Hi loves and happy Friday!! For my U.S. friends, I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving. I hope you were able to spend time with your loved ones and enjoyed some yummy food in the presence of the ones that we care about the most!
With that, I thought there would be no better time to plan for what comes next. As a college student, I can totally relate to the financial struggles and just the struggles in general that college brings. It was hard enough figuring out where to go and what to study, but eventually, you have to pay for it. A huge part of our success is just understanding our options, and anything that will save time and money is totally worth thinking about. It’s never too soon to research and plot out your future plans, especially seeing as the average student leaves college with over thirty thousand in debt. If you find yourself approaching graduation and you have student loans, start your research! Companies like Earnest, exist to help recent graduates save thousands by refinancing their student loans, and taking the time to understand your individual needs will help you down the road.
There are a lot of things I have learned thus far after my first two semesters (and almost 3!) of college, and I would like to share them with you all in this future letter I wrote to myself. 🙂 College is a tough time, and I am always searching for advice to help get through the busy seasons of life. I hope my advice can help some of you!
A letter to my 23 year old self…
Hi Lyss. 🙂 By now, you’re probably in grad school going on to keep chasing your dreams of being a therapist. But you also may be off traveling or trying to become a certified yoga instructor, because you’ve always wanted to do that too. If you’re in grad school, hopefully you’re in the city?! Because you love love love the city. It really gives you life.
Can you believe that you graduated college last year? Still weird thinking of that. College taught you a lot. Gosh was freshmen year a funny time. You definitely were a part of that crazy freshmen year party stage. Oh boy am I glad you learned that you don’t have to go out and drink every weekend. I’m glad you eventually learned that you don’t have to find your self-worth in guys and that it is 100% okay to be alone and rely on yourself. How you feel about yourself comes from within- not from the validation of others.
Freshmen year friends. Some of them stay, some of them go. Gosh did that hit you hard towards the beginning of sophomore year. It’s okay thought to drift away from people. Sometimes when you grow and you better yourself, friendships fade. That is okay- that is totally okay. You’ll meet new people, you’ll develop new friendships with people that will help you grow and inspire you to be better.
After the first semester of freshmen year, boy did you really stay away from them boys. Lol. You went through a huge phase of self-growth on your own. And I’m glad you did that Lyss, because you needed it. You needed to stop looking for a guy to be with and you needed to stop searching for a boyfriend. I’m glad that instead of searching for the love of another boy, you found the love of God and Jesus Christ.
You loved yoga even more (if that is possible), met three new great and awesome peeps who inspired you to be a better individual, and you kept up with your blog. You grew- a lot. And you grew by yourself, for yourself.
Sophomore year came quick. You roomed with one of your best friends, and were so strong headed in the fact that you were fully capable of doing life by yourself and doing life with God. You were still in the anti-boy phase and didn’t care about meeting someone. But that first night of college on move-in day you met this little ginger kid who was sitting across the room. You didn’t think anything of it, until the day after when your roommate said that this ginger was asking about you and was saying how cute you were. But typical you just brushed it aside. The fear of getting hurt was wayyyy too strong for a guy in your life.
I had a lot of goals going into college. Keep up my grades. Stay healthy both mentally and physically, not let food rule my life or how I look, maintain my recovery, become a better person each and every day. School has always been important to me, it always will be important to me. But balancing school, clubs, my mental health, friendships. Wow- college showed me that was pretty freakin’ hard. But you did it. The reminders on your iPhone was a huge help. Same with coffee shops. And coffee. Those always helped you focus more and feel at peace.
So fast forward a bit, that fear of having someone else in your life. Of not being able to progress with your goals, of getting hurt. Wellll… you tried and conquered those fears. You let someone else in, and you got a boyfriend. Last thing you would have ever expected going into your sophomore year.
Your boyfriend taught you a lot. He taught you that someone can love you- a fear you had for a long long time. That someone can love you despite your rugged past and the little battles that your past brings… that someone can and will love you unconditionally. He taught you to have fun, to let go of the little things and to not sweat the small stuff. He showed you how important loyalty was, and reminded you each and every day how blessed you were to have met someone so incredible- someone who cares about you and will be there for you thick and thin.
So hopefully now, at 23; you’re still pursuing your dreams. Your still keeping up with this blog, your still doing what makes you soul happy. You are still doing yoga, writing, helping others, volunteering, spending time with the people who make you smile from ear to ear. If you are struggling, you know that just like any other struggle you once had you will overcome it. If you are happy, you know to thank God and the amazing people in your life each and every day for that happiness you feel and that spark that ignites your soul.
Now tell me:
What would you tell yourself in 3 years?
What was one big lesson you learned from your sophomore year of college?
Have a happy happy Friday loves. If you are Black Friday shopping, be safe out there! And try to save some of your money, even though all these big deals just make us wanna spend it alllll! I hope you have a blessed day and weekend. 🙂 So grateful for you all!
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