can’t eat this and that because the ingredients are chalk full of artificial sweeteners. I can only grocery shop at Whole Foods and I need to spend at least an hour and a half there so I can analyze the back of every product I am buying.”

Let me tell ya from first hand experience: living with orthorexia takes a toll on all aspects of your life. My mind was clouded by thoughts of food: anxiety about food, worry about food, planning the next day of meals. My social life was impacted, and my relationship with my family members. If I wasn’t going to eat white pasta from home, there was no way I would go out to a restaurant and eat food with unknown ingredients. Jeez what if they put too much oil on the chicken or if I ask for whole wheat pasta and bread but they accidentally gave me white!! These were my daily worries and struggles, and man was it sad to live that way.

The thing is, with eating “cleaner” I lost weight in the process. And I loved the compliments I was getting, I loved the attention. I loved feeling in control of ONE thing in my life. So I kept on eating “healthy” but I started to eat a bit less and less. And that of course led to anorexia, which is a whole other story from today’s blog post.

It was a hard battle getting out of this whole health obsessed mindset. I don’t really have one way I did it. I don’t have a few tips to make it all go away, because jeez it was hard for me to just relinquish control and tell my brain to shut the heck up, it was hard to just eat a cookie and not have it be a mental battle of feeling bad for eating a regular cookie and not a “clean” one. i just really had to train my brain to get out of labeling foods as good and bad. I had to train my brain into the mentality that all foods fit. That means that it is JUST as important to have cookies as it is to have carrots. All foods fit for a happy lifestyle. When I would feel bad for eating something less nutrient dense, I really had to get mad at my brain and my thoughts. I would have to in a way give myself a little pep talk. Something along the lines of “Okay Lyss, you wanted that ice cream so you had the freakin’ ice cream. It tasted great. You love ice cream. Life is meant for fun foods too. Now move the heck on.”


I am courageous. I am whole. I stand in my own power.

Another tip of advice: if you are part of the Instagram world, please be cautious of who you follow. (I am going to go on an unfollow spree soon as well). There are so many accounts that are just filled with all “clean and healthy” foods. And I just don’t think that’s normal. If we’re being 100% real here, those accounts have subconsciously affected me, which is why I know it’s time for a little unfollow cleanse on Instagram. When someone’s eating roasted veggies and hummus for a snack, eating a salad for dinner, and eating a green puke colored smoothie for dessert, that’s when I know I gotta let them do their own thang and I gotta do mine. When someone is posting all quest bars, artic zero pictures, 0 calorie syrup, diet foods, etc. I gotta let go of them too. Because they aren’t serving me and my growth.

In all honesty, it’s so freakin’ easy to get caught up in this whole health nut craze. Sometimes I label myself as that, and I never want to only be known as the healthy girl who likes the gym and going to yoga. Because there’s a whole lot more to me than that. In all honesty, sometimes I need to take the stick out of my a$$ and just get a cookie or a brownie. My best friend gave me a little pep talk about this last week. Not that I am struggling with this, but it was just a nice reminder that going out and letting lose with food is just as important as getting in all your fruits and veg. (Gosh I love that girl lol).

There are some gals who really inspire me with their relationship with food. Kylie from Imma Eat That, Kate from The Domestikated Life, and Robyn from The Real Life RD are some awesome ladies who live a BALANCED life with food. BALANCE. That is what we should all strive for. Balance with food means that all foods do fit, it means that you listen to your body and honor your cravings, that you don’t turn into an obsessive freak with ingredients/ how healthy something is. It means food doesn’t take up all your brain space. Balance means you get the cookie one day and the salad another day. But if you want two cookies you get two cookies. And if you want a smoothie and a salad in the same day you do that too. You don’t complicate things, because food is just food. 


“I’ve learned that when you try to control everything, you enjoy nothing.”

No questions today, just would love to hear your thoughts and input on this! And if you have any fun weekend plans, drop ’em in the comments! Hope you all enjoy the weekend. Get some rest and do something FUN! Sending all the love and hugs. <3 

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Weekend Recap: Psychic, Starbucks, & More

February 6, 2017 in Balance / College / Yummy Eats

It’s Mondayyyy. Another new week coming our way. ALSO CAN I GET A HILLL YAAA for the Pats winning!! Jeez what a game and a comeback!!

Going to be recappin’ my weekend for y’all today so let’s get started! 🙂


I started my day with a leg workout. I was home Thursday night- Friday b/c of a dermatologist appointment Thursday afternoon! And I wanted to see the rents. 🙂 After my workout I came home, showered, ate breakfast, then headed back to school for my class at 11:30!

I got lunch with my friend Krista after class then my friends Leah and Rachel joined me to go see a psychic. (Crazy IK lol). It was actually super super cool and I’m glad I did it and got to experience it!! After we went to Bertuccis and talked about our readings over dinner. The lady was so cool and I feel like she definitely knew what she was doing.

After dinner, I came back to campus and spent time with my best friend Jillian. Jillian, my roommate Jen and I went to see a movie that was playing in the dining commons! We got chais too. Super relaxing yet fun night. After Jillian and I just chatted for about two hours. Love and cherish our talks so much.


Saturday morning I got up around 9:00. I caught up on blogs, ate some breakfast, watched YouTube videos, then went to Starbucks to do some homework & my devotionals with my friends Jillian and Jenna. After Starbucks, Jillian and I hit the gym for an upper body lift! Then we ate some food and chatted for a bit after. And fell asleep trying to do hw… hey it happens.

I got dinner with Jillian and Jenna, then went back to my room to get ready for the night. I went out with my friends and had a really fun time. 🙂


This girl >> Love my little Jillian to pieces. God gave me the greatest best friend. 


And this girl >> SUCH A GEM AND GENUINE GAL. So many great people in my life. 


I got up around 9:30 not physically feeling my best. (hey, it happens after a night out. But people, that is BALANCE. And that is LIVING. You aren’t always gonna feel A1, but that’s okay. Making those memories with friends is 10000% worth it. Trust me on that one!!)

I left school around 10:15 to grab a coffee and drive to work at GNC back home. I was covering someone’s shift and I definitely could use the money! I worked 12:00-6:00. After work, I came home and ate dinner (CHIPOTLEE!!), worked on some reading, and watched the Superbowl with my parents.


And you bet this bad boy was consumed. Seriously my fave flavor of all the So Delicious ice creams. SO YUMMY!

And that was what my weekend consisted of. Nice balance of fun + me time + work time. 🙂

Now tell me: 

Have you ever seen a psychic/palm reader/ anything of that nature?! 

Fav treat from your weekend? Mine was def that ice cream!

Have the best Monday peeeps. Go do something that’ll make ya smile! 🙂

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Setting Goals in a Healthy Way

January 2, 2017 in Balance

Happy 2017 guys!! I hope you all had a wonderful New Years Eve and had a great first day of the New year. 🙂

This NYE was super fun for me. I spent time with my best friends from both high school and college which was awesome! And it was just great to let loose with my friends, I haven’t done that in a while and it felt SO good. Definitely was much needed.

I know with the new year comes a whole lot of resolutions and a gym that’s jam packed. Throw in some new diets and juice cleanses in there and I think that sums up the month of January for ya! I don’t do the whole resolution stuff, but I do like setting goals! I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with goal setting as long as you do it in a healthy way.

I talked about some of my goals on here before, so I don’t want to list them all out again and bore you all. But I do want to focus on healthy ways to set goals, because often times we find ourselves in the black and white mindset. When we don’t achieve a goal, we are failures. And that is not how it should be!

So here are some of my little tips and tricks for setting goals in a healthy way, and I hope they help some of you! 🙂

  1. Be realistic with yourself. If you’re recovering from an eating disorder, don’t make it a goal to not have any bad body image days for the next month. Because chances are, you will probably not feel too great about yourselves some days. And that’s okay! Instead, change your goal from not having any bad body image days to using your coping skills on bad body image days.
  2. Don’t set such high expectations on yourself. It’s okay if you slip up. It’s okay if you don’t hit one of your goals for the week. Heck, we’re human!! We are gonna make mistakes. That’s just our nature. Don’t beat yourself up for them. Just keep trying you’re best and realize that is ALL you can do.
  3. Track your progress. If one of your goals was to stop body checking, write it in your journal when you went through a day without engaging in that behavior. If one of your goals was to become a better runner, keep track of your times. If one of your goals was to get stronger, take a picture of your muscles each week to see your progress! Ya get what I’m saying?!
  4. Use your goals as motivation! Not as a way to beat yourself up more and tear yourself down if you don’t achieve them. I love having goals because it gives me something to work towards. But if I don’t achieve one of them it’s not the end of the world. It just means it didn’t happen and God didn’t want it to happen! Remember to get rid of that all or nothing mindset. Find the healthy in-between.
  5. Leave room for yourself to mess up, leave room for yourself to fall down and for setbacks. Don’t expect perfection, because we all know that isn’t attainable.
  6. Don’t get obsessed with hitting your goals. If you’re goal was to go to yoga once a week and you have a ton of studying and homework to do, do the homework instead of the yoga. Don’t sacrifice other important things in your life (academics, schooling, friend & family time) just to hit your goals!


Be authentic. Your goals are specifically for YOU. Your progress is going to be different than someone else’s progress. Your successes and failures will be different… stay true to yourself. Be honest with yourself. Stay true to your values. If someone’s goal is to lose X amount of pounds, stay authentic to your own beliefs: that does NOT have to be your goal too. Own your beliefs, own your values, own your goals, own who YOU are. That is the most important thing. 

Thanks for reading guys! Hope you all have a great first Monday of 2017!

Now tell me: 

One goal you have?

What helps you with goal-setting? 

Have a lovely day friends!! Sending lots of love <3

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Christmas 2016

December 26, 2016 in About Me / Balance

Hi loves! I hope you all had a wonderful holiday. 🙂 I can’t believe another Christmas has passed! Going to do a little recap of my Christmas weekend so let’s get started!


Saturday morning I started my day with a workout:


2 mi run

10 min walk

4x 1 min sprint

2×10 chin ups

3×10 single leg push downs

2×10 tricep cable push down

2×10 cable leg kick back

3×10 cable upright row


30 sec static plank hold

10 knee to nose in plank each side

30 butterfly crunches

30 Russian twists

10 knee to ground

10 each side knew to opposite elbow

30 in and outs

30 eagle crunches

After my workout, I came back and ate some lunch. I talked to my best friend from school on the phone for about two hours while coloring (multi-tasking at its finest lol) then showered and got ready to head to my aunts house! Every Christmas Eve I go to my aunts house for dinner and I’ve been doing that for as long as I can remember!

Didn’t snap any pictures of the food, but I had a yummy lobster stuffing dish and salad for dinner. And two mini carrot cakes for dessert!! So tasty.


Wore this new red dress I got from Charlotte Russe to that party! 


Dad and I 🙂 


Sunday morning my family and I opened our presents. And of course there were some Lenny&Larry’s cookies in my stocking. 🙂

I don’t like to talk about gifts and such and everything I got, because I feel that takes away from the true meaning of the holiday.

But one thing I am super stoked about is my new Gymshark leggings. Guys- these things are so comfy. Like comfy to the point it doesn’t even feel like I’m wearing pants lol.

After opening presents, I had some oats for breakfast and a cup of coffee. I drank my coffee while writing down and coloring some bible verses in my new sketchbook. I LOVE doing this. Brings me closer to God and Jesus and helps me to relax and refocus my mind.

I went to my other aunts house for lunch and enjoyed some turkey, mashed potatoes, and corn! Then for dessert I had more coffee and 2 mini chocolate coconut bars. We went home around 3, and I came back and took a nap. (turkey makes me so sleepy haha) After my nap I took my pups for a walk with my momma then came back, ate some veggies and a bowl of cereal and watched YouTube videos. Later on in the night I sipped on kombucha, ate a snack, and watched Elf. First time watching it this year!

It was a great weekend with family, and it felt good to really just relax and unwind. Sometimes it’s really hard for me to do that, but it is SO needed for the mind, body, and soul. I have a lot to be thankful for, and this weekend just showed me that even more! I am thankful for my family, God & Jesus, my friends, and the life that recovery has given me. This weekend was full of yummy food, and I will refuse to feel guilty about it- this time comes once a year, and induling a bit will not change you or set you back in whatever goals you may have. Please please please remember that! God made cookies and cakes and pies so we can eat them, not stress about them and feel guilty over them!

Now tell me: 

Favorite thing you ate this weekend?! 

What are some of your Christmas traditions? 

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Trying to Please Everyone

November 28, 2016 in Balance

Hi all!! Happy Monday. So happy to be writing today. I do feel so refreshed while writing this (currently Sunday night and still at home)! This break has been a good one and I feel like it’s exactly what I needed. Time away, time to recharge, time to pray, time to do things for me. It was truly a Godsend.

Thanksgiving was so nice. I enjoyed the time with my family. I got to see my best friends from high school, get back into reading the Bible, go to yoga, get in some good workouts, and spend time with my family. And I am SO grateful I got to do all of that.

I know that my blog hasn’t been all rainbows and butterflies lately and all happy and joyful, but the thing is I’m not sorry for that. Because life isn’t always happy and perfect, and that’s what makes life beautiful. That bumps in the road that we overcome and those low points that we dig ourselves out of- those points are where we grow the most.

I did a lot of reflecting over break, a lot of journaling and writing to figure out more why I have been depressed lately and what I can do to actively fix it (besides seeing my therapist of course).

One of the things I realized is that I feel this overwhelming pressure to please people. And I want everyone to be happy with me- I never want to let others down. But the thing is, by doing this, I’m forgetting to please myself- and I’m letting myself down.

Here’s a piece from my journal Friday night:

“stop trying to please people. stop. if you don’t want to hang out with certain people you don’t have to. you need to start putting yourself first. its no wonder you cry so much lately because you put so much god damn pressure on yourself to please every person out there that you’re forgetting about pleasing yourself. Jeez what if you took the time you spent trying to please everyone into trying to do one nice thing for yourself? whether it’s once a week or a few times a week or one small thing a day. Color. Make yourself your favorite tea. Take yourself to yoga. Buy yourself a smoothie. Adventure to a new coffee shop. Adventure to Starbucks. Write. Write until your hand hurts. Work on you. You need that right now.” 

I really did a lot of reflecting on this. One of the problems with why I have been more sad lately is because I get 0 me time. I know myself, and when I don’t have time to reflect on how I’m doing/take time for self-care, my mental health takes a downward spiral. And I was thinking this break how I can take more time for myself in a positive way. Maybe instead of scrolling through the Instagram explore page for 10 minutes I can listen to my favorite playlist and color, or I can listen to part of a podcast and put my phone down and just be mindful in the moment. Instead of those 10 minutes on Instagram I can take 10 minutes to write out some of my favorite quotes or 10 minutes to pray. I know I need to do mindless things because that is SO healthy, but I also know that I need more time to pray and more time to do things that are good for my soul. And in college, you don’t have time for it all. So you have to sculpt it in somehow, and that’s one way I want to do it.

This also got me thinking about how I would have a bit more time if I listened to what I want to do rather than do what I feel like I should do. There is a HUGE difference there: because what I want to do needs to come first and I have to take that pressure off myself to do what I feel like I should do, because I know what is best for me at the end of the day. And for me personally, it’s hard to not try and please everyone. I hate when people are upset with me and I hate having to cancel a plan. But I need to realize that is okay. That is 100% completely okay. I don’t have to hang out with people that I don’t feel like hanging out with that day. I can get my food to go and eat in my room and watch Netflix. I don’t always need to have a plan with someone. I can take that time I have during a meal and use that as self-care time. And it is okay if someone gets a bit frustrated with me for doing that. I have to stop caring so much and just remember that I need to start caring more about myself and my own needs.


“When you say ‘yes’ to others, make sure you are not saying ‘no’ to yourself.” -Paulo Coelho 

It is okay to say no. It is 100%, completely and totally okay to say no sometimes. It is healthy to do that. I need to more cognizant of why I am saying yes to things: is it to please that person? Or is because I actually want to do or go wherever they are going? When I say yes to someone, am I actually saying no to myself?

I guess it scares me too saying no, because I don’t want people to not like me. That will always scare  me. Freshmen and sophomore year of high school I hardly had any friends because I was so trapped in my eating disorder. And to be honest it still scares me that the same scenario will happen again one day. I don’t have a lot of best friends. I have 3 people at college I consider my best friends. And I have a few other friends as well, but not best best friends. The thing is, my best friends will understand. They get me and know me- they want me to be happy. And I am so thankful for that in itself. And I pray to God that I meet a few more girls like that and who are like myself throughout this year too, and that God will open my eyes to some new souls I have never even met before.

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“Today I shall be doing something that I don’t normally do- I”m putting ME first.” 

We need to remember to put ourselves first. We aren’t selfish for that at ALL. We are smart for doing that. Because in order to be able to help others and spread that love we all have within us, we need to make sure that we are giving that love to ourselves.

Thank you all for the love and prayers you have given me these past 2 weeks. I truly cannot thank you enough and this blogging community for all you do for me. I am eternally grateful for each and every one of you!

Tell me any thoughts you have on this. I would love to hear them! And I would love to hear about your Thanksgivings too if ya wanna leave a comment about that. 🙂 

I hope you all have a wonderful Monday! Stay positive and remember that y’all can overcome anythingggg!!


Lyss <3

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