A Letter to my Future Self

November 25, 2016 in College

Hi loves and happy Friday!! For my U.S. friends, I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving. I hope you were able to spend time with your loved ones and enjoyed some yummy food in the presence of the ones that we care about the most! 

With that, I thought there would be no better time to plan for what comes next. As a college student, I can totally relate to the financial struggles and just the struggles in general that college brings. It was hard enough figuring out where to go and what to study, but eventually, you have to pay for it. A huge part of our success is just understanding our options, and anything that will save time and money is totally worth thinking about. It’s never too soon to research and plot out your future plans, especially seeing as the average student leaves college with over thirty thousand in debt. If you find yourself approaching graduation and you have student loans, start your research! Companies like Earnest, exist to help recent graduates save thousands by refinancing their student loans, and taking the time to understand your individual needs will help you down the road.

There are a lot of things I have learned thus far after my first two semesters (and almost 3!) of college, and I would like to share them with you all in this future letter I wrote to myself. 🙂 College is a tough time, and I am always searching for advice to help get through the busy seasons of life. I hope my advice can help some of you! 

A letter to my 23 year old self…

Hi Lyss. 🙂 By now, you’re probably in grad school going on to keep chasing your dreams of being a therapist. But you also may be off traveling or trying to become a certified yoga instructor, because you’ve always wanted to do that too. If you’re in grad school, hopefully you’re in the city?! Because you love love love the city. It really gives you life. 

Can you believe that you graduated college last year? Still weird thinking of that. College taught you a lot. Gosh was freshmen year a funny time. You definitely were a part of that crazy freshmen year party stage. Oh boy am I glad you learned that you don’t have to go out and drink every weekend. I’m glad you eventually learned that you don’t have to find your self-worth in guys and that it is 100% okay to be alone and rely on yourself. How you feel about yourself comes from within- not from the validation of others. 

Freshmen year friends. Some of them stay, some of them go. Gosh did that hit you hard towards the beginning of sophomore year. It’s okay thought to drift away from people. Sometimes when you grow and you better yourself, friendships fade. That is okay- that is totally okay. You’ll meet new people, you’ll develop new friendships with people that will help you grow and inspire you to be better. 

After the first semester of freshmen year, boy did you really stay away from them boys. Lol. You went through a huge phase of self-growth on your own. And I’m glad you did that Lyss, because you needed it. You needed to stop looking for a guy to be with and you needed to stop searching for a boyfriend. I’m glad that instead of searching for the love of another boy, you found the love of God and Jesus Christ. 

You loved yoga even more (if that is possible), met three new great and awesome peeps who inspired you to be a better individual, and you kept up with your blog. You grew- a lot. And you grew by yourself, for yourself. 

Sophomore year came quick. You roomed with one of your best friends, and were so strong headed in the fact that you were fully capable of doing life by yourself and doing life with God. You were still in the anti-boy phase and didn’t care about meeting someone. But that first night of college on move-in day you met this little ginger kid who was sitting across the room. You didn’t think anything of it, until the day after when your roommate said that this ginger was asking about you and was saying how cute you were. But typical you just brushed it aside. The fear of getting hurt was wayyyy too strong for a guy in your life. 

I had a lot of goals going into college. Keep up my grades. Stay healthy both mentally and physically, not let food rule my life or how I look, maintain my recovery, become a better person each and every day. School has always been important to me, it always will be important to me. But balancing school, clubs, my mental health, friendships. Wow- college showed me that was pretty freakin’ hard. But you did it. The reminders on your iPhone was a huge help. Same with coffee shops. And coffee. Those always helped you focus more and feel at peace. 

So fast forward a bit, that fear of having someone else in your life. Of not being able to progress with your goals, of getting hurt. Wellll… you tried and conquered those fears. You let someone else in, and you got a boyfriend. Last thing you would have ever expected going into your sophomore year. 

Your boyfriend taught you a lot. He taught you that someone can love you- a fear you had for a long long time. That someone can love you despite your rugged past and the little battles that your past brings… that someone can and will love you unconditionally. He taught you to have fun, to let go of the little things and to not sweat the small stuff. He showed you how important loyalty was, and reminded you each and every day how blessed you were to have met someone so incredible- someone who cares about you and will be there for you thick and thin. 

So hopefully now, at 23; you’re still pursuing your dreams. Your still keeping up with this blog, your still doing what makes you soul happy. You are still doing yoga, writing, helping others, volunteering, spending time with the people who make you smile from ear to ear. If you are struggling, you know that just like any other struggle you once had you will overcome it. If you are happy, you know to thank God and the amazing people in your life each and every day for that happiness you feel and that spark that ignites your soul. 

Now tell me: 

What would you tell yourself in 3 years? 

What was one big lesson you learned from your sophomore year of college? 

Have a happy happy Friday loves. If you are Black Friday shopping, be safe out there! And try to save some of your money, even though all these big deals just make us wanna spend it alllll! I hope you have a blessed day and weekend. 🙂 So grateful for you all!

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18 Comments

  • Reply Emily November 25, 2016 at 3:04 pm

    Oh man. I love this. This is so sweet, and this is such a good idea. It’s so wonderful to look back and think about what God has taught you. To see that you found the only love you REALLY needed in Jesus Christ and God, and then the Lord brought along a boyfriend is really precious to me Lyss. <3

    In 3 years… Wow. I'm going to have to think about what I would tell myself. <3
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    • Reply Alyssa November 30, 2016 at 2:57 pm

      thank you so much em <3 I thought it was such a clever idea from Jamie too!

  • Reply Joyce @ The Hungry Caterpillar November 25, 2016 at 3:18 pm

    This is a fun idea for a post, Lyss. It is a good idea for college folks to be thinking about finances and how to pay off debt, if they choose to think it. And this also seems to be a really good opportunity to reflect on some of the choices you made in the past year.
    I’m trying to remember anything I learned my sophomore year of college. I remember I took a class in creative nonfiction, which ended up being what I’m now studying in grad school.
    It’ll be fun to re-read this in three years. 🙂
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    • Reply Alyssa November 30, 2016 at 2:58 pm

      oh that’s cool that’s what you ended up studying in grad school! funny how things work!

  • Reply Lynne November 25, 2016 at 5:52 pm

    Happy weekend Lyss 🙂 and thank you for sharing this amazing heartfelt post. x
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    • Reply Alyssa November 30, 2016 at 2:58 pm

      hope you had a lovely weekend!

  • Reply Megan Hallier November 25, 2016 at 7:04 pm

    This is such a cool idea. I wish my future self could write to me right now and give me some advice! It’s so scary thinking about the future after college, I feel so lost and unsure where to go next 🙁
    I’m hoping God will lead me in the right direction.
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    • Reply Alyssa November 30, 2016 at 2:59 pm

      it is so scary! but the future always figures itself out- that’s what I remind myself. And God has a plan for each and every one of us!

  • Reply Stephanie Leduc November 25, 2016 at 11:33 pm

    That was a nice letter to yourself! I’m sure you will read that in three years and be able to see how much you have grown since this very letter.
    I think I would tell myself to keep pushing for higher things, that a bachelor’s in university and a 9-5 job will never fulfill me and that if I haven’t started a masters yet, it’s right about the time. I would also tell myself to go travel non stop, even if that means needing to quit a job, even if it means letting everything go and just going for it. I would tell myself to go with the motions, because I always have and it works out quite well, with a little determination :).
    Now, I’m getting a tad carried away with my comment, you gave me a pretty interesting blog idea!! 😀
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    • Reply Alyssa November 30, 2016 at 2:59 pm

      cool how you mentioned traveling- because I feel like I need to do that too! And adventure 🙂 thanks for your input on this!

  • Reply steph November 26, 2016 at 2:44 am

    Loved this very fun to do its hard to imagine yourself next week let alone 3 years! Nice post and had a great thanksgiving with you!!

    • Reply Alyssa November 30, 2016 at 3:00 pm

      thanks mom 🙂 love ya

  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law November 26, 2016 at 8:24 pm

    This is such a great letter, girl! You need to print it out and keep it somewhere where you know you won’t forget it!
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    • Reply Alyssa November 30, 2016 at 3:00 pm

      that’s such a good idea to do that!

  • Reply Melanie November 27, 2016 at 11:37 pm

    I love this idea. I wrote a letter to my future self this past summer when I was in treatment for my ED. I talked about how hard I was working in treatment and how I deserved to be healthy and happy; also about how proud I was of myself for taking a leap of faith and accepting help. It will be so cool to read that letter in a year <3
    Sophomore year of college… I definitely learned that I am not perfect and never will be. I'm going to fail at things and that's okay. Failure has helped me grow in a lot of ways!

    • Reply Alyssa November 30, 2016 at 3:01 pm

      I did that in treatment too. It is so cool to read that letter later on!

  • Reply Kate November 28, 2016 at 2:06 am

    LOOOVE this. In fact, I can’t wait to read your response to this in a few years. It’s crazy how much can change in a year. I think it is wonderful to be able to go back and hear that old voice.
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  • Reply Alyssa November 30, 2016 at 3:03 pm

    it really is crazy to see how much has changed in a year! even looking at pictures from last year is weird

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