A Healthy Mindset During a Workout

October 17, 2016 in Balance / Recovery

Hi guys and happy Monday! I hope you all had a lovely weekend and got to have some fun. 🙂

Today I want to talk about working out. Something I talk about a lot, but something that so many people struggle with- finding that balance with working out and not letting it dictate your whole life.


“Workout because you love your body, not because you hate it.” 

The other day during my workout I was thinking a lot about this. I was really focused on my mindset during the workout and what my intentions were.

My inner thoughts during that workout were a whole lot different than they would have been a few years ago. Here are some things I noticed:

  1. I was compassionate with myself. Instead of killing myself and forcing myself to do an extra rep, I stopped when I finished my reps and took a breather.
  2. I talked with a friend during a workout. I used to hate working out with people because if they talked to me, I felt like I was losing precious workout time. Now I love having someone there with me. It makes working out so much more fun.
  3. I didn’t feel like doing a lot of cardio that day, so I didn’t force myself to do a lot of cardio. Simple as that. I walked on an incline and did a 1 minute sprint and that was it.
  4. Just because I wasn’t dripping sweat, I still felt satisfied with my workout. And I didn’t make myself do more because I wasn’t sweating a lot.
  5.  I focused on myself. I didn’t look over at the girl next to me on the treadmill and increase my speed to her speed. I did what was best for me and what was best for my body.
  6. I made time to stretch. Instead of doing abs until the minute I left the gym, I set aside time for stretching and time to wind down after my workout.
  7. I didn’t dread my workout before hand, and I wasn’t anxiously looking at the clock during it to see when it would be over. I enjoyed my time being there and I enjoyed what I was doing.
  8. I had fun. This is the biggest difference between my workouts now and my workouts before. I enjoy what I’m doing. I don’t kill myself in the gym. I push myself but I don’t force myself to do anything that doesn’t feel comfortable for my body. I do what feels best for me and focus on myself.


“Change your mindset. Workouts should be fun.” 

Working out should be fun. But chances are if you’re forcing yourself to get on that treadmill and run for God knows how long or if you’re forcing yourself to burn a certain amount of calories, you’re going to dread what you’re doing and be absolutely miserable. I’ve been there, and when we workout in that way: it flat out sucks. The gym and working gain a whole lot more power than they should. All a workout should be is something that is good for our bodies and makes us feel good. It shouldn’t be a contest, it shouldn’t be something we dread or something we feel like we should do every single day, it shouldn’t be something we do to burn calories or something we feel like we need to do to be able to eat dinner: working out should be fun for us. Working out should be something we do because we love our bodies, not because we hate them or are trying to change them.

When you workout, really focus on your mindset. Focus on your intentions and focus on why you are actually there. Listen in to how your body feels, and listen in to your self-talk. Make sure it is positive and compassionate.

That’s it for today’s post guys!

Now tell me: 

What is one thing you do to have a healthy relationship with exercise? 

Do you like working out with people or alone? 

Hope you all have a happy Monday and a good start to your week! <3 xoxo

Lyss 🙂

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  • Reply Claire at My Pink & Green Life October 17, 2016 at 1:52 pm

    I really like working out with other people as opposed to by myself! I also think it’s so important to remember that just because you’re not dripping sweat, doesn’t mean it wasn’t a good workout. I’m taking a ballet class this term and while it might not get my heart pumping the entire time, it’s definitely a good workout and I’m always super sore afterwards!
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    • Reply Alyssa October 25, 2016 at 4:49 pm

      yesss- I used to be stuck in the mindset that if I wasn’t sweaty, my workout wasn’t enough! Thanks for reading Claire 🙂

  • Reply Marina @ A Dancer's Live-It October 17, 2016 at 2:43 pm

    LOVE THIS. My workouts used to consist of “chaining myself” to a treadmill every day and thinking that running intensely for 30 minutes was going to help me or make me happy. NOT. I usually like working out alone, but I like going with my friends on Saturdays because we always end up doing something after! 🙂 I like to focus on myself during my workout too. But I don’t have worry about comparing myself because when I’m at the gym there’s usually big beefy guys around me so I’m like nahhh. 😉 I just listen to my body. 🙂
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    • Reply Alyssa October 25, 2016 at 4:47 pm

      Oooh that sounds like so much fun! Focusing on ourselves during a workout is def super important. Next time we hang we gotta hit up a yoga class or something! Then get brunch of course 🙂

  • Reply Michelle October 17, 2016 at 5:42 pm

    I love going for walks and hikes with other people because it’s a great time to just be together and talk without other distractions. In the past, I liked to go for walks and runs alone because I felt other people would slow me down and prevent me from getting a good enough workout and burning enough calories. I also love yoga classes because of the community and the energy in the room is just amazing! Everyone is so positive and encouraging 🙂 I like to remember to check in with my mindset and thoughts before and during a workout to make sure my thoughts are positive with the right intentions.

    • Reply Alyssa October 25, 2016 at 4:44 pm

      the yoga community is amazinggg!! I am so thankful to be apart of such a positive group- and for me yoga is so much more than just a workout. It teaches me a lot about myself 🙂

  • Reply Alison @ Daily Moves and Grooves October 17, 2016 at 10:51 pm

    This is a relationship changer with working out, for SURE. I found that my body actually became stronger and fitter when I stopped running into the ground all the time and started doing what felt good and what was FUN! Great post as always, Less ♥︎
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    • Reply Alyssa October 25, 2016 at 4:43 pm

      thank you so much Alison <3 means so much to me!

  • Reply Ellie Pell October 17, 2016 at 11:43 pm

    To make sure I have a healthy relationship with exercise, I run with people and don’t wear my watch. I honestly usually don’t care about splits, but when I am not feeling so hot, I get down on myself if I am “slower” than I think I should be. The watch comes off and I run wherever and stop whenever. I take in the views, I talk and sometimes I walk. Anything goes!
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    • Reply Alyssa October 25, 2016 at 4:38 pm

      I love that you just run without your watch b/c I feel we can get so fixated on that number! Thanks for your input on this Ellie!

  • Reply Emily October 18, 2016 at 2:25 am

    I totally agree with Ellie above too that I don’t wear a watch anymore while I run. Some people aren’t affected so much by numbers, but I get SO obsessed by them, so I just gave my watch away. Now runs are so fun, and I can actually focus on the scenery and whether or not I really want to run 4 miles or 2 miles.

    And I used to feel so guilty about skipping any parts in a video workout, but I realized that this was such an unhealthy mindset. It wasn’t a joyful mindset, and Jesus Christ redeemed us and has given us the joy of the LORD not terrifying fear anymore!
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    • Reply Alyssa October 25, 2016 at 4:36 pm

      I don’t wear a watch or use a fitbit! I think just working out without focusing on the numbers is so much more fun! 🙂

  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law October 18, 2016 at 2:43 am

    This is such a brilliant post! For me, exercise is just a matter of keeping fit to keep up with my life – and that’s about it! I’ll never have abs or a fitness model body because that’s not how I’m built (or to be honest… that’s not what I’m willing to be a slave to in order to achieve) and that’s okay!

    I used to only ever workout alone but now I LOVE working out with others. My Zumba classes are the highlight of my week and I wish I could do them daily, haha!
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    • Reply Alyssa October 25, 2016 at 4:29 pm

      love that you recognize that you don’t need to have abs kristy… most people just naturally don’t! Zumba seems like fun- I’ll have to give it another shot!

  • Reply Megan Hallier October 18, 2016 at 5:49 am

    This is great! One thing I’ve done to develop a healthier relationship with exercise is to actually not do a workout if I am not feeling up to it or avoiding ones that I actually hate.
    I used to force myself to do countless pilates videos which I absolutely hated. I have no idea how I had the motivation to do it.
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    • Reply Alyssa October 25, 2016 at 4:27 pm

      Forcing ourselves to do workouts we hate makes working out awful! So glad we both don’t do that anymore Megan

  • Reply Cayanne Marcus @healthyezsweet October 18, 2016 at 3:27 pm

    This post really makes me question how I truly feel about working out with others VS alone because I’ve always been of the belief that I prefer exercising alone for the serenity of it, but now I’m wondering if that was ED motivated. Maybe I’ll give partner workouts a try sometime soon and see if I enjoy it now 🙂
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    • Reply Alyssa October 25, 2016 at 4:26 pm

      yes you should!! they are truly a lot of fun 🙂

  • Reply Heather @ Polyglot Jot October 19, 2016 at 12:06 am

    This is great! I enjoy working out alone becuase its my alone time after work. I have to remind myself that being totally sweaty doesnt always happen. and if it doesnt, it doesnt mean that i didnt get a good workout in
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    • Reply Alyssa October 25, 2016 at 4:26 pm

      yes so true! sometimes we really just don’t sweat as much and that’s okay!

  • Reply kat October 19, 2016 at 9:30 pm

    LOVE THIS girlie!! <3 Seeing as how exercise addiction was my ED, this has been a longggggg road for me. For so long I worked out for 1 reason – to lose weight. Then I no longer cared about the weight, but worked out because I felt that I "had to", Then it became a punishment – I would workout because I ate pizza or had a cookie. It took YEARS to create a healthy mindset, so kudos to you for being so positive and on the right track!!
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    • Reply Alyssa October 25, 2016 at 4:24 pm

      thank you so much Kat <3 and kudos to you girl for kicking that unhealthy relationship with exercise!!

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