Am I doing enough?

September 19, 2016 in College

Hi guys and happy Monday! How were your weekends? Mine was filled with friends, Mexican food, a good workout with a friend, homework, and church! And not getting enough sleep, but oh whaleeee. I can always catch up on that. 🙂

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There’s been some stuff on my mind lately (when isn’t there lol). But stuff in regards to my blog and where I’m at right now.

I’ve talked about it with my mom, some close friends, and my best blogging friend Marina.

The question of “Am I doing enough” has been bugging me in regards to this blog. Over the summer, this blog was one of my top priorities. Putting up new posts, spreading the word about mental health, creating new videos, writing out long inspirational Instagram captions… you name it- I tried to do it all.

But now I kinda feel like I’m all over the place. Classes, homework, social time, clubs, volunteering, working out, errands, and trying to squeeze in time for sleep. I am not in any way trying to sound like my life is so busy or hard, because I have honestly been loving every second of it. I am still trying to post 3x a week and read all my other favorite bloggers, but it hasn’t been at the top of my priority list- and sometimes I feel guilty for that.

One of my biggest problems is trying to tackle too much. And when I can’t do it all, I feel disappointed in myself. I had every intention of writing a mental health Monday post last night, but I chatted with my best friend instead and checked in to see how he was doing. Sometimes things don’t go the way I plan, and I’m learning to accept that each and every day.

This question of am I doing enough has been bugging me too in regards to helping people through this blog. The main reason why I created this blog was to help people and show them that recovery from an eating disorder is possible. And lately I’ve been feeling like I’m not doing my job on that end. I try and touch on a recovery topic once a week, but it’s quite honestly been hard to sit down and write one of these posts. I need to get in the mood to write, and when I open my laptop I feel uninspired or just flat out exhausted. The problem with me is I always want to be doing more to help others. I want to be doing more to inspire others. And I never want to let people down. But this feeling that I haven’t been doing that has been pulling at my heart strings.

I am reminded by different messages and various people around campus that I am helping others through this blog, which is truly a Godsend and a reminder that I am doing the best that I can during this busy period in my life.

I know I will get out of this little blogging funk that I am going through right now. I know with time this question of if I’m doing enough will fade out. And until then, I need to keep reminding myself that I’m doing the best I can- with this blog and with everything else going on in my life. I have always been my own worst critic, and when I told my mom and friends about this feeling I’ve been having in regards to my blog lately; they immediately said that I was overthinking and that I am simply doing all I can. That reminder in itself is enough to get me back on my feet and out of my head.

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It’s funny how we are able to tear ourselves apart so well yet would never do that to someone else. We all just need that little reminder that we’re doing great and trying hard. That reminder is enough to keep us going.

Thanks for reading this little ramble guys. I am blessed for each and every one of you who read this blog! You make me smile so freakin’ big.

Now tell me, 

Have you ever felt like this in regards to blogging? 

How do you prevent negative self-talk? 

Have a happy Monday guys!!

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33 Comments

  • Reply Marina @ A Dancer's Live-It September 19, 2016 at 2:18 pm

    I remember when you told me about this! But no matter how many times you post, this blog is still going to be here and it’s still inspiring other women and helping them through difficult times. I know when I’m feeling uninspired to post or have literally zero ideas, I just won’t post! Quality over quantity love!! 🙂 If you feel like a blogging break is a good idea, then you should do it. You’re doing enough by being an amazing human being. <3 Love you always!
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    • Reply Alyssa September 26, 2016 at 3:16 am

      thank you so much Marina<3 I am so grateful for you and your constant support!! Love youuuu
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  • Reply Emily September 19, 2016 at 2:42 pm

    Dearest Lyss, Just do whatever God has called you to do. Don’t force it; just be who Jesus Christ has re-made you to be. You don’t have to post 5 times per week; just post from your heart and what you really want to share with others. LOVE YOU!
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    • Reply Alyssa September 26, 2016 at 3:16 am

      Em, you are so so sweet. Thank you for your love!

  • Reply Jen Caruso September 19, 2016 at 3:39 pm

    Lyss,
    YOU ARE DOING MORE THAN ENOUGH! Don’t doubt yourself, and don’t be too hard on yourself. (I know that is easier said than done). You have saved me in so many ways, I wouldn’t be here without you. You are juggling so much and giving so much to the world! Remember to take some time for YOU! You are so amazing and incredible beyond words. You an angel on earth <3 Sending so much love to you always. You are doing amazing! Keep on keeping on <3

    • Reply Alyssa September 26, 2016 at 3:16 am

      Aw Jen this truly made my week, I miss you and your smile girl!! Thank you so much, you are amazing <3 Love youuuu!!

  • Reply Stephanie cristadoro September 19, 2016 at 3:42 pm

    Sometimes i just sit in amazement at all you do😳 A blog well done😍

    • Reply Alyssa September 26, 2016 at 3:17 am

      Aw mom, you’re the best <3

  • Reply Lynne September 19, 2016 at 5:11 pm

    Absolutely, I can relate to your feelings. I have been feeling the same way for awhile, and have just taken a step back. Life is hectic and all can get a bit overwhelming at times. Just post when you feel it is right for you.
    We will all be here Lyss, I promise. You are such an inspiration and such an amazing woman, never forget that. x
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    • Reply Alyssa September 26, 2016 at 3:17 am

      Sometimes taking a step back can be the best thing we can do! Thank you for your love and support Lynne, you are such an amazing woman as well!

  • Reply Trine September 19, 2016 at 5:50 pm

    Hey babe, thanks for being so honest! Honestly, this is one of the reasons why I haven’t started a blog other than tumblr. I just feel like I wouldn’t be able to keep up and it would make my perfectionism crazy. However, you ARE doing enough? What even is “enough” honesty? That’s like saying what’s “healthy” or not. It’s different for everyone! Your readers are clearly people that care about you and hopefully understand there’s life to live out there (which you are, and you should be) and should be HAPPY that you’re not stuck to the computer all day every day. Try not to be so hard on yourself babe, I still love ya if you post every day of the week or one day a week :* xox

    • Reply Alyssa September 26, 2016 at 3:18 am

      Crazy how easy it is to be so hard on ourselves! Thank you for this Trine, Love you lots girl!!

  • Reply Claire @ My Pink & Green Life September 19, 2016 at 5:54 pm

    You know I identify with this so much! Finding the time to write while school is going on is hard enough, but I very much know that feeling when you sit down to write and the words just don’t come. Good writing can’t always be scheduled! So thank you for writing what’s on your mind instead of trying to force yourself to write something else. You remind me that my posts should always come from the heart. 🙂
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    • Reply Alyssa September 26, 2016 at 3:19 am

      It really is so hard! That’s true that good writing can’t always be scheduled, such a good reminder. Thank you so much for your support Claire <3

  • Reply Megan Hallier September 19, 2016 at 8:34 pm

    Wanting to do more to help others is definitely NOT a problem with you…it’s something I really admire. It’s so hard balancing school work and blogging. Not a lot of people could handle it so you are awesome even for trying.
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    • Reply Alyssa September 26, 2016 at 3:19 am

      Thank you Megan <3 It is so hard to balance school work and blogging... it is honestly exhausting at times!

  • Reply Ellie Pell September 19, 2016 at 11:36 pm

    A couple weeks ago I felt like I was all over the place in regards to my blog. I was posting a lot, trying to grow my blog like all the “good bloggers” do and also trying to learn everything about blogging. It was like a second full time job! Finally, I made a list of what I wanted in my professional and blogging life and understood what I should prioritize on when it comes to my blog and then not sweat the other stuff. Who cares if I forget to repin and repost everything? My blog is for the people who get something out of what I say. They will find my content if they are meant to. Create quality content first, don’t sweat the rest (especially if this is just a hobbby)
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    • Reply Alyssa September 26, 2016 at 3:20 am

      I think I need to follow your words girl. Creating quality content first and letting the rest work itself out. Thank you so much for your advice!!

  • Reply Kate September 20, 2016 at 12:37 am

    I feel you girl. I’ve recently had to reevaluate my priorities and vision for my blog. We only have so much time in a day and we have to divide it in a way that we believe gives our lives the most meaning. Right now, if I only have an hour to spare, it’s going to be spent with my husband or friends. I love blogging but I think I need to see it as a journey and less of a means to an end.
    I think you’re doing a fabulous job. Your light is SO bright!
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  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law September 20, 2016 at 6:55 am

    Girl, it sounds like you have to learn the same lesson as me! Like you, I am someone who wants to help EVERYONE – but just can’t do it all (oh no! I’m human! :P) and so I have to remind myself every single day that I can’t do it all.

    In fact, I have this quote as my phone screensaver to do just that;
    “I have learned that I will not change the world, Jesus will do that. I can however, change the world for one person.”
    ― Katie J. Davis
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    • Reply Alyssa September 26, 2016 at 3:21 am

      I am saving that quote to my phone NOW! Thank you for that Kristy!! <3 xoxo

  • Reply Alison @ Daily Moves and Grooves September 20, 2016 at 8:40 am

    Girl, you are not alone, and most importantly, you are NOT to blame for “not feeling it” or letting your blog fall on your list of priorities. I have definitely felt that guilt before, and I have lost sleep over trying to blog and read other people’s blogs. But I believe that your priority as a college student is your work, friends, family, and wellbeing, which doesn’t always involve blogging! Don’t forget that you can help people outside of your blog. For me, it can be so easy to pass up opportunities to connect with people in person because I’m thinking about blogging or I’m actually just blogging.
    You’re doing great, and take the time you need for yourself. We’ll be here and we’ll be supporting you no matter what ♥︎
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    • Reply Alyssa September 26, 2016 at 3:22 am

      thank you so much for your kind words Alison <3 truly means so much to me! I think not putting all my energy into the blog is best for now and is what's healthy for me, thank you for this reminder love!

  • Reply Caroline September 20, 2016 at 1:08 pm

    Oh yes, yes, yes. I totally identify with all of this. I’ve been in the same position lately where I’ve had zero time to blog or read others’ blogs because of other demands in my life including my own wellness, friends, family, and school. Priorities really are subject to change and it’s okay if blogging is a lower priority at the moment, because I’d rather read something from you once a week that you’re happy about and is coming from a peaceful place than something you’re not happy with every single day.
    Right now figuring out priorities has definitely been a little tough for me, but realizing that I need time to myself and for myself only has really hit me. Everyone has negative self-talk, but I think what matters is how we respond to it.
    Have a lovely weak, beautiful! <3
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    • Reply Alyssa September 26, 2016 at 3:23 am

      priorities are subject to change, and I have been reminding myself that lately. So true that we have control over how we respond to negative self talk… thank you for your encouraging words girl! hope school has been going well <3

  • Reply Taylor September 20, 2016 at 3:41 pm

    I totally hear ya girl. I feel the same way often. It is hard to keep up. I love blogging and feel bad when I can’t get posts done in a timely manner, but at the end of the day, it is my blog and I’m trying my best. I think the important thing is balance. We all have a lot of other stuff going on in our lives, and sometimes the blog has to take a backseat so you can do the more important things like school, work, see friends and family, etc. I think you are doing an amazing job balancing it all so don’t be so hard on yourself. xoxo
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    • Reply Alyssa September 26, 2016 at 3:23 am

      balance really is so important. you’re right- sometimes the blog does have to take a backseat and that is okay!! thank you so much for your sweet words love <3

  • Reply Sarah September 20, 2016 at 4:21 pm

    Oh girl please don’t be so hard on yourself. You are living your life and that in itself is so inspiring! You have come such a long way in the time I have “known” you. Proud of you! Just keep reminding yourself that by taking care of yourself you are serving as a model for others.
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    • Reply Alyssa September 26, 2016 at 3:24 am

      aw girl thank you so much <3 thank you for your sweet words and constant support, i miss you!! <3

  • Reply Heather @ Polyglot Jot September 21, 2016 at 1:26 am

    You have been doing a great job and putting out great content! We all have busier seasons of life and guess what, the people who matter and those that want to support you will still be here when you are able to post. Take care of you! <3
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    • Reply Alyssa September 26, 2016 at 3:24 am

      thank you so much Heather… truly means a lot to me!! I am grateful to have you as a blogger friend <3

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